MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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Sherryc, I sent this plane to fly over your house and do a few barrel rolls...did you see it?

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Yipeeeeeeee SherryC!!! Im so happy for you! Doing mental cartwheels as I type!
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Sherry!!

Happy dance for you!!!
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Yay Sherry - mental cartwheels are all I can do lol.
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Thank you, dear Lord, for Sherry's good news!!! I'm so happy for you!
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Wonderful news, Shery! Yay!!
Janis, you'll be in a few days. Hoping for the same news for you.
How are you feeling Reesie?
I saw the RO for the last time (hopefully) for 3 months. Monday is "doctor" day, and I finish up (hopefully) on Friday. I am very red though, but no peeling or blistering yet. RO gave me something to use in case I do blister after Friday. I forget what he called it, but you mix a packet with water, then wet a wash cloth and sit that on the blistering area, then apply aquaphor after. Hope it doesn't come to that. I was supposed to get two more bolluses of the 4 txs left, but he canceled the bollus since in his words, my skin is "sufficiently red". It will be so good to have this behind me.
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Just got tix to see Blackthorn at a theatre a mile from my house on Friday night (which happens to be my last day of rads!!)! WooHoo! Any one here ever heard of them?
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sherry, YAY!!!!! that's fabulous news!
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Sherry - So happy about your good news. Reading it brought tears to my eyes - happy tears.
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Sherry ~ As I said on the Stage 1 thread, I really don't want to swear, but the first thing I thought of when I read your wonderful news was: Hot Damn!!!
I am very happy for you, sista!
Big hugs!
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SHERRY!!!! YAY!!!! What great news! Thanks be to God! Celebrate! I hope whatever else is going on is easily resolved.
Tori -
Got a letter of referral to oncologist on Saturday (why do these things always arrive on a weekend?) SAME oncologist who handled my mom last year with her breast cancer. Called the number and got a recording saying leave my info and if I don't hear back in two days please call them again!!! REALLY??!! Don't they realize who precious two days are right now??
Is anyone else flip flopping between doing great and feeling depressed?? How do you know when you need help with the depression? I've just started this journey and it seems my hard days are more and more frequent! Really hate the idea of daily antidepressants but don't want to live in my bed (like my Mom has)
Cindy
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tideymom....I am sorry you struggle with the depression. Is this completely new to you, or have you had some in the past? Situational depression is normal when hit with something like this. If you don't want to take meds, I can only suggest finding happy things to do and to focus on. Positive energy is so good, and finding things that make you happy now will help. Don't compare yourself to your mom. Two different women and of course you have much in common. However, you can choose to handle your cancer with diginty and grace....and of course depression here and there is still okay! I mean..normal! Nobody is sunshine all the time, but being happier is so much more healing than being miserable. Take walks or do any exercise you like. Very very good for the body and soul. Try to find something special that makes you feel good every day. Polish your toenails and put some glitter polish on top. Easy, cheap and festive. Take time out to read a good book, or even watch favorite old comedies on TV that are rerun from the 70's and 80's. Indulge yourself there. If you have the energy, bake something really delicious and find two people to share it with. A neighbor you don't know well, your nurses, a friend. Giving to others is super, super healing. I love to bake, but sharing is what brings me the joy.
I hope this helps hon and know that things will be a roller coaster for awhile. Again the feelings of depression are normal, but if you dwell there it is not going to help. If it continues please talk to your doctor about. There are many safe anti depressants out there and if you need one, you may need to try. I sure hope you find other ways to beat it, but if not there is no shame at all in seeking help. It is a bigger shame not to.
Feel better, PM me if you just want to screech!!!!
Big hugs headed your way!
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Tideymom--Janis said it so well, don't be afraid to ask for meds if that is the route you want to take, but keep your mind busy--do something fun that helps keep your mind busy. And exercise is always great for getting the stress out.
Kay--only 4 more days, four more days, WOO-HOO!!! Your almost there!!!!
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Ok I have had many a bad hair days in the past. But this poodle do has to go. I loved my straight hair from pre chemo not liking the post chemo do so much. It has a mind of its own and no matter what I do its got a mind of its own. What have you gals used in the past to have some control to it. Its not real long, so a cut is outa the question right now.
((((Cindy)))) Janis did say it best. We are all different and if the meds route isnt for you just the little things can take your mind to a different place. Take it easy on yourself. I hope you get news soon.
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Cindy, you are responding appropriately for some pretty scary news. Cancer IS a big deal. If you weren't stressed or anxious, then something would be wrong. BUT if your angst keeps you from living properly (staying bedridden for instance) then you would probably benefit from some chemical assistance. A lot of people start antidepressants but then stop when they don't feel better right away. Or, they say they feel woozy. It takes your body a couple of weeks to build up enough drug to make you feel better and allow your body to get used to the new chemical addition. You should not feel spacey at all. The technology is there to help you. I know that I, for one, couldn't have functioned without chemical aid. Good luck, sweetie!
GREAT news Sherri!!!
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Whoo hoo Sherry!!
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tiedyemom, You will see a lot of references to B/C as a "rollersoaster" just for that feeling you describe. (I like rollercoasters too much for that analogy, but you get the idea.) I don't know how open you are to perhaps finding another oncologist, one whose office would get back to you the same day or the following morning. Two days of suspense just seems unnecessary, and like they are not keyed in at all to their patients mental state.
p.s. Agree with Janis about ways of coping with depression.
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Janis you have said it all and we all have been on that road. So Cindy, your feeling are valid and very much the norm. Your choice to use anti D's or not would depend on the quality of life you want. Hang in there and you will know what is right for you. I take anti D's now and resisted at first. My days are now much better with the help and I can better deal with the everyday stressors without freaking out. My saying to myself is just "float and drift", it will get better.
Sherry here's to your good news!

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I've seen that article. The average results were not unlike chemo treatments, adding some months to a Stage IV life. What is good is that this is like a fourth generation weapon in the anti-cancer arsenal for people who have tried everything else. It's another option for people who didn't have much success with other chemos. AND the S/E on this vaccine sounds like a dream in comparison to existing chemotherapies. Again, they need to duplicate with a much larger group, but it is hopeful news.
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Thanks all and Cindy we have all felt that way in the beginning. I think Janis did say it best. Know that we are here for you any time.
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Sherry, so glad your results were B9. I'm hoping for the same results with my 2nd mammo next Mon. They saw a nodule but aren't sure if it's scar tissue from my previous lumpectomy or not so want more pictures. These tests are important but sure can scare us to death at times. I just try to take one day at a time. I am much older than you. I'm 67 and was 61 when my first bc was found. I think our diagnosis is similar.
Sally
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Sally - Sending up good thoughts and prayers for B9 results. Please come back here and let us know your results.
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Sally will be thinking about you and hope for B9 results
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I'm praying that your results come back B9 Sally.
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thinking about you, sally.
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Thanks everyone. I definitely will let you know. That is if they tell me anything that day. I might have to get testy.
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Wanted to share with all of you that I was picked for Casting for Recovery this weekend. It is a free weekend that they have all over the United States. They teach you how to fly fish and have talks about breast cancer topics. It is only for breast cancer patients any stage and anytime of your cancer. You just fill out the application and then they will let you know. I was originally picked as an alternate and then got bumped up because someone had to pull out. If you are interested in the program you can go to www.castingforrecovery.org it starts Friday afternoon and ends Sunday afternoon. I am so excited and will be a nice change of pace from everything that has been going on with my Dad being sick and passing and then me having to have surgery. My Dr cleared me so I am going.
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Sally-prayed for you tonite.
Girls- Thanks for all of your encouragement and support! See the Genetic Counselor tommorow, wish me luck!
Cindy
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