Confused Follow Up Onc Visits
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Thanks for explaining what a marshall does. Actually sounds like a fun and relaxing job.
This cancer thing sure does take a toll on ones life. I am so grateful to still be here and not to sound ungrateful but I really could have done without this detour in my life. It takes your life and just turns it completely upside down. It sounds like your adjustments have been tougher than mine and you must be a strong person to seem to take it all in stride. Keep your sense of humor. It's free and drives people crazy when you smile at adversity.
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I was seeing my onc every 3 months and had tumor markers scheduled for every 6. I freaked out about my first tumor marker test after chemo and refused to have it done. But then a few months later I had all sorts of symptoms, went back to onc, had it done - and results were fine. I have suffered severe PTSD and anxiety from this cancer diagnosis. My onc has been pretty understanding and said we can skip the tumor markers if I want, because they don't show much and mine have never been elevated. I know, though, that if I had symptoms he'd order a scan ASAP - because that's what he did when I was having dizziness and headaches. Brain MRI. All clear - turns out it was anxiety.
I know that there are some people who want to know what's going on, whatever that may be. I don't. I'm too afraid of bad news. Because not to be a downer (you all can stop reading now if you want) but when it comes to metastasis the ER+ women can stick around for years sometimes, but they have nothing for us TNs that seems to do more than add a few months. And there is no way, no way I can do chemo again - I was so sick I can't imagine doing it again. So I remain an ostrich.
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I can understand the anxiety. Cancer is a tough hand to be dealt but we can fight it. Being TN seems to have its own set of challenges. I remember when I was DX and the onc said I was TN and me and DH had to ask if it was good or bad and onc said neither (how naiive I was back then). Come to find out after seeing peoples reaction after saying TN it really isn't the preferred type to be.
You raise a good argument for not wanting to know since there is nothing they can do and which might be what my doctor meant when he said they find doing all the scans doesn't change the outcome. I think I would want to know so I could hurry up and complete the items on my bucket list.
I am trying to stay positive about this whole life detour I have taken.
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As a TN, I agree! So often I see the way med profs looks at each other as they read my dx. Fortunately, my BS never made a big deal out of it. She told what usually works - She was correct as I only have one more chemo visit to go and my tumor has shrunk to half of original size.
Thanks for your positive outlook
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Shirleta - YEAH only one more chemo to go!!!
One positive thing about TN is we tend to respond well to chemo. You having surgery after chemo?
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Tell me about CANCER turning your life upside down. I am basically the sole breadwinner of the house. My husband's income was reduced right at the time I got sick and we just brought a new house. Bad timing right???!!!! I won't complain though. Just thankful I was able to work and pull us through.
As far as follow ups go I get the regular every 3 mos CA27.29 and CBC. My hospital is a research one connected w/ John Hopkins so I joined the Metaformin trial.
As far as nerves go I am a ball of nerves all the TIME.
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People,
It's not just a curse, it is a gift as well. Tell me, do you now take that moment to see a sunrise or sunset? Do you make the effort to hit the family reunion? Do you find it in yourself to say you can't do that thing you don't want to do? Find it in yourself to do that thing you want to do?
As women, we so often live for others that it sometimes takes a large pointy stick to show us it is time to look after ourselves.
On that topic, I'll share. I'm clear for now, and am planning to spend every moment on this earth in a way I'll be proud of. No more working weekends. No more waiting years for a vacation. If I want to cook all day on a Saturday, well, that is just fine and no one complains when they sit down to dinner. If I make a double batch of lasagna, I box some up for the neighbors who are out of work. My 84 year old neighbor fell and had to have her head stiched up. I sent over flowers and then took warm cookies over a couple days later when she was home from the hospital and up and around.
I have two children to consider. My stepdaughter is 21 and doing really well, My dogchild is probably about 4 years old and is doing really well.
Livinglarge, Yes, my puppeh is a golden retriever, and he was a rescue puppy. If you have any interest, his name is Corona, and he is Mr. July on the Golden Retriever Club of Greater Los Angeles Rescue Calendar for 2012, which has not yet been released. He was Mr. July for 2011 and 2010 too, all because he was found starving in the forest in July 2009 after it was guessed that he ran from the 4th of July fireworks. He is happy now, and saves other lost dogs.
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My onc does some scan or another at every visit and bloodwork.
I guess cancer is a gift. It certainly has given me many things. I have pain in my lumpectomy scar, tight tendons and sensitive skin from radiation, lingering (but not permanant) neuropathy from chemo and heart failure from Herceptin. I got gifts every step of the way.
It did not take cancer to tell me to take time for myself. Having seven kids was a much more enjoyable way to learn that. It did not take cancer to get me to stop and watch the sunset or to do what I want on Saturdays.Staying happy and healthy while I enjoyed my family did that
The only positive thing that cancer taught me is that I can endure and plow through more than I thought I could..
I am sorry for the rant. Cancer was not a course in self improvement for me but something that turned my world upside down and changed my life forever. Serious illness is just that. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.
For those who want to tell me to suck it up. I do every day but I thought I could at least come here and not be told that somehow somewhere there was a diamond in the pile of $#!+ called cancer.
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New guidelines have now come out regarding the CT and Pet scans of stage 1, 2 and operable stage 3 breast cancer patients.
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/718398
It is very interesting reading. And extremely confusing. I had a CT of the pelvis, ab, lungs and head and a bone scan. To me that was way too much radiation but I needed to know.
Now my onc wants me to have another series of scans because I was unable to tolerate tamoxifen. I have been waivering on it and now I think I'm going to fight her. It seems like lots of false positives AND false negatives!
I do get the tumor marker tests each time I go in every 3 months -they do all the bloodwork, etc. I know many doctors refuse to \use them as they are not accurate - not sure how I feel about it, but insurance is paying, and the way it was explained to me is that they are a "tool" that can point out problems if they continue to rise time after time. I will say the anxiety is horrible. I put off my visits, etc., because of the anxiety of returning there and getting bloodwork and waiting on the results. Last time I didn't call for my results - I didnt want to know; I guess I will get them when I go in on Friday.
But I don't know what to think about the scan thing - weird since some doctors insist on routine scans looking for mets
No Longer Silent About PET/CT
Previous NCCN breast cancer guidelines were "silent" about positron emission tomography (PET)/computed tomography (CT), said Dr. Carlson. But not any longer, because Dr. Carlson and his colleagues felt compelled to make a number of recommendations about the imaging technology in the current update.
"PET/CT is overused in breast cancer," opined Dr. Carlson, providing an overview of the recommendations for reporters.
PET/CT should not be used at all in early breast cancer, he said.
The use of PET or the combined PET/CT is not indicated in the staging of clinical stage I, II, or operable stage III breast cancer, according to a footnote added to the invasive breast cancer workup section.
The reasons for the exclusion include one of the "major problems" with PET/CT, said Dr. Carlson. "There is a remarkably high frequency of false positives" with the technology, he explained.
Dr. Carlson cited a breast cancer staging study from the University of Kansas as part of the evidence. Fifteen of the 83 women in the retrospective study had a "suspicious" FDG-PET/CT. Of those 15 women, 2 (13%) had confirmed metastatic disease, but the other 13 (87%) had false-positive scans.
Dr. Carlson also cited a set of studies that indicated that PET/CT was "not sensitive" in detecting nodal disease in early breast cancer. "The sensitivity is very poor," he said, referring to 5 studies in which the sensitivity of the technology was as low as 20% and no higher than 61% in research that used SLNB as the comparator, mostly.
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Rosemary, I'm with YOU!!! I used to stop and smell every rose!! I had joy and optimism in my heart and looked forward to life every day I woke up! Now I shiver under the blade hanging over my head called "mets". I am so much a WORSE person than I was before!! I have lost all hope and there is no joy in my life. I am just waiting until the other shoe drops....
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Yellowdog - I have foster goldens from the Texas rescue so I think with 5 dogs I am at my limit. Let me explain by what I meant by turning my life upside down. I see these post and there seems to be two camps. I was a complete work alcoholic that never took any time to smell any roses. I was so focused on building a career that would provide financial stability for my entire family (including my brothers and their family). My goal was to make sure no one ever worried about money. I am a successful business woman and had zero patience and tolerance for what I deemed laziness.
Well along came the cancer DX. Now I could care less about my business. I still work but 8 hours a day about does it, which is bad since I an owner of the company (LOL). All I want to do is make the most out of every minute and want to focus on my family. My DH retired early (53) right before my DX. We both left our high level executive jobs with a very large company at the same time. (he retired and I started a business).
I don't think I would have slowed down and never really realized how much I was missing by always working and traveling around the world on business. I made sure I always flew home for any activity my daughter had but sometimes even though I was physically present I was mentally traveling. I am trying so hard to enjoy everything. BUT I am still learning how to live a relaxed life and some times my lack of patience comes to the surface.
This is what I meant by upside down. So from that perspective I am thankful. However I am also on barbe's side of the fence. I am scared to death that I won't be here for my daughter's wedding, first child, or college graduation (she is a senior in HS). No matter how much I exercise and eat right I feel it is only a matter of time before I get smacked in the face with another DX. Maybe because I was so surprised and caught off guard with the first DX. No family history and all that so I never expected the big C. Maybe this will change once I get past a few years post DX. Everything is still pretty much a fresh wound.
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Calamtykel: Thanks for posting that... it is a really interesting read, including the use of SNB as standard of care for women without clinically positive nodes. As for PETs, the main objection seems to be their use in staging early BCs (and perhaps in routine follow-up?) due to their false positives. (I would think their needless radiation, which is significant, is also a downside). I would also take from the article that PETs and CTs have their place when investigating something suspicious or in advanced BC, although as the article points out, PETs may bring up more questions than answers - hence the biopsy recommendation.
Rosemary, Barbe: Ditto that, I feel less optimistic and hopeful. I do appreciate some moments more since my Dx, but the trouble with cancer (unlike a near-fatal accident or some other diseases) is, it really does keep on giving on the worry downside as we have no surefire cure. Not much of a gift really.
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For whatever it's worth, there is no magical number of years and then you're free and clear.
I celebrated my five years and was still going every six months for labs and mammos.
Last fall I saw three docs who did clinical breast exams. None of them felt anything. The mammo did not see anything. Within 5 months of hearing, great we'll go to yearly appointments, I found a new primary tumor. At that point I was 7 years out. I have no family history, not a drinker or smoker, and BRCA neg. I'm not brave or strong, just doing what I have to in order to see my kids grow up. Mammo still didn't see my palpable new tumor. US said it was worth getting a biopsy given prior dx, gee ya think?
So now I'm down two boobs, uterus and ovaries and a little testy when people say did they get it all? Sure I look good, otherwise I wouldn't leave the house. But like barb said, before I got the official second dx, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop and said as much to my surgeon's office. -
Rosemary - Is that a typo 7 kids???
You can always come here and vent. We are all in the same boat. Like I said I am on both sides. Happy I got the wake up call as I am enjoying my family & friends now instead of waiting for some magical day in the future. Would have been nice to not have to get cancer to get me to slow down. BUT scared to death waiting for the next punch.
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No typo seven kids. And at one of my deliveries (not even the last one) the nurse said,"Well you'll never get breast cancer."
Yes life is precious and I enjoy it the best I can.That is why I stopped Femara. the muscle joint and bone pain and the dizzy spells were making life too hard.
With breast cancer you never know if it will come back. With heart failure it is the same thing. 10% of people live ten years and they do not know the long term outlook if it is induced by Herceptin.
I am not a better person. I am a person trying to push aside two illlnesses that limit my life and live it as fully as I can. When people say be positive, I just think I'm positive cancer sucks. It debilitates good people and takes them well before they have lived to a ripe old age. I see no upside to that,
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I was an optimist and positive person before cancer and am basically the same person I was before, but the difference for me is that I am much more able to enjoy times even if I'm not feeling well, and when I do feel well I appreciate it a lot more. So, that's a positive thing. Learning that "It's always something, roll with it", maybe.
It has made me a worse person in that I won't reach out to folks anymore - I'm actually more willing to let people go now than I was before. Unless it's my child or my partner or a parent, I'm not spending any energy making someone else feel ok about my cancer. Example, my former bff essentially blew me off for 5 months during chemo. I know she was going through her own troubles but I just don't care - I just don't want her in my life. She's reaching out now with a couple of voicemails but I don't even want to bother to tell her I don't want to bother with her, if you follow. When I wasn't so stressed by radiation burns or the symptom du jour, I would never have turned my back on her. So, I'm a lesser person for that.
Cancer is a hateful thing, but then again there are worse things to my way of thinking, anyway.
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Mebmarj - That stinks. I keep hearing the magic number is 5 years but keep seeing or hearing ladies who said it reared it's ugly head at 7 or even 10 years. I think you are right no magic number it will be a cloud of doubt forever.
Got my buck list and have been working on checking off some items.
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Pamonymous - You are not the first person I that has said their bff disappeared during chemo treatment. I noticed when I got DX everyone was so kind and said to just let them know if I needed anything, well shortly after that initially conversation when DX they (not all) disappeared. Now that I am post treatment they are starting to come back. I am wondering if it is just too overwhelming for some folks to handle. Was a shame as I needed them most during treatment and now have the same attitude you have, let them stay gone and in the background. Cancer does have a way of sorting out who your true friends are.
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livinglarge, you are triple negative. When you get to 5 years you can celebrate. I'm hormone postive. Mine is a slower growing cancer and is apt to turn up again AFTER 5 years! Why is the time going so fast????
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I have a couple of friends that are hormone positive and they all take tamoxafin which seems to have its own set of SE.
That's what I hear that 5 is the number however it seems to want to revisit around year 2 or 3. I honestly don't think I will ever be able to let the fear go away regardless of how many years pass.
The entire concept just sucks. This site at least allows us to vent and say what is on our minds. I never discuss this with my family. No need for everyone to constantly be thinking about it. But then again I know they too are worried and just are pretending it will all be ok. I always keep a brave front especially for my daughters sake.
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It really does, livinglarge.
I'm in the "if it recurs will do so with lightning speed" category unfortunately (IBC), but I don't know yet what my follow-up will be. The last PET was in May, and I am scheduled through October so I know they're not planning on additional scans until then. I've had the CA 15 test twice - at diagnosis in September and in May. I am not really done with active treatment until February - that's my final herceptin.
This is all assuming that nothing pops up in the meantime! Fingers, toes, legs, and eyes crossed!
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I will keep everything crossed for you as well. It is a long process to go through all the treatments and crap. The first year after DX seems to be one doctors appointment after another. Makes your head spin.
How are you feeling? I remember by the end of the first year the treatments and everything else start to drag you down.
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I wasn't put on Tamoxifen or any AIs. My doctor had emergency heart surgery just after my double mast and my file fell in the cracks. It was only from this board that I learned all I did! Now they can use Tamox as a first line if I recur. Doi!
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OMG that is crazy. You would think someone would have caught it.
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rosemary-b and livinglarge:
I didn't mean to offend. I went from a 65 hour week down to a 40 hour week. I started out so angry, only my stepsister who was Stage IV could understand. She said if I wasn't angry, I wasn't trying. I lost her in March. She had gone nearly 8 years as a Stage IV, and wasn't TN, but did turn up with a BRCA gene she had no idea she might carry as she was adopted.
I don't think you need to have seven children to have your life turned upside down. I never suggested that cancer was a "course in self improvement." All I said was that that really bad experience made me see things differently. My Dx was not nice. I lost my sentinal node and another 4 of the fourteen they took. I went from a healthy person to Stage IIB in a heartbeat and was told my prospects were not good. I had a 29% chance of seeing five years if I did nothing beyond surgery. A 34% chance if I did radiation. A 66% chance with chemo and radiation. That made me rethink all those years I worked like a dog six days a week and never took a vacation. I do things differently now, and for good reason. FYI, I chose to do extra chemo and extra radiation, and I am still here today three years later. And I take a vacation of a lifetime every year. That's my choice, and I'll stand by it.
PS Nothing pisses me off more than people whose lives are not on the line whining about how no one understands their grief. That means you rosemary-b. Stage I, 0 nodes, all positive. You don't even belong on this board, but you bark loudly, especially about your seven (7) children and how hard that is. Did anyone ever tell you how to have less than seven (7) children?
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rosemary-b and livinglarge:
I didn't mean to offend. I went from a 65 hour week down to a 40 hour week. I started out so angry, only my stepsister who was Stage IV could understand. She said if I wasn't angry, I wasn't trying. I lost her in March. She had gone nearly 8 years as a Stage IV, and wasn't TN, but did turn up with a BRCA gene she had no idea she might carry as she was adopted.
I don't think you need to have seven children to have your life turned upside down. I never suggested that cancer was a "course in self improvement." All I said was that that really bad experience made me see things differently. My Dx was not nice. I lost my sentinal node and another 4 of the fourteen they took. I went from a healthy person to Stage IIB in a heartbeat and was told my prospects were not good. I had a 29% chance of seeing five years if I did nothing beyond surgery. A 34% chance if I did radiation. A 66% chance with chemo and radiation. That made me rethink all those years I worked like a dog six days a week and never took a vacation. I do things differently now, and for good reason. FYI, I chose to do extra chemo and extra radiation, and I am still here today three years later. And I take a vacation of a lifetime every year. That's my choice, and I'll stand by it.
PS Nothing pisses me off more than people whose lives are not on the line whining about how no one understands their grief. That means you rosemary-b. Stage I, 0 nodes, all positive. You don't even belong on this board, but you bark loudly, especially about your seven (7) children and how hard that is. Did anyone ever tell you how to not have seven (7) children?
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Wow dog, that's quite a punch!!! Did you not realize that more stage I and II ladies go to stage IV than stage III's do? Stage III's get the kitchen sink thrown at them. The other stages don't. Now there is a phenomenon of earlier stages moving on and late stages not!! Check out some of these threads. And, node negative? Big deal!! Cancer moves through the intramammary nodes and the blood stream a LOT quicker.
We are ALL just ONE diagnosis away from Stage IV. Cancer is cancer, my dear. Something you didn't happen to learn on your life-altering 'trip'. You failed.
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Once we hear breast cancer, we all belong here. Opinions are like your back side, everybody has one and they are all different. Stage 0 to iv, it all sucks to belong to the club you never leave.
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Oh boy yellow dog did you misunderstand. Seven children did not turn my life upside down. It turned it right side up.It was a great way to learn new priorties. And they were all planned and provided for Yes I know where babies come from It's not like you're the first one who said that to me and no welfare here just a couple of people who worked really hard to have what to us is the most precious thing on earth, children My point was cancer is not the only way to learn new priorities
My diagnosis looks really good doesn't it? Herceptin almost killed me. My heart function was down so low (LVEF 15 low end of normal is 50-55) no doctor knew what to think about if or when it would return to normal or how well I would be able to function. Heart failure is a b!+ch too.So are the other life threatening things that have happened since diagnosis
I won't go into any more details because I never meant to minmize your experience, merely to say I do not see the positive in this and can think of more enjoyable ways to learn life's lessons.
Oh and if this thread is a no whining zone I'll leave it. Enjoy life.
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I can understand that some people feel something positive came out of their experience with this, but I don't appreciate anyone, especially someone who does not have cancer, telling me that "this was meant to be" or "there is a positive side to all this".
I have had a few people tell me this and honestly, it makes me angry. I loved every minute of my life before this, and now I feel like I have a noose around my neck.
And while I think it is OK to be angry, it's not OK to take it out on someone else.
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