MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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paula...that really ticks me off (sorry, could not resist:)
thank you all for being so loving- means a lot. I gotta say I am blessed with this darn PS- saw him today and well, he just never ceases to amaze me. I looked down and said- "Wow you did better than what God gave me" and he shook his head and said shhhh, whatever God gives us is the best, but when we have to, we just try to do the best we can....." Docs as a rule are not so humble and most PS would jump to being told their work was better that the big guy's....it really struck me- how serious he is about his work and that he is humble in the ways that matter...
here is hoping that everyone of us finds the very right doctors we need when we need them
going to sleep for awhile
be happy
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WOW....you gals have really went to town. Been off awhile. Went camping with the kids & grand kids last weekend then work all this week. Only got to check a couple forums maybe once this week. Who did the mystery pic last weekend? What was it? Who won? Guess I'll have to wait till tomorrow to see this weekends.
Lots of things been happening on here. Congrats to all who had surgeries, nipple replacement, etc.
For me, I would have to go with remission, since I know I'll never be free of cancer and that one day it will kill me. I'm just hoping that day will be many, many years from now. At least another 15-20 would be nice. My son still hasen't found THE ONE. I'd like to make it long enough for him to find that right person for him & have 1-2 kids.
Have a good weekend everyone!!!!!
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leisap, Last week's pic is at the bottom of page 411, if you want to look and see if you can figure it out. (That is kind of weird 'cause when I posted it, it was at the top of page 412...I did not know posts could move around like that???) The answer is in the middle of page 413. Barbe guessed it and should be posting a new one tomorrow. Stay tuned.
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mjbmiller, you did it...survived the back to work challenge. Hope you get to relax this weekend (although if you have to do more driving with son, is that even possible?)
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Valjean have a great time with the grandkids, hope you are able to relax and enjoy.
Hope everyone has a nice weekend!!
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LOL Annette, its good to see you up and doing well.
O I forgot Reesie, tell your son to be ready Labor Day weekend, I will be going back to tickland for one last fling. I choose him to be the tick magnet.
mjb its good to see you out and about also. I have been wondering how you are. I remember driving with my son. He scared the jeebies outa me whenever he drove. I wish he would be more Driving Miss Daisy then the Fast and the Furious.
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I got a letter in the mail today re my mammo. I "should call [my] physician for further guidance. It is important that [I] follow up on this recommendation."
Hmm..do you think the Category 6 is a concern?
Ok I know they have to cover their butts but I didn't get any dire letters from my bone and ct scans and they showed a lot more.
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After my mammo this year, I got one of those form letters in the mail 3 weeks after - already knew results. What idiots!
Ressie - Keeping fingers crossed everything turns out okay.
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I got one last week. Something like...you had a mammo (in Jan) and you should probably follow up on that. but if you're doing something else (like surgery, chemo, rads, maybe?) let us know.
Okay, maybe it wasn't exactly those words, but something like that. I guess it is nice that they follow up (sort of), but...
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Hi this is my first post on this thread. I an currently in the lull between chemo and rads and trying to get my head around the change. I've been lurking on a few of these boards and have found alot of good information being shared. Thanks everyone.
The letters they send out after mammos are crazy. I got one certified mail when they saw something last year. I never did like getting certified letters.
mjbmiller- I noticed we have very similar dx.but you are several months ahead of me. What type of surgery did you just have?
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Welcome, janinnj.
My onc is more on top of things than the former imaging center for my mammos. She called me last time to tell me they found something. She asked if I had recieved a letter which I had not. That letter took 3 more weeks to get! I have changed imaging centers after multiple screw ups. Like writing that they found something in the diagnostic mamo on my left breast when I only had it on my right! Or stating that I had a US and it was really a mammo.
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Off to bed finally.
Love the conversation on ticks because that reminded me I will have to watch out for them on my vaca. DD lives in the woods, tall grasses around & the ticks even like to hitchhike into the house. When we play horseshoes, I always tuck my pants into my socks ~ bummer when it is hot. The same DD that lives with/near the ticks
went swimming once at a lake also in the Upper Peninsula of MI & came out with a leech between her toes. She was in her early teens & FREAKED out. I know the entire campground heard her. It was soooo funny ~ later ~ after daddy removed it. We now call Indian Lake "Leech Lake". Be safe everyone. Take care.
Hugs ♥
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Janinnj - I sent you a pm response.
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This is a really hard post for me to write. I don't get on these threads every day, let alone more than once a day, and this thread moves sooo fast. I find that it's hard to keep up and I hate missing something so I find I'm reading back 3 or 4 pages every time I come on. I'm still working 9-10 hours a day during the week, and we have a trailer at a campground on weekends, so I soooo regret that I won't be checking this site on a regular basis anymore. I find I'm more comfortable on threads where 2 or 3 days is less than one page so I can stay up to date more easily.
Eli, I've loved being a part of your group, and I've "met" great friends here. I hope to see many of you on other threads, but I think I have to leave this one, as much fun as I've had and hopefully brought some fun to you too.
As I've said before, I truly love you all. Be well, stay strong, and be good to each other.
Thanks for the love sistahs

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Aww Marlegal, you'll be missed. Keep in touch!
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Marlegal- i can;t let someone so special like you go so I will just have to make sure to meet up with you on another thread:)))
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Annetek you're killing me here. Had to do a double take at the pic. Thought my eyes were getting worse again

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(((MARY)))
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Oh, Marlegal. It isn't saying goodbye, it's see you elsewhere. I understand completely where you are coming from. It feel awkward at times when you spend so much time reading to catch up that when you actually post the response is no longer on topic.
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Marlegal, First of all, I hope you will pop back in every now and then just to say you are doing well. You already know we jump from tpic to topic, subject to subject, so it's not like you'll be derailing any train of thought if you insert a post wherever.
Second, for me, it is a little disconcerting, all the people who have gone on with no mention at all. Not that anyone owes me an explanation, but I wonder about many of the ladies and wonder if they are just taking a break or if we'll never hear from them again. So, thanks for removing the question mark in your case..
Finally, I have said a few times recently (although privately, not on this thread) that for "new normal" to get a close as possible to "old normal" it will probably involve NOT visiting BC.org, or at least much less frequently. I can fully understand that, so I always think (past, present, and future) -- You go, girls!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Now with much fanfare, I would like to say Happy 2nd Cancerversay...to ME!

I am celebrating my surgery date, removal of B/C. What that means to me, exactly, and what I am celebrating, is that for my type cancer the risk peaks at two years, drops off slightly til three years, when there is an even sharper decline; and even tho' I live with the knowledge that I could recur 8 or 10 years out, the risk will always be at a lower percentage than it is right now. So, one more step onward. I'm heading downhill (risk-wise, I mean) and that's a good thing.
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Yay Elimar!!!
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Happy Cancerversary Eli!!!!! May they keep rolling on for years!!!
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{{{ELI}}} Happy dancing!
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Marlegal - You will be dearly missed sister - please try and pop in every once in a while to say hi and let us know you are okay.
Welcome janinnj - You have found a great place for information and support.
Eli - Happy Cancerversary - may there be many more.
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Congrats Eli, hope you celebrate today.
I am depressed today, acctually all week. Last Friday I called the PS office upset. The swelling went down in breast and the skin was sagging. I thought he was getting the excess skin. The nurse called back that yes the PS removed the excess skin and that what was left would contract, is this a bunch of hooey! I followup with him on the 13, I did not see him when the drain was taken out. I thought this would be over and I would be happy with the results. Not happy in TX.
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mjbmiller - What a bummer - hope something can be done to fix the problem (((HUGS)))
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Huh, was going to post something but was 2 pages back so now I forget! I understand where Marlegal is coming from, but I post when I can.
Elimar, I have almost the same stats as you, but are ER+/PR+ and I peak at 5 years. The 5-year mark is the most dangerous for ER+/PR+ women as it is a slow growing cancer and takes a bit longer to recur. THEN the odds go slowly down each year after that.
Oh! I remember!!!! You wondered what I would call someone with breast cancer who dies of something else? Dead!
What ever happened to the term REMISSION??? We used to hear that a LOT 20-30 years ago. Now it seems it's either all or nothing. So, I am in REMISSION. What are you in?
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Way to dodge the question. Barbe.
They don't use remission as much anymore because it doesn't accurately describe the condition of everyone who has had B/C. That would be discounting that some lucky women have every speck of (observable) cancer removed. Remission can also mean cancer known to be present, but stable and not growing. So, of the other terms, not counting "cured," I like to use "cancer-free" because doctors, tests, or you cannot prove that I am not at this point. To a lesser degree I say NED, no evidence of disease, which is basically the same thing, but "cancer-free" just rolls off my tongue better and I don't have to decode NED for women who aren't hip to all the B/C jargon words.
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My way of looking at this I always say.......
I'm a Survivor until its proven otherwise (every 4 months)
HI All♥.
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