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Reesie - when I was done chemo and my hair was growing back, my hairdresser told me she wouldn't color it for at least 6-8 weeks because she had seen disatrous results on other patients with chemo-new-baby hair. By the time it was safe for me to color, I had rec'd so many compliments on the various shades of gray that I bagged it!! Of course, I was almost twice your age at the time and I'm sure that factored in. Good luck hon.
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mjbmiller congrats on getting the drains out and going shopping. Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Haha twice my age. Boy you must age very well Marlegal since your about 100 now lol. Thanks.
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mjb, I hope you're feeling better today, and still better tomorrow. gentle hugs
jenn, congrats on good scans!!!!
Jo, adding another wooo hooo for no appts till Sept

Lynn, hoooo rraaaahhhhh for last chemo

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El, save me some of that chocolate cake it has been a very tough week.
Would any of you like a piece of fresh strawberry pie??

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yarps, so sorry for your news, but so glad you found this thread on the boards ... we'll let you cry, but help you laugh too. gentle hugs.
reesie, that would be awesome for you to go back! I went back months later - I wore a wig or bald all through rads, so they all did a double-take when they saw me with my own hair. It was good for me that they saw me "normal", and then I left and knew I never wanted to go back

Okay, I'm still two pages back but can't read any more tonight. If you posted on last two pages and thought I might respond, I'll catch you tomorrow or Friday!!!
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carrollyn - The strawberry pie looks yummy!
marlegal - How are you doing these days?
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C-79, If only you could see the knife scratches on my monitor from trying to get a slice of that pie!
marlegal, to really stay caught up, you must forsake all household chores like the rest of us.


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Hi everyone,
Congrats on new babies new sil(way back) birthdays, finishing treatments and welcome to all our newbies. This is a great forum you never know what is on the topic list for the day.
Popping in - I am about half way through rads
tired but not overwhelming still working full time. Hair is definitely visible again but baby fuzz. I heard no coloring til 3" but have not asked yet.
MLB hope all is well.
Jean -
Hi ladies Up early last chemo yea. After this move on to the next journey.
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Good morning everyone. Does anyone know if rads can interfere with my monthly period. I am having a hell of a time this month. Usually very regular. This month, thought it was starting, then stopped. Terrible cramps, sooo tired. Had to lay down right after work yesterday.
17/34 today, half way there. Have a great day all
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Paula66, are you also in the middle of rads now?
JeanH, how is your skin doing on the rads?
suebak, I haven't heard about that happening...but we all know stress can change things up and treatment times are stressful.
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Poop....I just called the RO's office and my RO won't be in on Wednesday next week until the afternoon (I have another Dr. appt. in the a.m. but a little later - it would have been a perfect time). So I'll have to save my visit for another time. But now that I have it in my head it's going to bug me until I get to do it.
Barbe1958 - I definitely wouldn't be surprised if she didn't recognize me. Not only was I in a wheelchair I think I had hair then

Maybe not, though, it was a follow up appt.
Speaking of recognizing - when I went to the gyn a couple of weeks ago her nurse asked how my DH was doing. Now he's only been there with me once - and she remembered him. Hmm...should I be jealous? J/K
Speaking of pies...Tastycake is selling Watermelon Pies now. I'm not sure I'd want to try that.
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reesie,
Watermelon pie sounds bland. I bet the nurse doesn't mix up her patients.

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lynniea - way to go last chemo today!!!
Hi everyone, and welcome to any newbies! Unfortunatley I've been real tired after starting back to work 2 weeks ago and have not done much posting. I am such a wuus, only working 3 days a week for now and it's making me crazy that I can't do more. By the time I get in the car at the end of the day I want to just nap in the parking lot. Yesterday, after taking care of 5 or 6 tasks that the rest of my co-workers put off for months (because of the pain-in-the-butt factor was too high for them) my boss jokingly said "when are you coming back full time?" He seems to appreciate my, "let's just get it done" attitude, it's apparently a lot better than my old "no way" negativity-life certainly changed in the last year...LOL! Anyway, I really can't give enough credit to all of the incredible women that worked during active treatment.
I hope everyone has busy plans filled with family and friends for the long 4th weekend!!
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lynniea...last chemo today...
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Elimar I didnt have to do rads. I just had to do the Chemo and Tamoxifen.
Congrats Lynniea!
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kal1865 - give yourself some time, your energy and pace will increase over time. After going back to work during my first round with this mess in Jan 2010 I can remember feeling so drained and not in the best frame of mind. It was really hard to get back.......... My bosses gave me a raise realizing how much I did and appreciated me more after being gone, but it felt like the expectations to get back to the old me were there and it seemed to drain me even more. The expectations were there, but only because I placed them on myself. I did get back to my "old" self over time and it felt wonderful. I just recently went out again, probably won't be back this time. But, my relationship with work is still good. (((hugs))) give yourself time.
RE: Chocolate - I don't crave it the way I used to, but if I get a good piece of dark chocolate (w/rasberry) I sure do enjoy it!!!!
Hope everyone is having a great day.
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Hi. I've been lurking on bco since my diagnosis in April. I finally decided to join when I found this thread. About me, had my first mammogram at age 40 in 2009. They saw micro calcifications in my right breast. They said probably nothing, will follow up on that breast in 6 months. Left breast was clear. Fast forward to April 15, 2011. I went for my second 6 month follow up on just the right breast. I thought it would be the same as the previous April. Looks the same, we'll just keep watching it. Boy was I wrong. They saw a nodule in my right breast. Dr thought it was just a papilloma. They did an ultrasound. Sent me to get a core biopsy the following Weds. Got the news on the 22nd that the tissue was pre- cancerous DCIS. Thought I'd just have to have a lumpectomy, rads and take tamoxifen for 5 years. My breast surgeon decided to do a stereotactic biopsy on the calcifications. Turns out the area was pre-cancerous as well. Dr said looks like a mastectomy is the way to go.
I have a family history of breast cancer, my maternal great grandmother, maternal grandmother and maternal aunt all had it. As a result, my dr sent me for I BRCA 1 and 2. No mutations were found. I am glad for that, my mom, 3 sisters, and my daughter won't have that worry on their backs. I opted for a bilateral mastectomy because I was concerned that this could could come back in my left breast in the future and be invasive. I had my surgery a week ago today. My breast surgeon called me today to tell me they didn't see any invasions, so surgery seems to be my only "treatment".
I look forward to getting to know you all. I pray for your healing and look to your strength as I am on this journey. -
Welcome enngeeemm69 (I had to copy and paste that, didn't want to miss any letters). Sorry you had to join us here. There's a great bunch of gals here. We can answer any serious questions you have, any silly questions, or just listen to you vent.
We're known to share all sorts of goodies from chocolate to cheetos to Virtual Man. The best part is VM will do any cleaning you want when you get him and the food is all calorie free. Feel free to read back to the beginning (all 400+pages) or just jump right on in.
Well, I'm busy not working again...guess I better get back at it.
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Welcome enngeeemm69 - Sorry you had to join the club but this is a great bunch of gals and we do tend to have fun but can get serious when we need to. Come here often to ask questions, vent and have some fun.
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enngeeemm69 glad you joined us here although hate that you had a reason. This is a great place for support and to ask question. Don't hold back
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enngeeemm89, well, right away I've got to have a high opinion of you, that you chose this thread to throw back that cloak of anonymous lurking and step out into the crazy world of B/C by doing just what I always invite any Newbie to do: JUMP RIGHT IN.
If you have been reading for a while, you sadly know that there are SO MANY of us having to deal with B/C in all its forms. Glad your surgery went well...do you still have some drains in place? You did get some good news on the BRCA, also that there was no invasion. Do you take Tamox. or not? If not, what kind of followup do you do... the 6 mo. exams for five years?
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Welcome enngeeemm89...I'm new to the forum too. I hope you recover quickly from surgery...
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Enngeeemm89-Sorry you had to join this group also. I must say, this is the place to be, if bc has become a part of your life. I have learned so much from these woman. They listen, laugh and vent with you, when need be. Everyone here understands what you are going through. I honestly think my DH is a little jealous of BCO, I spent every free moment here. Oh well
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jenn3, thinking about you...hope you are feeling more like your strong self today.
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Thank you Reesie, jo1955, Sherryc, Elimar, Barb58, and Suebak for the warm welcome. I have always been a "lurker" on message boards. This diagnosis has forced me to seek out people in my age group for support. I have many girlfriends around my age (late 30's to early 50's) and not one of them has dealt with breast cancer. This hasn't been like when I got pregnant for the first time where I could pick up the phone to discuss pg symptoms with my girlfriends. Heck, even when my second pregnancy was twins I still had two girlfriends who'd just had twins themselves to lean on for support. I really am happy to have you all as my support for my, unfortunately, not unique diagnosis. I am going to be the "pioneer" for my girlfriends, in terms of bc, I guess.
Elimar, I do still have two drains in place. I had a tummy tuck for my 40th birthday present, so I am painfully familiar with them. The one thing that has confused me with the drains this time is that I am not taking an antibiotic. I took it a few times while in the hospital after the mastectomy last week. Anyone else take antibiotics the whole time they had their drains? As far as I know, I don't require any further treatment. I have an appointment with my breast surgeon tomorrow. I will get the pathology report then. I'll let you know what I find out. Take care. -
enngeeemm69 - I can't help you with the drain issues - I had a lumpectomy but I do know that there will be others that will come along and answer your questions.
Please do let us know what your path report says.
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Welcome enngee, I can't help on drains either. I had a lumpectomy and one drain.
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