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I have to do THIS because the bimbo from last week didn't get the radiologist like I asked her too! I could have all this handled in the ultrasound last Monday!! Oh, no, this is just a follow-up! she says. Yep! A follow-up to lumps! Doi!!!! The first sample was sub-optimal for those that may not remember. Now that the lumps have had time to grow bigger, the radiologist will have a bigger target!!
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I'm keeping good thoughts for all the sisters who are having biopsies & tests this week or very soon. Claire ~ Barb58 ~ Juliet ~ barbe1958 ~ I hope I haven't missed anybody.
I remember the dispair of being dx'ed & having to wait for my Oncotype DX score during the festive holiday season & preparing for Rads and the unknown. So, thank you, E, for the reminder to check out the "Just Diagnosed" thread to help our new sisters going through this terror with hugs of hope.
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I'm getting things around to take a few days off to head north to have a family Christmas with DD#2 & grandchildren. I'm leaving Thursday and will be back Dec 6. I'll miss everyone, but I know the few days away will help me clear my mind. With the little ones keeping me busy I know I won't have much time to think of much but toys, games, & playing!
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have a wonderful time valjean
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Have a wonderful time, Val.
Keeping all in my thoughts who are going for tests!!
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Hi Ladies,
I am thinking about all of you and those who have tests this week--Barb58, Barb 1958, Claire and Juliet-hope everything goes well. What a great idea to think up a pocket party!
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For the Barbs and Claire I will be thinking of you gals and make room for me in the pockets.
I have been wanting to pull some OT in the shop but I have been having some issues with my muscles by my right armpit. This has been off and on since the exchange. It started when I went to pound some chicken breasts out and after a few weeks it let up. I still mash taters old school and did a huge pot for Thanksgiving. Now its really screaming at me. Has anyone had this problem and when does it go away. If I need to swing a hammer or tweek some parts I have to be able to this without the pain or they wont let me weld. I really miss it. I like my job now but I do miss being in the trenches as well. I know it sounds crazy but I love what I did and that is in my blood. It really upsets me when I think Im past a certain point an bam Im not. UGH will this ever end. I just want to be able to swing a hammer and smack parts into place if I need to. Let alone lift and pull tubs around. This sucks!! This is the cleanest my hands have been in years. I miss the grease under my nails, the sounds of the machines, the smoke, and the melting of the filler metal. Ok enough of the pity party for me! Thanks for the mini rant. I know its sounds crazy that Im whining like this but its so hard for me to just be sometimes. I am a doer and am having troubles not being able to be a doer and be a thinker instead.
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I am so glad none of these have any calories, please everyone have one, they are finger licking good!
They are a lot yummier than the oatmeal sitting in front of me. Whose got the lattes??? Peppermint mocha latte for me!!
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Oh, Claire, they are my favorites! So much better than oatmeal. You really know how to throw a party. I have an iPad now. I don't seem to be able to copy and paste pics with it, don't even have the tree icon any more when I am posting or cappucinos would be on me. I'll be hanging out in both your pockets this morning sending out all the good wishes and thoughts possible. Good luck!
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I'm wondering if anyone here has had the hyst/ooph done and could tell me how their recovery time was. I keep thinking about all of the things I still need to do for Christmas and wondering if I'll be depressed from the instant menopause.
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Paula, let's put a different spin on this. You have moved to the "corner office" from the typing pool and now get to wear the clean clothes! Of course you miss your old job and the tasks you did then, but you are older now and deserve the white collar job!! Why don't you find a hobby that you enjoy and use it to get your creative juices flowing in another direction. Needlepoint? Crochet???
Barb, I had a HUGE mental break with my hysterectomy years ago. I had NO idea my funk was caused by the surgery! I ended up at the ER afraid for my life!! I hate to scare you, but it can hit hard and fast. I had NEVER heard of the issues I was dealing with before I had my surgery so I was very frightened. I thought I was losing my mind! If you are under the care of a doctor for your moods, let him know what you are about to do. An adjustment in your medication may be all that's needed. I've also heard of women who sail right through it all without a hiccup. You just don't know which way you'll react until you do it. Just knowing ahead could ease your fear though....
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Valjean, Enjoy the early holiday time. Maybe there will be "just a little" snow, enough to make the woods look pretty.
Paula66, You have not found the "new normal" of your new job yet. (Oh, I cannot believe I just wrote that! Just smack me!) Please take it easy with that arm. That pain is trying to tell you something. I had some arm pain and SNB twinges for about a year with just a lumpectomy. They pretty much rearranged your whole chest, so it needs a longer time to settle down. You don't want to get inflamation, which will send the fluids right in and your lymph channels aren't what they used to be. Do not risk getting lymphadema! If you can't find someone to pitch in and mash those taters for you next time, you might have to buy them in the box. (Oh, I cannot believe I wrote that either.)
I think we all have that urge to get back to our lives just as they were before B/C, to prove to ourselves that it hasn't beaten us or changed us, but sometimes we have to make a few concessions. Above all, there is no rushing the recovery. It just does not work.
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Hello ladies, I just found this site. I've been battling Stage IV breast cancer for 5 years. When I was diagnosed my family prayed for 5 years and here we are. The battle gets tougher everday as I am sure you all know. I've taken so much chemo that my heart is getting really pissed off and wants to stop pumping. I've done so well up until now with the mental game. The depression seems to be taking me over and I can't escape it. The worst is that I'm just tired of being nice. I'm tired of sharing painful parts of my life with people who just want the horrific details. I'm tired of people asking me how I'm doing when I know they don't really want to know. They want me to say everything is wonderful.... well it ain't. I know this is a horrible introduction to the group but I have felt so angry and alone this week I just desperately needed to get it out. I promise to be more positive.
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It is okay to feel that way, and this is a good place to get it out. We all "get" it. I think elimar is right it's especially hard at this time of year with everyone else seemingly going about enjoying and celebrating.
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Oh, and abuie, to see I get how you feel, read my tag line. People shouldn't ask how you feel if they can't handle the answer IMO.
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ABuie- No apologies needed. Venting is an important function of this group and we all feel the need to "speak the truth" from time to time. There are times that positive just "don't get it done". Know that we are there with you and post anytime regardless of how you are feeling. Hugs.
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Hi I am new here. I wanted to know if anyone has ever had nodules in the lung after Breast Cancer? I am 46 I have been clear a year from Triple Neg Breast Cancer. Now from a trip to hospital i have found out a have nodules. unknown yet how many or anything. Awaiting for my onco to read everything. I dont think i can go thru this again.
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ABuie vent away. Thats what we are here for. Do it any time. Oh and welcome to the board!
Same for you too Carrie welcome.
Eli and Barb thanks for the advice. I am trying to find the way to a different state of mind. But its been a ride. And box taters are out of the question, lol.
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ABuie, Welcome! For various reasons, the non-B/C community often has no idea of how to interact with someone who has B/C. That goes for me too, a few years ago. I wasn't any different than my awkward friends. Here, in this online community, we all speak the same language (with maybe just a few different dialects.) You will find understanding here.
I don't want to sound like a pusher-woman, but are you taking meds for anxiety and/or depression? If not, ask a doc about getting something before you get taken over. If you already are taking something, maybe the doc needs to make a change to get you feeling better. Last, but not least, having those feelings are totally normal when cancer is so random, so unfair, and fights so dirty, and the nasty chemo is the best they are able to do for you.
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First, welcome to ABuie and SO SO glad you found us. We are all ears when it comes to venting. You won't scare us or bore us so please get it out! I am so, so sorry for your pain. Please know you are in my thoughts, and many hugs are headed your way.
I see Claire has done well with the pocket parties! I have missed you guys, but for various reasons just have not been posting. You gals mean more to me than you know. You have lifted my heart and sprirts, made me laugh and cry. You have brought me friendship and joy. I want you to know how very much you mean to me. I will try not to take such long absences.
My thyroid biopsy was clear, so good news there. Now my potassium is elevated and my PCP is very concerned. He ordered a new blood test this morning to see if it is still elevated. I asked him how elevated, and he said enough to be potentially dangerous. Oh boy. I have been having severe neck pain...chronic but worse lately. I wonder if the Arimidex makes it worse? So, he has ordered PT for my neck. Also horrible insomnia. Now he wants me to go to behavioral counseling for that! So, I see my RO Thursday and that was my only appointment for the rest of the year. Not anymore! I have to see the therapist Dec. 5th and my PCP again the 30th plus PT in between. Ladies I know you all understand how frustrated I am. Now just waiting for him to call with the results of the blood work this morning to see about that potassium. This has me a bit worried.
Even if I don't post, please know you are in my heart and I think of you all daily! I am thinking of all you having procedures and wishing for positive outcomes for everyone, always.
Love and big hugs to all.
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Hello, Carrie2010! You are in the too-soon-to-tell-but-not-too-soon-to-worry place, and I am sorry to hear that. Lung nodules are not that uncommon and may not necessarily be cancer, even in someone who had B/C. Of course, you will now have to follow it up fully, and just having to do that is a pain in the butt. If it won't add to your freak-out, check with "Dr. Google" or do a search on this site with lung nodule as a key word. Here's a small, but recent thread, that asks your same question:
http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/106/topic/777593
(Cut and paste if link doesn't work.)
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Y'now its the little things in life
I'M GETTING MY PORT OUT DEC 8TH!!!! SEVENTEEN MONTHS--TIME TO GO BYE-BYE!!! HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY DANCE!!! WHAT A GREAT CHRISTMAS PRESENT TO ME!!!!!!
Thyroid behaving itself, cholestorol down to 148 (thank you oatmeal!!) CT scans were all clear. Protein and WBC were low so she told me with that cholestorol I should go out and eat steak tonight. Yes ma'am!!!
Get me off the ceiling!!!!!
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enjoy that steak claire! maybe some red wine too for the health benefits of course
janis sometimes if the blood is hemalysed ( happens when its drawn,if the blood flows too slow etc)when the lab tests it the potassium can be high so lets hope the recheck is normal -
Woo Hoo Claire, good news! Good news on the thyroid Janis, now you need to get good news on the blood test too. Fingers crossed for you. Sometimes it seems like it will never end.
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Oh, look at little Miss Healthy, dancing in the snow without her coat on!
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ABuie,
sending big hugs your way. BC is such a roller coaster, one day life is great and the next day you don't want to get out of bed. and then sometimes that one day turns into 2 or 3. . . This is a judge free zone, we "get" the anger, the frustration, the despair. No need for apologies here. Just feel free to unload, we care. On that same note, we may pass you a fruity foo-foo drink or piece of dark chocolate to help lift the spirits. Don't worry no calories or chance of getting a hangover from our cyber treats!!
Carrie, I hope your nodules are just some pesky b9 annoyances. Got my fingers crossed for you!! Pass the chocolate!! ( hugs to you too Carrie!!!)
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Yahoo Clarie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yay Claire!!!! Awesome news!!!
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Claire, can you share the "happy dance girl"? I will be getting my port out along with getting rid of these TEs and having the recon done on the 6th.
Becca
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Yeaaah Claire, good for you! Awesome!
And ABuie, vent away. I am developing quite a rant myself with the F**** UP the hospital has done with my onco scores that have delayed my treatment. This is really the only place people really understand, because everyone here, everyone, has gone through the same thing.
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