I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

I agree alamik.  I don't see why this site cannot be both serious and lighthearted...

thats-life-

that was absolutely not a joke on WornOutMom's thread -- it was a very painfully true probability that there would be few long-term survivors who were diagnosed as Stage 3 and HER2+ who chose no chemo and no herceptin.  This is a very painful thing to say -- I myself couldn't bring myself to say it on WornOutMom's thread -- but I consider that wimpiness on my part!  The women who said it were not joking and certainly not making light of WOM -- they were deeply, genuinely concerned for her. 

I'm so sorry you perceived it as a joke -- I don't know anybody here who would joke about something like that. 

p.s. how many members here are oncologists? to have the audacity to frighten members with 'you will die' posts...i honestly cant understand how people are not getting this point?

thats-life-, I've just been looking at WOM's thread -- she posted on February 22 and was deep in very thoughtful discussion at the end of April (midway through the thread).  She was very eloquent about her other health issues, and a lot of people were exchanging information with her about the possibility of getting Herceptin-only (which I really wish she could have done, and hope maybe she has been able to do -- she really wanted Herceptin). 

I totally agree that there should be kindness.  I do try to extend kindness -- and sometimes I "get into it" with people because I think they are being harsh or hurtful.  But usually, lately, I try to just PM the person the harsh comment was directed at, to offer support. 

'Morning all - Wow - to the Mods: this is very painful for those of us who have depended on BCO for support, knowledge and friendship - and who have donated to the organization. What the reviewers over there forget is how they once came here for support and received it. In fact, many of them, who gang up against BCO, met and became friends HERE.They are dragging the site's name through the mud because they cannot bully from within. They can no longer report posts with impunity or operate sock puppets that agree with and praise each other. There is nothing but ill will and absolutely NO intention of offering the public any real insight into BCO. Very cruel, and very defamatory. Legal action could probably be taken or at least a cease and desist letter brought to bear. Those people are playing with fire. 

I am very sorry to see Melissa targeted and falsely accused of being in cahoots with anyone. Melissa, you have bent over backwards to not take sides.

Thank you again mods. You have always been helpful and responsive to me.

And this thread is for everyone on BCO. We are not an exclusive group. We are public, anyone can post and we are more likely to welcome people seeking refuge from being harassed elsewhere on the board than anything else.  

Also, checking in on ((((Barbara)))) this morning. 

this is very painful to members who would like refuge from being harrassed too

bluedahlia, a few months ago, wrote:

.' I have
a pretty good idea who "they" are. Patzee is now sorry she listened
to them (my perception) and came up with this thread. So, you who think that
you need more people in your camp, be careful. The cat can be let out of the
bag quite easily. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!!!! Never leave a trail, even if it's
in cyberspace, especially if you don't know who you're dealing with.'

supportive? kind? refuge?really?

That's-Life - you don't know the history behind that statement so don't take it as read. Blue was being harassed long before you or I joined this site.

Morning Gals!

Lots going on last night and this morning.

thats-life ... funny you should bring up the Wagon Circle thread.  Yep, we had some disagreements from time to time, but we were also very close.  Last fall, I had 15 survivors to my house for the weekend.  We were all friends from the original Wagon Circle thread.  Those friendships lasted over five years .. quite an impressive thing .. and we're all still very close.  We no longer post on that thread, but elsewhere.

I sure hope this thread doesn't turn into a long drawn out discussion of who did what on what thread .. I prefer to talk about our daily lives and ups and downs.

Hope everyone has a good day,

Bren

deleted .. triple post!

Barbara .. hope your headache goes away!  I am so sorry your job is such a big problem right now.  I do understand, as I worked in Human Resources in corporate America for a very long time.  I know you have to travel a lot .. and that is so hard on you.

Sending you big hugs,

Bren

Hi Girls - DH and I have been counting up the money we don't have for our trip. I have been able to work out how much of my pay will be spare, so that looks good. I should claim it as spending money for me only I just wish the people that owe him money would pay up and we would be really happy. We have had to arrange a personal loan just in case they don't pay, but at least we can pay it back quickly when the cheques arrive. Only 2 weeks until we leave - eeek!!! I am SO looking forward to visiting every patisserie in Paris

Time for bed..will catch up tomorrow.

Sue

Honestly and objectively, the negativity comes from both sides - those who hang out on this thread and those who don't like the people who hang out on this thread.  I know I've had my moments.  There's a long history behind the animosity on both sides and unless we all let go and move forward, it'll continue unabated forever.  It reminds me of conflicts in the Middle East and elsewhere - conflicts rooted in centuries of inherited hate.

I'm going to try my best to let it go and move forward.  I hope you'll all help me with that.

E

Good morning, everyone!

It is cloudy and warm here, and I am enjoying my morning latte.

My hubby and I are planning our trip to NYC next week...woohoo!  One of our daughters was supposed to come with us --the one who had her wisdom teeth removed--but she can't take time off from work.  So....just hubby and I....mmmmm wonder what we will be doing?   

Barbara, I hope you're feeling better.  

ETA:  I agree enjoyful! 

(((((Barbara))))) I've had jobs like that.  My two thoughts on them were:  "I can't control how they treat me, but I do control where I work" -- and it always made me feel better to apply for other jobs, because at least I was taking action on my situation.  Don't know if it works for everyone, but it worked for me.  Glad you feel better today!

L

(((((AnneW))))) I'm so sorry to hear about Murphy!  I'll keep my fingers crossed and send "come home Murphy" thoughts west to you.  Forrest and Peaches (my kitties) add their "come home Murphy" thoughts as well.

L