I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

Interesting, over years, a group of women come to know each other, support each other, learn whensomeone needs help, and form friendships.  Real friendships.

"Peer review" as been a well known aspect of BC.org.  Women checking threads to see if someone is experiencing something in her treatment, and if she can be of any help, with information about her own experience.  In the Spring of 2011, it seems, many women came on to the board with very absolute statements about "the medical industry?" against any kind of chemotherapy, and very negative about many of the procedures that have helped other women who post on this site.

I'm thinking, of the "Don't Do IT" thread attacking any kind of chemotherapy.  Not surprising, many of the women who have been posting on BC.org for years, also sometimes post on this thread.  It seems this argument in FAVOR of chemotherapy, based on individual situations, was seen as "bullying, policing, censoring" and more.  

It is easy to ignore a thread on the Forum: Growing Our Friendships After Treament."  If someone doesn't like the jokes, recipes, pet stories, camaraderie, FRIENDSHIP shared on a thread, then it seems obvious to ignore it.  IF a thread appears in a TREATMENT FORUM - and an individual feels it is important to add information to that thread - especially if someone is attacking a treament that saved her life, and the lives of many of her friends, I can understand a feeling of responsibility to share her experience.

That's Life - all you've done is attack whenever you have posted on this thread. You are attacking friendship, women who like each other, share information, sometimes disagree, and LEARN from each other.

Thanks Blue, for your long post.  I'm done with this subject now too.  Going outside to pick a bunch of Sugar snap peas, and sun gold tomatoes for lunch.  Hope all are having a cooler sunny day.  CS

eta: lovely to read thenewme's words

Thanks, Bren - we're only going to be in the 80's - and in the 50's at night. Big Boomers yesterday really cooled it down.

I too Love, Desiderata.  Had to smile, as when I noted it to the poster who uses part of it as her "tag line" on another thread - I was told to "stop bullying"  - hey, I meant, I LIKE THE POEM.  Jeeeez...don't go having good intentions when "bullying" is expected.

Hope Murphy comes home....

thats-life ... would you please consider that maybe you are here doing exactly what you are accusing others of.

Calling Linda 'Bugs Bunny; rather than her name  ... "I will let you get back to your frivolities" ..." take off your boxing gloves and you will find that you wont get half as much attention as you do at present ...or is it the attention you want".   Snarky and belittling and accusations.  None of this contributes to a kind and respectful atmosphere does it?  

'Board domination'" for years ... who told you that?  This thread and the alternative threads both are only a small ... tiny ... corner of BCO.  The real important stuff takes place elsewhere on the board.   

The members of this thread do not dominate this board ... nor do we wish to.  We do just exactly what you do.  We visit our friends and review the active topics and comment if our individual interests and experiences warrant it.  I haven't been to the alternative threads because I simply am not interested in them.  Those here who do have the interest go read and comment.  It is not a group thing ... it is an individual thing.

If your friends get emotional and start shouting at somebody to Shut Up and Go Away it's because some meanie is pushing their buttons.  If any of us ever gets emotional or upset it's because we are evil and mean ... how convenient.

It saddens me to see BCO given 1 star ratings all over some eruptions on what are actually very small and easily avoidable threads on this board.  How anybody who has been nurtured through their breast cancer experience on any of the diagnosis or treatment threads could then turn around and stick that knife in BCOs back is beyond my comprehension.  It seems to me like visiting someone's home, eating their food, drinking their booze, and then pooping on the carpet just because you didn't like the dessert.

Now ... if you would be interested in joining in our rather mundane but sometimes amusing conversations please pull up a chair and do so.     

(((HL)))

And, yes, what the wabbitt said!

oh almost forgot---last night's dinner was supposed to be ratatouille but then I thought the monsters might starve while I got it together.  So I baked a squash/tomato gratin in the oven (topped with chevre) and then fried the eggplant (salted and squished first) in walnut oil with garlic .  Served pretty much at room temp on top of millet (DH is on a gluten free kick sigh).  For the monsters I add one egg fried in the dregs of the walnut oil. 

Tonight will be a PNW version of  salad nicoise with salmon subbing in for the tuna.  I have the most adorable little purple potatoes. . . . .

Good luck, Libby!

Anne, I so hope Murphy comes home -- I know how hard this waiting is (my boyfriend lives in the Catskills and his beautiful indoor cat -- my "step-cat" -- got outside one cold and rainy night early in December, and was unseen for 4 days, while we plastered pictures on telephone poles, lit a candle, hoped and prayed, left a trail of unwashed clothes with "scent of Daddy" outside the house, tried to make peace with the possibility of her "joining the food chain" among the bears and such -- and on the 4th night she reappeared on the doorstep!).

BarbaraA, a sucky job sucks!  Hugs to you!

Mary, so glad your daughter is feeling better.  Hey, I work in the Gramercy Park area!  I can walk with you!  There are all kinds of walking tours in NYC, though I've never joined one, so my only recommendations would be something I googled!  I'll PM you...

Good morning everyone!!  Woke up and then went over and had coffee with my retired teacher friend - we try to do this at least twice a week.

Came back to pages and pages of new stuff - WOW

Ann - hope that Murphy is ok.  I lost my male cat for 3 days and was in a panic only to find him hiding in the basement of the house next door.  He doesn't go into that house anymore

I haven't figured out dinner yet - guess the first step is to go to the freezer and find something to unthaw but then again I won't be home until late tonight as I am going to ride my horse.

I've been busy clearing oak tree branches in my lower field.  I hate having to drive through the branches to mow .. I'm always afraid a bug or tic will get on me, so I started sawing down all the lower branches. I'm insane! It's 96 degrees out! There are about 15 trees that I have to cut and I managed to get only 3 done. Guess it's my new project.  Best left for early morning though!

3Mon .. I'm not sure I would want soda water in my gin.  I actually used to prefer it on the rocks with a little lime for flavor.

But a G&T sounds good now ... I'm hot, sweaty and tired!

hugs all round,

Bren

BinVa I agree with the low brances and ticks. Last week we too our cocker for her grooming, and found out she had a very large tick between her eyes. We never say it in her fur. Poor thing we have no idea how long it had been there.

I'll see if I can find a pic with a gnome.  I think some people like to display them with a gazing ball.

Bren

Bren,

Gnomes also work for Travelocity!!

Yes we have them on our deck as well. We have a small fountain, and it watches over the fountain.

Kira ... I'm laughing out loud!

Sewingnut .. who would have thought!

Anne .. I'm not giving up hope on Murphy.  I hope he's just hiding out somewhere, or maybe he is chasing a mouse.

Bren

Jancie if you happen to be on facebook - you can simply copy and pasted pictures into these boxes we write in...

other wise, click on the tree.  upload the address of the hosted picture, it has to be on photobucket or something, not your hard drive. just click the dimensions link.. it will automatically size it for you and then hit "Insert".