Here's what cheezed me off today
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Dmom, these lines come from a very radiated brain! Or what's left of it.
Here's another one for you, when someone throws a hissy fit for no good reason, let them finish and say "And then what happened?" It drives them crazy!!!! -
rohanna- Since we have strayed off topic, this is my favorite way to shut anyone up. Whenever someone asks anything and you don't want to "deal" with it, just answer "I forget". They look at you like you have lost your mind and then don't bother you. When my son asks me "where is my jacket?" "I forget." When my husband asks me "When are they picking up the washing machine?" "I forget." Go ahead try it, it's great fun.
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DesignerMom, with chemobrain, it's the truth!
Leah
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Here is what really bothered me today. I had my first appointment with the radiation onc this morning. This treatment comes after two surgeries and chemo for me. While I was in the waiting room, a representative from the American Cancer Society come to talk to me assuming that I was brand new to treatment and generally treating me like I was ignorant of everything regarding cancer. I admit to having chemo brain, but I still remember a whole lot about breast cancer. All she did was push her programs without once asking me how I felt or how I was doing.
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Liz, that woman needs to get a new job! The FIRST thing she should ask you is where you are in your treatment. IDIOT! What was she doing there? I've never heard of that before. Sheesh!
Ok, this is going to gross you out, but here goes. For a couple of weeks, someone had been going into the back changing room and pooping on the floor. That's right, Pooping! At first the rad techs thought someone had an accident but it started happening every day. So the rad techs did some investigating and caught the culprit last Thursday. He was a well-dressed, well-spoken man of about 60. We had all noticed that he and his wife wouldn't talk to anyone in the waiting room and were very cold. But no one suspected him. He told the rad techs it was too far to walk to wait for the bathroom. It's 12 feet from the changing room!! He was totally unapologetic and was miffed that they were reprimanding him!!! Can you believe this? Now they make him wait to be the last patient of the day so the changing rooms can be cleaned overnight because he STILL refuses to use the restroom! He has prostate cancer and said it's more serious than breast cancer so he should be treated more fairly. Can you stand it? ARRGGHH! GROSS!!!!
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OMG, I just stumbled across this thread. I LOVE IT!
I can't complain TODAY, but dag I wish I had found you all before!!!
I'll be back to check in and vent soon!!!
Sharon
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Rohanna,
How disgusting for all of you to have to experience that. People can be very strange. Thank goodness he now has to come to treatment at the end of the day.
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Pup, welcome! Join us anytime. And feel free to vent about anything! We all have to put on a brave, happy face most of the time, but it feels so good to have a place to rant!
Elizabeth, hope I didn't gross you out too much. If I hadn't been there, I wouldn't believe it!
Dmom, I used a variation of your trick to shut people up. An annoying neighbor was whining about having her 3rd bad hair day in a row. Bad hair day? Really? I let her rant for about 30 minutes and when she finally shut up, I said, "Wait, what?" She said, " Since you got breast cancer, you just don't listen anymore." I said, "Yeah, I hear it can be permanent." She made an excuse and beat a hasty retreat. I have a feeling I won't be hearing about her stupid hair any time soon. YAY! How do these people find me?
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Rohanna, did the rad techs get in touch with a social worker about that man? That kind of radical behavior change is typical of Alzheimer's and can show up in its early stages. What he did was gross (to put it mildly!) but it would be a kindness to get him help.
Have to say, not only didn't anything particularly cheeze me off today but I had my Aredia infusion and finished EARLIER than I have since I started it - and it's been once a month for a year already!
Leah
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Leah, they took him into the RO's office and a lot of people met with him. I was sitting behind him in the public waiting room today and he was watching tennis with his wife on the big screen tv. He was rattling off tennis statistics past and present. I don't know about Alzheimer's but he does have some strange quirks.
Yay on finishing early! That's always a good thing! And a day without being cheezed off is even better! TGIF!
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Ewwwwwwww! You gotta love (should I say) how DIFFERENT we all are. Now, while I would never think of taking a dump in a community dressing room, or any dressing room for that matter :-), I would hope the techs would not only have this man at the end of the day, but would make sure to put an end it his "end."
How about leaving some doggie newspaper in there so he would recognize what type of man/animal he is behaving like... a dog perhaps???
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Rockym, you are cracking me up! I told the techs I would chip in for a package of Depends. They told me not to worry about it anymore because they are now escorting him to and from the treatment room. They make him go into the restroom right after he gets off the table. I asked if he has any mental problems and they said no, he's competent. They have no explanation for his behavior. Just proves my theory. Men are WEIRD! My DH says he probably just wants attention.Well, he got it!
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Can't we have at least a week without some situation to put us in cheezed mode...
So, my garbage disposal breaks down and I decide I'll buy a new one (did that yesterday) and that I would install it at my leisure today. There I am... all happy this morning while I get out my tools and I open my new purchase. What do you think happened?
Some damn a--hole had swapped out their old rusted broken one for the new one that should have been in there and put their old crud back into the box sealed it up all pretty. When I opened the box (much to my dismay), I didn't have a new ready to be installed disposal waiting for me. I had to go back to the store and get a "real" one and told the store they should have checked when the person returned it. At least they made it right and gave me 10% off the purchase and threw in a new power cord. I hope whoever did their dishonest deed gets karma back all over their face! Needless to say, the disposal went in easy and no more leaking under my sink. It's funny, but the same thing happened a few days before when I bought a new laptop. When I opened it up and turned it on, I got some strange DOS commands and was like, "This isn't fresh and new. Someone has messed with it." I took that back for an exchange (no problem) and went on my merry way. I suppose I should have asked for some compensation, but who knew :-). I was just happy they had another and the exchanged was easy.
So, what's up with these dishonest people?? I haven't had to open or check the contents of a box in years and now I don't have a choice since this happened TWICE in one week.
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Rocky, I am sending bad mojo vibes to all people who pull this kind of crap. May they wake up with an enourmous boil on their bums!!!!!! I hate opening up a new purchase and finding out some tool took some of the parts out and reasealed the box. Arrrgghh!
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Guess what? I'm NOT cheezed off today. I got GOOD news for a change. The onc said I don't need to do the genetics tests because the possibility for me to carry the gene is extremely small. In fact, he said he was positive I don't carry the gene at all and I should save myself the 3000 bucks! I went into the waiting room, grabbed my daughter and had a very public happy dance.
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good news rohanna HUGS
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Thanks, Juliet! I haven't had good news in such a long time. Hope you get good news this week too! ((HUGS))
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Yay! Every bit of good news helps! Maybe you could buy yourself something cool and fun to celebrate since you get to save the bucks. I'm off to the dr. tomorrow for another biopsy. Same area with a different concern. Then in the afternoon, I get to see my gyn for my yearly. I told my husband that my day with be filled with probing starting at my boobs and slowly working down :-). Maybe I should make an appointment to round out my day with some reflexology and end the day with someone poking and probing my feet :-).
Glad to hear the good news rohanna!
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I just called to reschedule my bone scan which they sent me notification that they had scheduled for me on a Wed. Wednesdays are not good for me. I just rescheduled the CAT to a Monday last week because they had scheduled it on a Wed. On Wed. I see the oncologist and either have treatment or am there for blood work...then I go on to work. On the Wednesday they had scheduled the bone scan, I was to go in for my injection at 9:30 and was to return at 1:30 and my appt with the onco is at 11;00.....not only would this be a lot of running around, he is never on time and I would be lucky if I made it back to the hospital for the scan before 1:30. The 1:30 I questioned also since it is always 3 hrs in-between so when I called to change it asked about this and the person in the scheduling dept at the hospital, said you are right...it should be 12:30. I said believe me, I have done this a lot so was sure it was 3 hrs. It is not the hospital's fault it is my onco's office where things are really going downhill. Everything is on computer's, they are allowing the business office to call the shots on scheduling, they are understaffed because unhappy nurses keep quitting and it is just a mess. Odd as it may seem, I used to actually look forward to my treatments because I liked all the nurses, you could relax back in the treatment room and visit with your friends and they would bring you snacks and a drink ( not a drink drink, but you know what I mean...soda, water, juice) and you could kick back in the lazyboy with a warm blanket if you wanted one. Now everyone is on the edge of their chair hoping it will be their turn next to even get accessed and the nurses are grumpy and you are lucky if anyone brings you a cup of water. It is a mess. Sorry I combines two gripes in one post....this one was supposed to be about scan scheduling and that was what cheezed me off today, but the root of the problem is the onco's office where they just don't listen to me when I ask they they please try for a Monday or a Friday.
Anyway, I really like this thread. The posts about that guy relieving himself on the floor had me laughing out loud.
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Thanks, Rocky! I am sending prayers about your biopsy. You're going to get good news too! I agree with you about the probing and poking. Somedays, I think they should just take us down to Jiffy Lube, put us up on the rack and give us the whole biz at one time!
Marybe, I'm so sorry about all the crap you're going through. Sounds like someone at the onc's office may have tried to cut corners and has pissed everyone off. How much longer do you have? It's bad enough to have this beast without having to put up with unnecessary bull*#~&! And if we try to explain this stuff to other people, they seem to tune us out. I ran into a former co-worker today and she looked at me and yelled, "Hey, you have hair!" Thanks, Stupid. Maybe I should introduce her to Poopy Man!
((HUGS))
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Hello, great post! Ohhhh how I can relate to your rants! It's a total frustration of ongoing problems that we try so hard to get beyond! I have had normal days....no wait....I meant normal now days.
Whats normal now is not what was normal a mere 16 months ago. Geez I found Rads to be so traumatic, that silent "suck it up" type where there isn't a person outside of the cancer world that understands this. Man, it was life changing on these boobs. I felt so sorry for any of you having to go thru radiation during the earthquake/psunami mess. Did you smile when they worried about a tad of radiation in food 6000 miles away, thinking, what the hell do you think we go thru. We are mincemeat?
I've had a friend who I've known for 23 years never call me again because I was too tired to go to her Christmas party. I had another friend [chicken crap] email me and say perhaps my medication is making me negative but she wished she had the old Linda back! [all along still depending on me to make her life better, but offering only criticizing remarks in return.]
One thing you learn from all the cancer trauma, is life is too short and too difficult to surround yourself with people like that.So I screwed that loose screw back into my head and dumped them both. It sure did make me realize that I did too much for others, and you know what? Those type of people I will no longer cater to, just to keep a friendship going. They don't have the capacity to give equally to a relationship.
So you see, we do learn alot about ourselves...and that I find to be productive!
Now if only I could master more than a few days a week of normalcy! My equipment is too heavy, my neuropathy has not subsided and I'm slowing down like crazy! Wahhh! Seriously considering Effexor. Can't power my way thru anything anymore. Off the Tamox right now.
My daughter is getting married 450 mi. away and I am too tired to get up there for all the fun stuff. I feel so left out. Going to the wedding of course, but ordinarily I'd have been up there 3 times by now. Damn cancer is so isolating! I really didn't expect it to affect my life this much, I'm usually a trooper....;
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(((Linda))) i can so relate to everything you said. I did not expect BC to effect me on all the levels it has...I thought BMX [check] chemo [check] take a pill every day [check] back to life as I knew it...not happening! Emotionally, physically, mentally - I am different. Fundamentally my personality is the same but that wonder women, I can do anything, I am invincible person is gone. I have physical limitations due to long lasting SE's and LE. I am not as sharp mentally and emotionally I am both grateful and pissed off at the same time. All the pink washing in the media paints such a 'rosey' picture of BC that when reality hits, it can be overwhelming.
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Thank rohanna! At least the doctor yesterday didn't bruise me up like the first one. Less cheeszed off today on this end :-). I was talking with my GYN yesterday about the probing and she was pretty funny. She thought I should have had an appointment with the dentist too (boobs, vag. and mouth) so that every hole could get some attention ;-).
As for the co-worker who said, "Hey, you have hair!" ... I think I would have been tempted ask if she was interested in seeing where else the hair grew back :-)
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souls, I can certainly relate to kicking the crappy people out of your life. Doesn't if feel good to get rid of the takers? I had worked with a woman for years and all she could do was make stupid remarks to me on Facebook after I was diagnosed. Stuff like, " you have to be patient. God will decide when to heal you." Or, "What happened to the one who used to make us smile? Being around you is so depressing now." Really? REALLY? This is the same woman who complained and cried for 2 days because her 23 yr. old got her bellybutton pierced! IDIOT! She's also the one who called me every few months trying to get me to help her get promotions and/or transfers. After she told me that bc had changed me and not for the better, I told her she was right, cancer makes you allergic to bull*%#@! Then I blocked her on my phones and on FB. And she's not the only one! I thought I would feel guilty but guess what? I feel relieved!! It sucks that cancer has robbed you of all the wedding stuff. But your daughter is going to feel so blessed to have her mom there. I hope you have an awesome time and that you have some time to rest before you go.
o2b, You've been through hell and back. (HUG) I'm finally giving myself permission not to be "the fixer" anymore. Yeah, people kept telling me that bc wasn't so bad. Look at Sheryl Crowe and Suzanne Sommers, and ad nauseum. I think it's criminal that some of these people don't come out and tell the truth about how totally sh*&%# cancer is. I felt such a weight from all the people telling me to "be strong". Then, I said to hell with it. Only people who have been or are there know what I'm going through. When people used to rag on my Mom (a 7 yr. bc survivor), she would say, "Remember how much puberty changed you? Multiply that by a thousand and you might have a glimmer of an idea how much cancer changes you. And if you can't deal with that, I can't help you." Took me a while, but that's my attitude now.
Rocky, you cracked me up. But you and the GYN forgot the proctologist!
I'm glad you had a better day yesterday. 'Bout time,huh? And I'm going to take your advice and drop trou' next time someone makes a hair remark! I'll probably end up on COPS! HAVE A WONDERFUL FRIDAY EVERYONE AND IF SOMEONE CHEEZES YOU OFF, FLIP 'EM OFF! (ooooo, bc makes you sassy!)
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Hi rohanna, rockym and o2b, thnx for the team support, i really appreciate it, but sad you guys have these things happen to you all. Good luck on your scan, maryb.
Rohanna you got it! Thnx for the smile today! Yup, feel like a no win situation sometimes, no one is more determined than i to stay on my feet, and i hate it when people have stupid assumptions about this disease when they have no clue. This takes phenominal strength to get thru, and i also don,t have patience for whiny, thoughtless people! Some people mean well, but just dont geti, nor the odds, nor the feelings we have. O2b you said it well. Dont ya love the fear factor people place in our brains of thinking positive or we will get cancer back. Or that we must have done something wrong so therefore the cancer comes back. Duhhhhh!
Take care! Going dress shopping wed. My sil is making me go. Lolol i said if its not at REI i wont like it, ha! -
souls, while you're at it, get some SHOOOOES! I love shoe shopping!
Here's praying we all have a good week. And all you stupid people, get out of our way!
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Don't you love it when you come home from treatment and you're so exhausted that you fall on the couch and instantly pass out for the first deep sleep you've had in weeks and a family member wakes you up to ask what's for dinner? Yeah, I know it's a run-on sentence! But, really? REALLY??? The answer is....whatever YOU cook!
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I especially love it when my DH stays up watching a movie with DD VERY loudly in the living room. And just about the time I fall asleep, he falls into the bedroom, stumbling around and knocking stuff over. Then he asks, "Did I wake you?"
"Nope. Not at all dear."
Now I sit here AWAKE while he's snoring away. Grrr...
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pek, I've made my DH start sleeping in the guest room till this is over. (Whenever that is.) He doesn't like it, but tuff! I always tell him we could always switch places!
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Rohanna,
You always bring smiles to my face and heart. Thank you so much.
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