Trouble making a decision
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Ruth: great analogy!
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I am OK, but there are whole towns in the northern and western parts of the state being evacuated; I'm watching scenes on the news of main streets 7 FEET under water....and know people personally who are losing their homes.....
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Some of the pictures on TV look surreal. Hoping you're well out of the path of any potential flooding. I'm sure you must be feeling awful for the people you know who are affected.
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I am going to make out one check to the Red Cross and one to the Salvation Army; both who are on the front lines when things like this happen.
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ifyoucandream, It is not the OncoDx, but the BRCA testing, which tell whether your type of B/C can be passed on genetically.
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Hey Dexxy, since you are very local, I recommend you contact Breast Cancer Connections in Palo Alto. They are excellent, excellent people. They have a huge library and do wonderful support groups. they have evening Q&A sessions with local experts, like plastic surgeons and oncologists and you can get many points of view on the best path for you. They are on cambridge street in Palo Alto.
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I'm 40, misdiagnosed for over 1 year. I was told it was a benign fibroadenoma. After numerous mistakes along the way by health care workers, I insisted it be removed. DX: 1 cm idc with mucinous features inside 6 cm DCIS. Grade 2, but slow mitotic count (scored only a 1). Does this mean that the chemo will not be effective against my cancer because it grows more slowly? I had my bilateral mx, no rads recommended. Oncotype has been recommended but not ordered and since my med. onc. appt. will be 11.5 weeks after the primary was removed, I suspect they won't even bother with Oncotype. SNB was negative and no sign of lymphovascular invasion. I know that they will not recommend chemo, just Tamoxifen. However, I am scared not to do the chemo. I am in Canada and don't like the wait and see approach here. Any thoughts? TIA.
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hi dexxy...hahaha i like the pact idea, sounds good to me. I really feel strongly about having chemo but my low grade and low oncotypedx score makes me think my onc will refute. i see him tomorrow. I had a mammo after I found the lump myself and the mammo did not show anything because the tisse is too dense. It showed up on the ultra sound immediately and was diagnosed on the spot on 3/1/11. it has been very fast and a roller coaster to boot. i know that chemo should supply more of a benefit then a risk but peace of mind that i did everything is not part of the numbers that get produced. either way it is a tough decision and I wish none of us were in this position.
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Hi ladies, Well Here it is I've made my Decision.
I"M DOING THE CHEMO!
yep that's right, I want to thank all of you out there that helped just talk this thru. I know some of you may not agree with me but this is the best decision for ME. I really thought about the people in my life and my life, how great it is and will be. If I can increase my chances of that life continuing I'd be crazy not to do this. I'm also very fortunate to be able to be a part of one of the trials at UCSF, I will be using the DigiCap. Being a part of this trial has empowered me, it gave me back a little of "Me" it that makes sense. Helping get this machine approved for all women and giving myself better odds sounds pretty good to me. I'm feeling more like myself, this whole process was just so, out of control, not knowing which side was up. I now have my bearings.
SO I start next Thursday July 7th, I have my chemo teach class on June 30th. So if any of you have any suggestions or tidbits please let me know.
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Dexxy, I'm so happy that you have made the choice that is right for YOU. That's all that's really important. I will be watching to see how you are doing. I have no advice for you.....but you do have my support! Hugs,Suzanne
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Congratulations on making your decision, and making the one that is right for you.
So, chemo tips: Start making and freezing protein snacks. Each serving should be around 2-3oz. During my chemo months I had: quiche, meatballs, chicken pot pie, steak tips, fish cakes, lamb stew, etc. Then just before each chemo day I would boil some eggs, stock up on small yogurt containers, stock frozen fruit, and clean out my water bottles. A friend made a crock pot of steel cut oatmeal at the beginning of each week to have an easy breakfast. I had a husband who made me oatmeal for breakfast before I woke up.
I found that many small meals during each day was the only way I could eat successfully. Oh, and during the decadron high, I made a bunch of mashed potatoes which I could warm throughout the week.
The only other tip is to have clean sheets on your bed for your "down" days. For me that was day 5... for me, clean sheets makes feeling less than perfect better.
Good luck!
*susan*
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Dexxy, wishing you only the best, and may you have as gentle an experience with chemo as possible. -
Hi Dexxy.....believe it or not, you are through the hard part of this journey. Having a treatment plan in place is a major milestone. Congrats on getting there.
Being in a study also is a great place to be. You get monitored very closely, and you get to feel you are giving back.
I am sure all will go just fine. Not fun, but you'll be amazed at how easy other challenges in life turn out to be after going through breast cancer treatment.
Good luck and thrilled you are moving forward. - Claire
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Dexxy: Glad to hear you've made a decision that you are happy with. I'm sure like most of us you now feel much more calm and at ease.
I'd agree with Susan about planning ahead foodwise. There's a couple of nice threads I referred to prior to chemo Tips for getting through chemotherapy and More Tips (and a Shopping List) for Getting Through Chemo. Please don't be scared when you see the sheer number of suggestions for dealing with the SEs. These are lists built over time based on the experience of multiple women undergoing many different kinds of chemo treatment and you may be one of the many women who experience few SEs. You might want to glance at that and see what you have at hand. I wouldn't go crazy though stocking up on everything it mentions. It's not like you are going to be completely cut off from the world while you go through chemo. You will likely be able to do all your normal stuff most days.
I found it useful too to join with other women going through chemo at the same time. TC is one of the more common chemo regimens so you should be able to compare notes with others going through very similar experiences at the same time as you. There is a July thread already started. See Is there a July 2011 group?
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Hi dexxy. What Claire states is correct, you are through a tough part making a decision.
I've been through 2 TC treatments to date and have my next July 5. What surprised me the most, is they aren't that bad, the build up in your mind is worse than the actual infusion. I've sailed through with basically fatigue on day 3, that's it. I did keep a log after each tx so I could know what to expect for the following tx and was proactive. For example my tummy was a little rumbly the first tx, I took prilosec. For the second tx I took prilosec the day before tx and 5 days after and encountered no problems whatsoever.
MaryNY gave you great advise to read through the tips and shopping list threads. There are many great tips there.
Also if I remember correctly you went to a naturopath, listen to their advise. I'm seeing an integrative onc, and her advise is right on the money as far as I'm concerned. My se effect free experience and blood work is proof of that. My hemoglobin is actually rising from borderline anemic of 11.4 to 12.2 DURING chemo, this took place in the last 2 weeks. Make sure you eat Adequate protein each day to protect your lean muscle mass. Exercise to push the drugs through your body, drink lots of water, days before and days after chemo to keep it flushed.
You can do it and come through strong. Wishing you all the best.
Debby
Edited to add: heed advise of naturopath, but run the supplements etc by your MO for approval. -
People are right when they say the decision making is the hardest part. Now you just 'get 'er done". Remember all the possible SEs are not all the ones that will happen. Drink lots of water, get at least a little bit of exercise (more if you feel like it), and maintain as normal of a routine as you can (of course, listen to you body), but if you stay active and involved in other things, you have less time to sit around and 'dwell'. Best of luck! We are all rooting for you. Ruth
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thanks girls! I'm so lucky to be able to just jump right in, they were fabulous at getting me scheduled. I'll go over the things you've reccomended. Is it bad that I don't have questions for my nurse?! i just want to "get this party started"
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No its not bad that you don't have questions for your nurse.
I have learned so much here that I did not have any questions. Only requests
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Just make sure to run your supplements by the MO, the ones that the Naturapath has you on.
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I would do everything possible to prevent a recurrence as you have a genetic predeposition to cancer. You may regret it later, if you don't use all options. I would also continue to rely on your herbs, supplements, and acupuncture etc....as I'm sure they will help as well. There will be some women on here that will chime in that chemo is really bad for you, it destroys the liver, etc....I agree with them in many respects but it has been shown to work and it's all we have at the moment. It is a necessary poison to get rid of a potentially immortal, unatural cancer.
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Yea dexxy~
I hope you are feeling peaceful...
Have you had time to look at the Cold Caps thread? I used the Penguin Cold Caps and they helped me tremendously to feel "in control" of my situation. Although they are not the same caps, feel free to PM me anytime.
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