Ok now I feel dumb...

Letlet
Letlet Member Posts: 1,053

So, it's been a whole entire year after my diagnosis...i've had the whole nine yards of treatment. Right after my MX my BS told me that I was Stage IIB and I never thought any of it anymore. Well I just happened to read my onc's note and I thought it was a typo. Turns out I am IIIA.

How did I just go through all this tx and a year and not know this??

Okay...are we still considered early stage? What am I, aside from in my mind (a hop skip before stage iv)

For some reason, it doesn't bother me as much...maybe I'm happy to join the group here :)

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  • kathleen1966
    kathleen1966 Member Posts: 793
    edited September 2011
    Hello.  I sometimes see the node numbers on stage II-ers and see that they are really stage III-ers. I will tell you there is not much difference between a stage IIb and a stage IIIa in a lot of cases.  It is the number of nodes or tumor size that will put you in the stage III area.  1-3 nodes, stage II and any more stage IIIa.  I like to consider myself as one lymph node into IIIa.  Without that node, I would have been stage IIa. It does bother me.  On the internet, everywhere I look, I am a stage II.  And they changed the whole staging system right before we were diagnosed.  I used to be a stage II.  Does this not drive you crazy?  Yet it is still bothersome to me.  I like to think of staging determining our treatment plan and that is all really.  I'm glad it didn't bother you all that much and that you are doing well.  Our diagnosis time is about the same.  And I have responded in the past to you as I was considered weakly PR+.  I have it negative as they told me I was not clinically + (less than 10% of cells). "Late welcome" to the stage III forum!  I have seen on here that it seems to be somewhat of a crap-shoot as to who does well in terms of having a recurrence. We just have to live in today as best as we can right?  Smile
  • Letlet
    Letlet Member Posts: 1,053
    edited September 2011

    kathleen, thanks for responding...it does bother me but I guess I'm trying not to "go there" because it's hard to climb out of that funk once it hits me...

  • americanpinay
    americanpinay Member Posts: 338
    edited September 2011

    Hi Letlet,

    First, congratulations on finishing treatment! My diagnosis went from IIA to IIB to finally IIIA. My onc said it is still early stage but locally advanced because of lymph node involvement. Like Kathleen, I also like to think that staging is just to determine the treatment plan. I'm sure your onc recommended a treatment plan that is right for you.

    I am three years away from diagnosis and will tell you that things really do get better with time. Welcome to the Stage III forum.  Take care. 

  • AgentMo
    AgentMo Member Posts: 72
    edited September 2011

    I am also just borderline Stage IIIA. However, even though I can totally understand that the difference between three and four affected lymph nodes cannot be the world, I cannot get around being Stage III rather than Stage II emotionally. It bothers me a lot and I feel as if I would have a much better chance of surviving being Stage II instead of Stage III. I know this is crap, I know that the staging categories are to some extent arbitrary (for instance I have read one study that says the real difference is between two and three lymph nodes) and I know that I cannot help it anyway. But I just can't get over it.

  • Letlet
    Letlet Member Posts: 1,053
    edited September 2011

    americanpinay, thanks for sharing..another pinay here too! So happy to hear that you are 3 years out. I am so encouraged to read this.

    Agent Mo, I am already struggling with these fears recently and finding this out today was completely unexpected. I'm trying to tell myself that it's just used for treatment but kind of hard to swallow to know.

  • MaxineO
    MaxineO Member Posts: 555
    edited September 2011

    I had the same surprise, but at the time of my pathology report. I also really struggled with the gravity of a stage III diagnosis, but you can check out the list of survivors of MANY years!

    It's your brain messing with you, mostly, but it's true that you eventually just embrace your stage and keep on.  The stage III ladies here are very supportive, and we're happy to have you with us!

  • Rachel1
    Rachel1 Member Posts: 363
    edited September 2011

    I totally understand how you feel. I was a stage 2 at dx with 2 positive nodes. After a full dissection and another 5, they still said stage 2. I'm not going to argue. Now many docs. aren't doing node dissections after a + sentinel node biopsy. So I would think staging will be effected.  In fact, my onc. recommended I not have a full node dissection. He said it wouldn't change my protocol. My 2nd opinion at a university hospital said a node dissection was standard practice. Within three months of my dissection, the new reports were coming out saying chemo and rads were as effective.

     Anyway, I relate to more ladies on this board because of the +nodes. But if my onc.'s want to call it stage 2 -- okey dokey, whatever.

    Hugs,

    Rachel 

  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited September 2011
    I'm sorry sweetie but us 3 gals are the best, so welcome Smile  I come to realize as long as tx worked then it doesn't matter what stage I am, it's just for tx purposes and it's just something else to freak out about if you let it.  And by the way I'm a "C baby" so I'm the hop and skip from IV...I'm breathing down it's neck!!   
  • hymil
    hymil Member Posts: 826
    edited September 2011

    It is all very confusing, and more so if you had neo-adjuvant treatment, then you never really get properly staged. Officially, staging happens at the time of surgery apparently. ??  So even if you had mets and the treatment makes them recede and disappear by the time of surgery, you are then classed without them in the same staging-group as people who never had them, HOW WIERD!!  But also because mucinous tumours are "large for dates" to use a baby analogy, LOL, size really isn't everything.  They initially told me the nodes were okay; then at surgery I had a very close chest wall margin (basically zero but not, they said, actually infiltrated ....  yet -??) and also one of the nodes was not as nice as it could have been; although they were calling it clear, there were signs that it had been bad earlier before the neo-adj  So it seems I could have been considered  anywhere 2a-2b-3... can you get locally advanced early stage?? no wonder I'm confused! 

    I think the TNM classification also helps, as "TNM-300" which is how I'm labelling myself (as mental shorthand for the various combined possibilities of  T2-3,N0-+,M0) is a fairly unusual combination,.but it's the M0 that makes the biggest difference. No mets today, please and thankyou!

  • Yanyan
    Yanyan Member Posts: 38
    edited September 2011

    Hi, Letlet. A late welcome (()). I also struggled on my stage especially after that i had 4 chemos prior to surgery. I agree with the other ladies that your treatment would have been the same anyway. It just gives you some comfort knowing that you are stage 2 as "per statistics", stage 2 has a better prognosis. Many of us have learned to forget about the statistics and do the best we can to move on with life. There are quite a few adies here who were diagnosed young and i am one of them. I think it is the part that sucks because mamagram is not a routine for us under 40. and everyone says you are too young to have breast cancer. Anyway, welcome to the family !

  • bak94
    bak94 Member Posts: 1,846
    edited September 2011

    I get what you are going through also. I was diagnosed as stage 3c and then a radiologist who read one of my ct scans said I was stage 4. I totally freaked out! My mo and surgeon said I still fit into stage 3, but I have one or two positive nodes just under the im nodes that could qualify me as stage 4, but they are not quite. I don't really get it, but I am going with stage 3, as my mo says it is still local. Last pet scan came back showing no active nodes! CT scan showed 90% reduction. After I finish chemo I will have rads to all the areas with positive nodes. Still scary though, as these nodes are inoperable, but still considered local.

  • Yanyan
    Yanyan Member Posts: 38
    edited September 2011

    As long as there is no distant mets, we are not stage 4.

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