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3Jays, I am SO HAPPY you got the Doctor to listen to you! I hope the meds start to work and do just the right job for you. Maybe you will be out tap dancing soon.
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thanks, Ginger.. i'll be happy going to the pool with my beloveds again...thanks for thinking of me.......3jays
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3 jays, I am soooooo happy the wheels are finally turning and going in the right direction. You sounded so much more upbeat on the phone last night and that makes me happy.
lostcreek, How sweet of you to think of me as dear.....obviously you have not taken to heart some of my posts about my husband. I hope your birthday party is a huge success, but am sorry it is just meaning more work for you. It is so typical of men to come up with these plans and then expect the woman to do the actual work.
Phyllis, So sorry your sister is being like that....she needs to be reminded of things you did above and beyond the call of duty in the past, but probably doing that would only stir up a fight and you don't need that now on top of everything else. Thank God for your SIL. Hopefully all will go smoothly and you will have a speedy recovery. You are not feeling sorry for yourself, you are just getting hit in the face with some reality that sometimes family can be not all we hope for.
I am not going to work today until 2 so that means I will have been off a total of two days.....some of it due to the fact I was just not feeling up to snufff and some of it due to scheduling. I wrote about this on Spirited and lively older ladies so won't repeat myself here. But I am happy to say I am feeling as normal as normal is for me these days today. And I got some sun and also did some reading in my time off so all of that is good.
The weather here today is beautiful. Have a great day my friends. MB
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Marybe glad to see you posting here again!! I can't possibly follow the "lively" thread, so I stay over here with the other slow ones......
Phyllis you are NOT asking to much. Lower your expectations though sweetie, it looks like you are expecting too much. I had to learn that the hard way too. I was alone to heal and it was better in a way. I could fall asleep on the couch or my bed, didn't matter. Could eat what/when I wanted, too. I guess I'm the kind of animal that would go to a hole in a tree in the forest.... Some people need someone around them, but you may find that the first week is enough and you don't even WANT your sister for the second week! If she changes her mind, tell her that you just asked to be nice, but your SIL had already taken good enough care of you. WaBam!!
Praying for Mecca 'cause that means I am ambulatory.....!
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I'm one of those who likes my own company when I am not feeling well. I just like that others could come and feed the animals and fill the 'fridge...but I do like to be left alone in my bedroom without someone always tapping at the door to 'see if you're OK' Don't even want feeding. I like to raid the 'fridge when I feel that way out, and not when others think I might be starving. My DD was very good when I had my BMX, but she spent more time watching TV and smoking than sweeping floors and doing laundry ! Just wish she'd have done what needed to be done, then gone to smoke in her own house. She knows I don't normally have smoking in my house, but it all seemed forgotten then...maybe she thought I had lost my sense of smell at that time !
Could really do with her help a bit this week, still not up to scratch, but don't like to ask ! I'm just getting what has to be done and going back to my bed, where I fall asleep, then can't sleep at night !! Still doing a dance with the hot flashes...which means extra bed linen to wash. My hair is a total mess. just hung there, cannot be bothered to do anything with it, and certainly can't get to a hairdresser and sit in comfort with a hot dryer wafting round my head !
Had DH having a major rant at me because I wouldn't be his driver for his frozen shoulder op. this last Tuesday, and his forthcoming knee op. next Monday !! I put the 'phone down on him in the end. He can get a taxi, I am beyond sick of him at the moment !! I was hoping the spat we had last week would have stopped all contact. Well, from his side it has, he knows I haven't been very well, and has not offered help, yet when he wants me to get out of bed at 5am to get him to hospital 2 days ago he is on the 'phone to me !!
My dogs are all behaving themselves while I am upstairs. I was expecting trouble from them, leaving them to their own devices for most of the day, but they just tend to lay out and sleep. I have left one door open for if they need to have a trip round the garden, but even the lively youngsters are not causing much trouble...that I can hear !!! I am taking 2 Sausage dogs up to bed with me. If there is to be trouble it will be these 2 that will cause it !! They are enjoying being singled out and allowed upstairs with me....if only they knew they are upstairs to save themselves from being throttled by me for troublecausing...little devils.
Isabella.
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Isabella, I am sorry you are still ailing. Your DH is really a DH and I don't mean dear. Good idea taking the troublemakers with you.
Marybe, on pins and needles for mecca. Hugs, gal pal.
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Marybe - glad you are up to doing a little of your normal routine.
Isabella - you need to ask for help when you need it and be specific as to what you want help with. Sorry you are not feeling well, but at least the pups are behaving for the time being. I think they sense when the ones that love them are not well. Good idea to take the 2 touble makers out of the mix. Your D@%#*&!H can fend for himself. Take care dear one.
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i really can't comment on anything tonight. got a shock when i went to the dr. thats' been handling the infections for years...
he said everyone (including me ) has jumped the gun, and that they need to look for the reason my TSH jumped so much, so quickly...make sense, but i feel pretty hopeless right now..
tommorrow i go to get an ultrasound of my thyroid, then, he wants me to see the idc dr. he thinks nhe gave me the bums rush, and that it lies in infectious disease, somewhere... he looked at my prev TSH: which i didn't have.. since MAY i went from a 2 to a 5; and thats' VERY serious, i am told... so, here we go again....
i just feel so discouraged. he told me to STOP the synthyroid, till we know i need thsat, and not some vanco; or whatever. so, its' all on hold again, for further testing...worse, i know have to wait for 2 weeks, bc i took synthyroid for 3 days, and the TSH will be affected...the ultrasound may find physical things wrong with thyroid/from nodes, all the way to cancer... onto the roller coaster i go, again, with uncooperative drs.; and noone really overseeing it...
so, after, ultrasound, its' back to the IDC dr., and my ent will do a conference call with him... if he agrees. i need more prayer than i thought, apparently....
all my friends are here, on this site, what i wouldn't give for a friend HERE; or my boys to give a damn!!! it is what it is, though...onward........3jays
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3jays - I am so very sorry to hear that you are having to go through all of this yet again. I wish I could be there with you to help even if it was to just hold you hand. Know that all my thoughs and prayers are with you and I will put you on all the church prayer chains I can find. I know this is so difficult for you. I think BarbA is planning on coming to see you over the 4th weekend sometime. Know that my spirit is there too. Love you dear one.
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3jays, I too am so sorry to hear this, when you (and all of us) were feeling so hopeful. It does seem like a case of no dr knowing what another is saying or doing, and I so hope they will confer and work together to most benefit you. How I wish I could transport myself to your side. Hugs and love (and many prayers) going your way.
Kathy
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Hi all sorry to go MIA but I'm back.
3jays I praying like mad that you get some good info....what is it with those docs, they are all contradicting each oher and doing you not one bit of good for you. Hang in there girl you've got to be good for Mecca!
Marybe so glad you are feeling more like yourself.....you did say when you were having your scans but I have forgotten....is it soon?
Isabella sure hope you are feeling better soon and don't let that D(?)H get under your skin.
Phyllis it just aweful when you can't rely on family to do right by you......unfortunately, some people are givers and others takers and it sounds like your sister is a taker. Just know that we are always here for you.
Kathy I have osteopenia but I don't use any of the so called bone building meds but I do use the Alternatives to strengthen them.....so far so good. Hope you find what works for you.
You will be pleased to know that my friend came through the surgery just fine and is heading back to the city this weekend for her nuclear treatment. She says to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.'
I'm heading back to the city on Tuesday for my check up mamo and to see the BS. I'm not expecting any problems, in fact I feel it's a waste of time but a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do....ho hum!
Love n hugs all. Chrissy
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(((((((3Jays)))))))
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{{{{3jays}}}} I am coming to see you Tuesday if you are up to it. {{{HUGS}}}
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Oh for heavens sake 3jays!! Are you telling me no one has ultrasounded your thyroid?????? Stupid people!
Isabella, use my tip. Sleep on a large bath towel and one over your pillow too. You will be able to sleep right through a flash....
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(((3jays))) Keeping candle lit.
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Maya, dashed off an email bf doing the ultrasound...
thanks for the prayers and well wishes, candles lit, ladies.. im down, but (I hope ) not out!!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>3jays
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Nope, you aren't out, 3jays.....Far from it. You have all of us holding you up.
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All of us 3jays!
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All of us 3 jays!
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All of us 3jays!
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thank you for that, ladies.. i KNOW thats' true.. had ultrasound; the tech highlighted a LOT of spots..which means nothing to me... when i asked, (I know they're not allowed to say) he said "the radiologist has a few spots he'll need to check..and then...he says "you DID have breast cancer, right? is
said yyes..then, he says, "when they removed some of your epiglottimis, was that cancerous, also?"
i;m not wishing for cancer, buut, my DIL has survived thryoid cancer 2xs; so i know even at its worst; its doable...has anyone ever heard bc to cause mets to the thyroid? i've not; but anythings possible...bc mets would, of course, change tx...but cart before th e horse!!
we will get the results in 4 days, 'cause of 4th of July.. in the meantime; onco wants me in on tues for bloodwork. she wouldn't tell me whats wrong, she wants to repeat some tests..
i look at it this way....somene's finally DOIG something... doesn't gaurentee me getting to an endo; but its' a better chance now, at least...
Enough worrying: whats' everyone doing for the 4th? im hoping to see grands, but don't think i will... therefore, Flanigans, for a juicey (not on the bc diet) and a big ceasar salad!!!back to bed... 3jays
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Awe 3jays....(((((hugs))))) to you lovely girl. One thing for sure is now they seem to be taking you seriously....at last! I'm with you!
Love n hugs. Chrissy
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Big hugs 3jays.
I have been sensible for once and went to the doctor yesterday. (My doc was away and got this lovely young man who was so sweet.) Have had funny swelling sort of under my arm on the non BC side which I have tried to ignore for the last couple of weeks. I decided it was just a swollen lymph node and would go down but it hasn't. Dr thought it needed looking at and so will see BS on Monday, dr wanted me to have tests first then see BS but when I rang to make appointment they said no see BS first and she will probably want an ultrasound done.
But I wasn't sensible and didn't wear my sleeve to the gym so my LE is not good, oh well.
Hope you all have a good holiday weekend.
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Big hugs 3jays. I am hoping to see you on Tuesday when we drive back from Miami Beach. I will call you this afternoon. DH is playing at a local beach bar this afternoon/evening then they will shoot off fireworks then tomorrow we are heading to Miami Beach to see my maid of honor and her BF. So fireworks on Miami Beach Sunday and Monday. Should be fun.
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Yay Alyson, you did a good thing!!!
Well the rain that has been threatening all week has finally arrived! Hard and heavy to begin with but gentle and steady right now.......good for the garden, it will give it a really good soak.
Hope you girls in Canada a enjoying your National Day and you girls in the USA have a Happy Independence Day!!! What ever your plans I hope you really enjoy yourselves!
Love n hugs. Chrissy
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Happy 4th weekend and Canada National Day to all. Enjoy it, everyone!
Love to all,
Lane
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3jays, Isabella and Phyllis, my love and thoughts to you. Phyllis, sorry about your family. 3jays your doctor is a tough one. I hate any kind of medical interaction. Isabella, sorry you're feeling so badly. If I had 2 sausage dogs I would definitely take them to my bed!
Just back from a trip to California to visit my son and some friends. We have one of those old Airstream trailers and it's a cozy little bungalow! It was 106 degrees in Sacramento, then later rained cats and dogs. Good to see old friends, but a little depressing as they're mostly at least 10 yrs. older than I am and still doing lots of things--working, traveling, etc. I had a little moment of self pity as I seem so much more "rickety" than they are!! Couldn't breathe down there as this is the allergy season. And now I have pain in my left hip for some reason. Did have some great food though!
Glad to be home in Portland--Oregon feels much more like home to me now as we've been here 5 yrs. It's so green, especially this time of year. We're going on the road again, this time to the Sisters Quilt Show in Sisters Oregon. Going with DD2, and her family. Two kids along which will be fun.
Hope everyone has a great 4th July.
Best thing about travelling? My dog Ozzy gets to sleep on the bed in the trailer and cuddles up all night. Something about a dog on the bed just makes me happy.
Love to all,
Lynda (Dragonflymary)
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3jays - Glad someone is finally doing something, I hope it leads to finding out what is really happening with everything.
Lynda - sound like you are doing a lot of traveling for someone that is rickety.
Alyson - you did the right thing by going to get checked out.
Looks like we will be staying close to home. DH has to work on the 4th so we will just be going to the neighborhood party at the pool from 4 - 7 then home to watch fireworks on TV. Hope everyone has a wonderful safe holiday where ever you are and whatever holiday you are celebrating.
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Amyjo, you're right! I can still travel and should stop complaining. Plus I have a cute dog!
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