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I also suggested, that since it's her favorite snack, she take a bag of microwave popcorn and place it next to her breast and see if she couldn't make this a more fun, rewarding and edible experience. I was envisioning the nurse firing off the radiation machine from the next room and suddenly getting a whiff of butter in the air.



My wife fears the radiation people may be harder to break in than the chemo nurses with our senses of humor.

Shemp - LOL at the popcorn! Hope you can keep the humor and your wife does well with radiation.

Hi guys ,
Talking about how the boards have helped.
I found a lump about a month ago, went to my gyn last monday he did a FNA it came back neg. but lump is still there I don't trust fna but at least it came back neg.
Denise had a FNA and it came back neg. and she had IDC.
SOOOO
I called gyn and told him my concerns he scheduled me to come see him again 2/7 , in the mean while I went to see my GP today for med refills (I have asthma and my happy pill) He did an exam doesn't like the way it feels and has
scheduled me for an Diagnostic Mamo and ultra sound and wants me to have it out asap. IF it weren't for the boards I would have taken the neg. and ran with it.

I wanted to let you know what was going on in case it turns out to be something. But I think it is going to be okay it is just I can't afford to blow this off need to get it checked out.

Cool! Your wife looks great - loved her as a blonde!!

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Shemp: Did your wife have any nodes removed? The greater the number of nodes removed the greatest the chance of lymphadema.

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Just 2, but the rad-onc nurse told us anytime you go in and mess with the lymph system, the risk is there, no matter how many nodes are removed. Who knows.

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Hugs to everybody (you too, Shemp--hope you don't mind)
Greg

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As long as it's not in that kind of way! Maybe one of those hybrid handshakehugs with one hand doing the handshake and the opposite hand giving a firm slap to the back of the other guys shoulder.

Hi Guys and Gals

My W had BS ed+, lumpectomy, months of rad, 7 years ago and took tamoxifen for 5 yrs. After BC surgery, her dog died, she was on Prozac [mostly about the dog] for 3 or 4 years.

In that time peroid she was addicted to shopping (QVC junk to the tune of $5,200 a year, has backed off that thank goodness), all new furniture, appliances, TV's, shoes and purses, any excuse for buying gifts, looking at new cars too. Only drives 4,000 miles a year and her car had 36,000 miles on it.

Needles to say, I want to support her but some things were/are out of control. I do what I can without being a door mat. Sometimes I feel like the parent and sometimes like a husband.

Enough about the relationship. I have been working on that too for 3 years now. Some progress but still a way to go.

I just started reading the BC forum. I read another forum about a year ago about women's aging issues to try to help my wife. She won't read any web information, so I kind of do it for her and us.

So many sad stories here ( example=age 26 with 2 kids) but I see a lot of spirit comming from the women with BC. No more swinsuit calendar for me. Yes ladies,people who complain about the color of motorhomes is trivial ( one BC survivor's story about stupid things healthy people complain about).

BCHusband2, I see you have a little more tact than I have. Good for you. I am not a troll, heartless, or a thrill seeker. I don't want to offend anyone either. I am rather direct but a caring person IRL.

On another thread I did ask some questions and was helped rather politely. I did chat one time to ask some questions and was told to get off. Not a pleasant experience, but I can kind of understand some women only want other women to read their posts.

Nothing much to add or ask right now. Just wanted to say BC impacts the [caring men] in the womans life.

Best wishes and huggs to all,
Lou

Carrie, although the chances of this being nothing are high, it's much better to be 100% sure given that early detection is so important. You are right we have learned a lot from this board!
I am still puzzled as to why some doctors are willing to roll the dice with other people's life and tell them to do nothing. I know... stats.... bla, bla, bla...
Glad that you are getting to the bottom of this.
Best wishes for you!!!!

Cowgirl: Hope you are getting better from the flu and make sure not to pass it to your goats!! Can goats get the flu?

Shemp: Good luck to you and your wife in the rads. Great job with the pix!

Greg: Hope your wife treatment for lymphodema works well. Question for you, mi DW has 3 LN taken out and shows no signs of swelling or trouble, however the onc suggested Joanna wrap her arm when flying for prevention? ever heard of this?

Alex

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the onc suggested Joanna wrap her arm when flying for prevention? ever heard of this?

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I've seen that mentioned several places. Probably worth the "ounce of prevention." I wonder how tight the sleeve is and if an Ace bandage can't do the same thing.



And hi Lou, welcome to the frat!

Hey greg here's picture of their goats the little girl in the atavar is my 3yr old grandbaby Koyri

Greg We want pictures of your guinea pigs! We have one I just love her!

The goats are still prancing around, they look so pretty, soon I will shave them and start making them all pretty everyday!

Hi all
I received my test results and I just wanted to give you all an update. I guess this lump doesn't look so good, it is poorly defined and somewhat spiculated. I have been on the boards for too long to not know that is not a good thing. I go thurs. for more views and to the surgeon on the 22nd.

I am keeping my mind busy, and trying no to worry as that is not going to change the outcome at all. And I say getting it took out is a good thing!!!!