MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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Funny, I saw my first lightning bug of the the summer last night. Love to see them, but they favor a particular tree and when I mow they are not as fun as at night! As a kid, we also collected locust shells off the trees (gross huh!) or wear them like jewelry on our clothes. HA! But 90 miles west we don't have many of them. I miss that lulling buzz in the evening. What I do have now are the UP trains going by, just a few blocks away. When I first got married I thought I would never sleep because of the constant whistle (we have 75-90 trains go through daily/nightly), but now I don't even hear them.
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I miss lightning bugs--we don't have them down here in Florida. We do have love bugs. Not the same. ICK.. Twice a year for about 3 weeks at a time, these silly bugs fly around really slow in full mating position. Attached. To each other. Love explaining that one to the kids! They mate and then they die. that is after they have plastered everyones cars with their lovestruct bodies. Yep, I'll take lightning bugs any ol' day!!
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Sherry I hope your DILs mom is feeling better.
DH just went back to firefighting after taking a leave of absence for a couple of months to take care of me (he and my three kids are volunteers). The just got back from a call and it was funny listening to my DD lecture him because he skipped a call the other day (it was at 3:30 am).
Turns out on top of having to deal with her brother driving the engine (which of course she hates) the only other person that showed up was a probie so she got to be the officer in charge and the probie ( who happens to be my age) didn't listen to her. She reported him to her chief but then gave her Dad a good dressing down about skipping calls lol. -
love lightening bugs as kids they are so much fun!!
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Huskerkkc, you would have had a blast around here this month with all the cicadas around here. Thousands of them. The noise was mind numbimg. You would have really hit the jewelery department for sure. They were the 13 yr ones, so they had to get busy and get there freak on so the could lay their eggs so in 13 yrs they can come back. I will take the lightning bugs anyday.
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I'm with you Paula66. Mind numbing is a good word for the cicada sound, and I don't need anything else hampering my mind, really i don't.
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Hey Middies, I know most of you circulate around the threads on here like I do. Well, I have found one new thread, in particular, where it is a young girl of 26 who could use some support and understanding about her mom's condition. The mom made a decision and the daughter is standing by that. It a little more uncommon than most of the instances on here. I have offered a few comments and directed her to check out the Stage IV forum also.
This is a woman who would never make her way onto the thread here, but you gals are so caring (and some of you a lot more huggy than I am) that I wanted to bring it to your attention. If any of you care to reach out, I am putting the link right here.
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would someone please phonetically write out how "cicada" is pronounced. I truly don't know.
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Sick-ay-da
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REALLY??????? That's nothing like what I would have thought.
I get invalid page when I try that link E.
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whenever I see that word "cicada" I have pronounced it (in my head) chi-caw-daw...Don't ask me why as I have no clue.
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LOL It is always funny to find out we have pronounced something wrong in our minds for years.
I fixed the link up above now.
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I am soooo far back in reading, but have to comment on the part where people were talking plastic surgery for facial flaws ... If any doctor anywhere culd tell me that I'd have no problem with looking like an idiot with plumps and tucks and whatever, I'd gladlyu pay out of my own pocket and gladly go through rehab (you ned that after a face job, in case you didn't know). But until that elective surgery is 100% guaranteed, I"ll take my facial hair, and my lumps and bumps, and I'll say "This is what a hard working woman looks like, and oh yeah, I beat breast cancer too" and to hell with anyone who looks at my thighs after that.
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e if that is the link to the mother who ignored her cancer until it started to grow out of her breast, I'll pass. I had to bite my tongue to not post on that thread yesterday. And I'll have to bit my tongue now to not say anything here!!!!
Marlegal, no one's looking at MY thighs lately.....sigh.... or maybe that's a blessing?
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Barbe, I understand that reaction. I even had that reaction, but then I did a 180 and tapped in to the complete sadness of the mom's decision and what it means for the daughter. That is the place I could finally write from. I had to resist writing anything shoulda, woulda, coulda. I just put it out there on this thread IF anyone felt they could be of comfort to the daughter.
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Barbe,
I would have to agree with you. I have a lady right here in my hometown who was dx after me by @ 6 months. When she started she was in the same phase as me. They set up her treatment plan, just @ the same as mine. She however has always been one of those people who are OH WOES ME. Feel sorry for me, help me. Give to me. Nothing was ever wrong with anyone else that she didn't have worse.
She is in a wheel chair ( only because of her own making ). Weighs @ 400-500 lbs. Not kidding. Makes her kids wait on her hand & foot. While she does nothing but eat. Her son is in a wheel chair ( NOT of his own making - born that way ). Anyway long story short, I told her if she wanted to get better she needed to go to treatment because IBC is very aggressive.
She started treatment, then started missing chemo appointments....just because she didn't feel like going that day or some other lame excuse. Now her cancer has progressed to the state of seeping through he breast. Right now she is on a respirator. I do truly feel sorry for her children that they are loosing their mother, but I just can't seem to feel sorry for her. She did this to herself.
I just can't understand how some people are. There are a lot of us out there who have had some really crappy things happen to us all our lives & suck it up & survive. Then there are those who thinks the world owes them or something.
Sorry went off there a little bit, but every time someone puts something on FB @ her I just wanna scream. If she would have went to treatment she wouldn't be going through what she is right now. It's her own damn fault. Shut up & quit feeling sorry for her.
I know I shouldn't feel that way, but I guess I'm just a BITCH. Sorry, I'll shut up now. Maybe I just needed to vent..... Thanks
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Elimar-what a family tragedy for that young woman. I am torn too Barbe, its easy to judge her mom for not getting treatment earlier, but it sounds like watching HER mother go thru TX made her against ANY tx.Must have been very traumatic for them. My hope is the young lady realizes she doesn't have to be on the same path. . .
OMG, I looked at my thighs the other day---ughghgh!!! Where did all those lumpity bumps come from?? Pants for me for awhile!!! Yoga pants that is!!
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Having a great time at my son's. Here is the picture of the weekend.

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Fear can make you do stupid things. I won't judge because I know.
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I was just thinking about Weekend Mystery Pic and, lo and behold, here it is!
That is definitely the fur of a hyena or wild dingo.
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If it is not true to color, I would guess a petrified tree.
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I'm sorry, but anyone who thinks they know better than all the doctors as to what they need are WRONG!!! I am not an electrician, so I don't wire my house. I'm not a plumber, so I don't do the plumbing. I am not a surgon, so I don't do my own surgery. That woman saw her mom suffer through chemo so she didn't want it. BIG DEAL!!!! Get over it!! We all have to do things in life that we'd rather not do. Now her very own daughter is watching her mother DIE because the mother didn't want to go through chemo. If that's the case, go into the forest and dig a hole and sit in it until you die. Don't make your kids watch you!!! That is the most SELFISH thing I have ever read on this board!!!!
That is why I can't post about it......
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Yeah, the whole situation has controversy attached to it. In the end, there's no forcing another (even a relative) to react a certain way, be it wisdom or folly.
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Everyone chooses their own path in life and death. Sometimes your options are limited. I see the pain my disease put my family thru and that is what breaks my heart. I couldn't do what she has chosen, but it is her choice.
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I'd say it's a satellite shot of the place where sherryc is right now.
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I think it looks like animal fur - maybe the doggie in your avatar?
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I am only passing by and love the picture of the lightning bugs (fireflies).
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Teka, you are also welcome to stop back...to post or lurk as you see fit. I often try to entice unsuspecting Newbies with prettty pictures, and before too long they are munching on Cheetos and playing Weekend Myster Pic along with us. (See page 404, and get your guesses in, Middles.)
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my guess = dalmation fur
Trish
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Love the guesses keep it up will let you gals know tomorrow for sure.
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