20/30 somethings...

Ok, here's me:

I'm 37, diagnosed at 34 with TNBC.

Married for 9 years, with no kids. On the fence on whether I want children, but husband has never wanted them, so that's the default choice. Instead, we pursue other goals like home decorating, and basically having a lot of free time! Have a sweet cat and want lots more animals.

Work for the federal government in disability policy and live near Washington DC and, now, also rural West Virginia. In general, loving my life and hoping to have many more years to see where it takes me.

Thanks for starting the thread, Melinda.

Mimi

Hi girls... well I am 35, diagnosed at 32 with IDC.  Married almost 8 years with 1 amazing 4 year old boy!  I wanted more kids and have considered adoption but there's a big part of me that thinks this is just the way it was meant to be.  I change my mind daily!

Hi, I am so glad to see a new place without so many pages/years worth of post to read.



My name is jennfer. I have been married for 7 years. I have 2 kiddos. My boy is 5 and my girl is 2. My hubby is in the army and we are stationed at fort hood. I was diagnosed on July 12, so I am just beginning this battle. My 2nd round of TCH is on Monday.

Great idea Melindy!

Hi everyone. I was 29 at diagnosis, and I'm 31 now. I've been married for four years, and I don't have any children. Well, no human children... I have two dogs that I love more than just about anything in the world. 

I finished grad school in May, and I just started a job that I really like on August first. I'm a social worker/ therapist working with individuals with eating disorders. It's been exhausting to go back to work full-time, but so far, so good. I'm hoping to start checking things off of my bucket list. I want to swim with dolphins, take a glass blowing class, learn to tap dance, and run a 5K. I'm super excited that fall is here. I love this time of year. 

Hello, I am 32...diagnosed last year at 31, with IIIA IDC. I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old. My hair is coming back curly and it's all over the place!

Hi, I thought I'd post cause I'm kind of in this range.  I was 23 when I was dx and I'm now 37.  

melinda413 - regarding work ambition, it comes back in a different way I'd say.  I was extremely ambitious beforehand, having graduated high school early and started working professionally before I graduated college.  After the cancer dx and treatment was done, I actually lucked out and got a really good job with great health insurance, so I proceeded to "play hard" for the next several years.  But once I realized that I had a future life to look forward to, I went back to plotting my work ambitions.   

This is a great idea to start a thread for you younger gals. I am 50 and just found out that the daughter of a family friend was just dx at the age of 25. I hope she comes here to meet all of you. Her mother called me and asked some questions and after I got off the phone I realized that you gals are dealing with different issues than someone of my age and there are issues that are specific to my age group that perhaps aren't significant to you. I admire you all for starting your own niche here so you can discuss issues that will be pertinent to you. There are lots of threads here that have very useful information that is common to all of us with BC but it's also nice to have your own thread to come home to. I wish you all well on this journey

Hugs

Beth

Hi all *waving*

I am a little bit older than you all, at 39, but I have a young family so can relate to some of the issues you're all dealing with. I live in Melbourne, Australia with my partner and our 3 kids - 7yo, 5yo and 2yo, and our 2 dogs 

 I was diagnosed in September with IDC, triple negative. I had a lumpectomy and axillary clearance. I'll see the medical oncologist on Tuesday to find out what happens in the next stage. It is all so overwhelming and unexpected. I was cruising along in life without a care in world.. then... bam, I have breast cancer. I'm sure you all can relate to that.

Hi SandraB,

Im 39 too and diagnosed in March of this year. Unilateral masectomy May 26th and scheduled for nipple surgery Dec. 7th. I like you was crusing along and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am doing great. No chemo or radiation. Getting my life back on track! Good luck to you

I'm 32, had bmx on nov 2. I'm the fourth in my family w/ bc, so I kind of saw this coming. Married w/ an 8 year old. Start chemo dec 22.

I'm starting to get angry. You know, at first I felt relieved, b/c I no longer had to decide to get prophylactic surgery. Now, I'm tired of having cancer and dealing with my TEs and appointments.



I haven't really discussed the possibility that there will be no more biological kids with my DH, he's always been the one who wanted more kids. I'm terrified of the idea of flooding my body with hormones ever again. The way I see it, he has enough on his plate without going there now, it can wait.

Hello,

I'm 27, I got diagnosed in December 2011 which was 10 days before my birthday . From the time I felt the lump until I got the news took 17 days. I will be having a Bilateral Mastectomy and will be discussing scheduling with my doctor this week. Deciding on what kind of surgery was the easiest decision of them all. I understand and respect the decision of others. Of course some people believe i'm being radical (especially my mother), but i believe this is what is best for me.

Deciding not to freeze my egss took the longest time. I was so back and fourth about it until I finally sat and looked at the numbers. I have the best care team and am confident in their skills and knowledge. Because I am so young the oncologist had to put together information from many different cancers with younger patients. She says there aren't many studies for under 30 in relation to fertility. She is currently telling me I have a 50-70% chance of being fertile after chemo. Right now we are unsure if I will need chemo or not. I've had 1 lymph node biopsy which has come back negative.

 I applaud all you women out there for your continued strength. I know I have a long road ahead of me but I know it's something I can face. I REFUSE to let this thing beat me or tear me down. Some days are better than other but with the support of my family and friends I press on.