What the heck am I supposed to eat!

chickadee, I agree with the recommendation to read Anti-Cancer, A New Way of Life.  It's full of great advice.

Re. soy ... what I was told @ UCLA, and what the most recent research supports, is that natural soy products are good for us.  What you need to avoid is soy protein powder isolate, which is soy protein powder (also found in most energy bars and some vegan food products), because it's been modified and concentrated.  Also some women avoid food and supplements that contain soy byproducts & fillers because non-organic soy grown in the US can be both GMO and full of pesticide residue.  But tofu and soy milk, etc., are fine in moderation.

The only estrogenic food I was told to be careful about drinking too much of is grapefruit juice. But, I'm also post menopausal, so you may get somewhat different advice, or you might just feel more comfortable eliminating certain foods.  But the bottom line is, I don't believe an occasional serving of tofu, for example, is going to cause any of us to have a recurrence, and is actually a very healthy source of protein.     Deanna