Thinking of having a baby..... Mom has BC

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RAD1218
RAD1218 Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

My husband and I got married last december and we been thinking about trying for a baby. My mother just got diagnose with BC July'11 and about to start chemo. The docs are very positive that she will do well and my mother is also in good spirits. She told me that she will fight real hard because she wants to meet her grandchildren. I dont want to sound selfish or anything but anyone here been in this situation. Any advice? My mother thinks that all the bad things is happening to her im thinking bringing in a baby she and our family will have something good to look forward to during this difficult time.

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  • LisaAlissa
    LisaAlissa Member Posts: 1,092
    edited September 2011

    I haven't been in your situation, but I'd say don't wait for the "perfect" time to try for a baby.  Perfect never comes.  

    I'm not clear on whether you've discussed your potential plans with your mother or not.  Whether her statement that "she wants to meet her grandchildren." was in response to your plans or not.  But if not, it sounds as if she's hinting strongly that she hopes you will have children.  

    HTH,

    Lisa

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  • Laurie08
    Laurie08 Member Posts: 2,891
    edited September 2011

    I was in your same shoes.  My mother didn't say anything about wanting to see her grandchildren, I wanted her to be there for when I had my children.  It took me a long time to concieve and I was not able to get pregnant before she passed.  I have since had two healthy wonderful boys.

    Think about what you want.  Don't do it just for your mom, if you are ready do it.  I always wish my mother had met my sons, I always wish I could call her and ask her what to do while I am raising them and need a little guidance.  But it apparently wasn't in the plan.

    I wish for the best for you and your mom.  ((hugs))

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  • dreaming
    dreaming Member Posts: 473
    edited September 2011

    The day of my diagnosis by first grand baby was born, it was not only great,but kept me busy shopping,visiting her.

    When I think back and it was a long time ago, not once I had a negative thought about my cancer. This baby now is in college and has a brother that was born very close to her.

    I am the kind of person that think that to have a baby is a very personal decision, I have a brother and female cousins and friends that prefer not to have children.

    It is what you and your husband want.

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  • Sheypres
    Sheypres Member Posts: 35
    edited September 2011

    I was exactly in your situation. My Mom had lung cancer.  I was not able to concieve before she passed.  The doctors think it was just all the stress.It was really stressful dealing with Mom and her Chemo and then dealing with trying to get pregnant.    I actually got pregnant the month after she passed away. I think it happened how it was suppposed to happen.  I could not have enjoyed my pregnancy with Mom so sick. I like to think that Mom had put in a good word for us. 

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