Here's what cheezed me off today

I wasn't sure if I should post here, because I'm still waiting for my Dx...but, Rohanna...LMAO!!!

I just want you ALL to know that while I haven't been there, I have been touched by BC and did a 1 year rotation on the Oncology Ward at the local hospital when I was in school.  

No one who is going through any serious illness (and cancer is serious no matter what stage it is!) should never have to defend how they are feeling.  

While I haven't been in your shoes with cancer (and I'm still hoping not to fill them at this point), I have always been a very empathetic person.  Not just sympathetic.  I really do "get" it and while all you wonderful ladies are SUPERWOMAN simply for fighting this disease, you should not have to beg, borrow and steal to get rest or compassion.  

The next time one of them gets sick, I'd say "Fend for yourself...you just have <insert malady here>...you're fine!"  Turn it around on them!!!  

Love to you all! 

Here's what cheesed me off yesterday.  I needed to see an audiologist regarding some hearing loss.  As she was fitting the earphones on my head she touched my hair and said, "Is this natural or do you get your hair permed?"  Silly me.  I told her it was chemo hair and that it's just the way my straight hair came back.  To which she responded, "I wish I had chemo."  I told her to get a perm.  Stupid.

last night at a grad party, a girl that i see once or twice a year, patted my arm and said "i heard you had some health problems, but you're in remission now"!!!!!! I don't know who shared this with her, but thought, geez you don't know what youre talking about, and to tell you the truth, i was tired and it was hot, and my poor boob that is "in remission" was hurting from hugs and sweating!!! GRRRRR!!!! i wanted to have a night of not talking about my BC, so i just said "well, i am doing radiation right now" and eased away from her.

janey-  Many, many years ago (long before internet porn etc....)  "strippers" as they were called then (think Gypsy Rose Lee)  had to wear "pasties" to cover nipples or face arrest for indecency.  I can't fathom what might be construed as indecency these days.  It seems every day we are hearing about public officials tweeting photos of private parts to the world!  I think I may understand how prisoners feel.  After this year of being exposed, cut, poked, zapped etc....if I walk into an exam room (sometimes on the way to the room!) I automatically start to undress.  Jeez, I have found myself doing it on the way to store fitting rooms, forgetting I am in public!

rohanna-  Now I hear that Viagra is causing hearing loss.  Next we will hear about 85 YO men suing Viagra because they had heart attacks during sex!  They could do a Saturday Night Live skit on Haefner in his smoking jacket, with a stiffie, not hearing his playmates calling him!

All your rants help to put mine in perspective. Some families are in denial as they are so busy with their own lives that we need to tell them regularly how we well.

Janice (jteach) if you read this I would like to know more about your neuropathy improvement. I finished Taxol in September 2010 and still have balance problems and neuopathy in my fingers and toes. Your post on the Neuorpathy site did give me hope though.

Hope everyone is having a better day.

rohanne, you crack me up!!  Every time I read your first sentence I laugh :-).  My husband likes Cracker Barrel.  When I think of the place, I think of very large men and backwoods ladies in obnoxious patterned blouses.  They actually have a pretty good breakfast there and I recall a tasty salad, but yes... WTF?????

This will be a summer to remember :-).  I have a post under Just Diagnosed where I was deciding whether or not to wait on my surgery.  Because of my dx, I kinda want to take my vacation and end the summer with fun before the sh--t hits the fan (so to speak).  You have 8 weeks of radiation??? I thought the deal is 5 to 6 weeks?  Is it the 3cm situation?  Thanks for starting a topic for venting :-).

Rohanna-  My 12 YO son and I have a term for people like that "stupi".  I often tell him "don't be "stupi"!  He is only 12 and has more sense than some of your "friends"!  Like you, I have "edited" friends since BC.  I know which ones are real and worthy of my friendship and time.  To my great surprise and joy, some of my "casual" friends who I didn't know well have stepped up more than others and are headed for my "inner circle".  By the way, what happened to "though shalt not judge"!!