For Older People with Sense

Chrissy, that stove is a beaut, and that from someone who has NO interest in cooking ! It looks really well now you have it installed. I bet if you like to cook you'll find lots of use for it.

Diana, you certainly have some problems, bc seems to be incidental after everything else. 3jays will be the biggest help you can get. She has it rough, but manages to smile thru' everything that hits her.

3jays...how are you..are you going to attempt a long road trip to your sisters funeral ? Think about yourself, and what effect it will have on your immediate problems. Thinking of you.

Marybe, sorry about the hair loss. I didn't do chemo, so have no idea how it must affect you...must be awful. Easier in winter with woolly hats . I have great big issues with foobs right now, so hot here all of a sudden, and have had to put them on twice lately...but come racing in and strip off , and straight into the shower, hate to be sweaty.

Well, today has been a mixed bag. One horrible incident, and one side splitting, pmsl, happenning !

One of my neighbours fields comes right up to within 10 yards of my garden at one side, and for the last 3 days he has been out from 6.30am cutting and turning hay. Today he pulled up, I could see him from an upstairs window, got out of his tractor, and went and picked up a dead cat. I was outside like a shot. He had run over, and killed, one of my cats. Chopped all its legs off, mercifully it was a very quick incident. No-ones fault. The cat must have been either moving thru' the grass, or asleep. Neighbour and I are always at daggers drawn, so that didn't help. We had an initial spat, but neither of us could do anything about it, couldn't bring the cat back, so he leaned over the fence, apologised profusely, and handed me a legless cat...crikey, I was almost sick on the spot ! I hadn't expected it and I was shocked. I was trying hard to not let him see how upset I was, and trying to get back into my house holding myself together. Hope never to repeat that incident.

Later on in the day, the man who is here doing a bit of joiner work for me , suddenly went quiet. I was upstairs sewing, and suddenly thought 'I haven't heard him bobbing in and out of the house to have a cigarette'. He can't seem to go for more than half an hour without a ciggie, I keep bawling him out for opening and shutting doors, always bothered he will let my dogs outside, as he isn't a 'dog person'. Then, suddenly there was an exagerated door banging, and he shouted upstairs at me 'didn't you hear me shouting for you?'  Well, I hadn't heard a thing. He had gone outside to use the outside toilet, which is in a changing room, off the back door....the changing room door will open as easy as pie, but if you shut yourself in the door cannot be opened from the inside !!! Something to do with a short spindle... (don't ask me, I don't know !!  ) Well, silly man HAD been warned, it was on his list of jobs to do for me...but he had forgotten ! He had had to climb up high, in the toilet, and get thru' a very small window, about 18"x 24", then drop 6' into the farmyard. A big fat man couldn't have done this, but joiner was a very small weed !! so he managed it. He was very indignant, and red hot from banging and shouting and climbing, and I couldn't keep a straight face. I had to wait 'til he had gone back to his work before I rolled about laughing !! well, almost !

I am just so please it is night again, and I am alone and quiet at last. G/son came screeching in tonight, went round his jobs at the speed of light, and vanished without any tea. He was going all night fishing ( Why!!) so asked for sandwiches to take with him instead of stopping for tea. I hope he doesn't get fed up in the early hours, and come crashing in waking me up, as he's only about a mile from me at the fishing lake he goes to ! If it gets cold in the middle of the night he is likely to do just that, rather than drive 12 miles home !

If I had 3 wishes they would be Peace, Peace and Peace...so fed up of not being able to live a nice quiet life ! DD is bombarding me with messages about her mini music festival / birthday party. She has applied for, and GOT, an entertainment licence to hold an 'event' in her fields. She seems to be inviting everyone she speaks to to attend. She annoyed her neighbours last year holding an 18th b/day party...so this year she's gone one better, and made it official, so the neighbours can't stop her, calling the police on her, and getting the music turned down !!! I am in 2 minds about attending.....7 weeks to go yet !

Isabella.

Hello Ladies!

I am feeling much better tonight.  Thank you for all of your words of support.  About my daughters  -- they are both adopted from China.  The oldest, Alyssa (age 15), was left in a basket outside the gates of her orphanage the day after she was born.  They said they knew this because her umbilical cord was still "wet".  She was just under 8 mos old when I got her.  Hannah (she is 11) was with birth mom until she was 1 month old.  She was left in tall grass in the median of a busy street.   I got her when she was 14 mos old.  Hannah had some subconscious memory of being abandoned.  When Hannah was 5 and Alyssa 9 (Christmas of 2005) on Christmas Eve, I was going up and downstairs getting their gifts set up and started having severe chest pains and became very lightheaded and could not breath well.  I called 911 and paremedics showed up very quickly.  They stablized me and put me in the ambulance.  The girls were upstairs sleeping so I had them call an old neighbor to come be with them.  Because of my situation, they needed to transport me immediately to the hospital.  One of the paramedics remained at the house until my friend came. Unfortunately, Hannah woke up and came downstairs before my friend arrived.  She completely freaked out!  She did not know if I was alive, dead or had abandoned her.  While in the hospital, I had a ventricular tachycardia event, so they kept me there for a week. While in the hospital, they let the kids come and visit me, but while they were there, I went into afib (my heart rate was over 200 beats per min) and they made them leave.  I know it was very scary for both of them, but Hannah thought I was going to die and she has always been clingy after that.  I have had a heart cath since then and I take meds now to regulate my heart rate and blood pressure and have been doing well, but she will never forget the Christmas of 2005.  And now with the cancer, she is again afraid even though I do my best to reassure her that I will be ok.  I do understand how she is feeling.  I was about her age when my mom was diagnosed with BC.  And Alyssa's age when she died. 

OK!  Crissy -- love, love, love the stove!  You must be an amazing cook! 

Diana, what  a tough life you have had -- makes you wonder when the treatment for one ailment causes another.  You will  be in my prayers.  And thanks for the encouraging words about your daughter  -- I am sure they will be much stronger for having gone thru all of this.

Isabella, OMG, the cat!  How horrible! But the other story about the handyman had me holding my sides laughing. 

Who was it that needed the cake?  If I lived closer, I would make you one!  I make really artistic cakes for my kids birthdays.  I will have to post some pics some time! 

Valjean, I love the idea about the friend in your pocket!  You like in Owosso, MI?  I am in Clarkston, MI.  Maybe we can meet some day!

What a great bunch of very strong women here.  You have helped me immensly already!

 Phyllis

just a peaceful rose for all who need a little time to stop and smell the roses...

hey all, i was cking in earlier, and lost it about Isabellas' cat.. im better now. i took KK's advise, and ate cake, then ice cream!!! well, more insulinn is in my future, i don't need to be a gypsy fortuneteller to see that!!!

   not your fault, isabella. im a mite "off " these days, and crying about everything. guess thats' understandable, though..

   talking about gypsys' saw the lateest show tonight, on re runs. im so enjoying that shiw! and, its' from the UK isabella. fron what you've said, its right on, too! funny, im from Irish roots, not a traveller, yet the fighting, the drinking, the big parties were always part of my upbringing... we have a joke.. who's the last to be invited to an irish party?.... the police! how true that is..! when they were showing the bare knuckle fighting, i flashed to my own chikdhood. was in many a scrap. not gypys, so the girls did fight, as well. i told mur they'd make mincemeat of me now, for sure... but, knowing my personality, id go down with a fight, thats for sure!

   not TOO many years ago, i was using a hoveround wheelchair, and some guy was just giving me such a hard time.. i got out of my wheelchair, it took 3 trys mind you, but i still rushed him, and tried to nail him, and his bad attitude. im stilkl a little ticked ple intefered with it. he would have gone down, i gurentee you: the question is, how woukld i've been after?

   my dad taught me there was no shame in losing a fight, just running away from one. i think thats' stead me over the years.. i just don't duke with my fists, now. im in a bigger fight, now... me against so many other things.. not a quitter, though..

   i'm so impressed with you, Diane, i want to talk to you about the rehab/ nursing home... here, i'll say i've been faced bf with that choice, and always come home, and figured a way to survive here. i hope for you thats' not the answer... but, if its' to be, you'll find the strength.. i'll PM you with some ideas...

   Chrissy, your new stove is wonderfully gorgeous!! we hardly use ours here, but like Isabella said, you'll use it, and do that in good health, my friend!...

   i've gotten a lot of peace coming here to this thread, always, but esp NOW, with all my "sisters" here... thanks for just being you, all of you!!!      3jays

Isabella, there is no way that cat was asleep. I think it was already dead! The rumble and tremour from the tractor mower coming would have sent anything in miles running away!!! Think about it! My cat who is 18 and very, very old, will still wake up if I even stick my head around the corner of her room! So, I believe that poor cat had already passed. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

As for the repairman, if his very next job wasn't fixing that door, then he's an idiot!

Good morning ladies,  I am still so excited about seeng and being with my granddaughters that I am not sleeping very well. Plus the fact that the people upstairs, next door, and just walking down the hall make so much noise that they wake me up.  DH has a CPAP and he does not hear the extra noise, but I think my getting up so often keeps him awake too.  Anyway, when we get home on Monday I sleep for at least 3 days.  DH is up now and we are going to eat breakfast so I will run for now but be back when we are done.  Later, Amy Jo

Lynda, I had one yesterday. Aaahhh. I had a guy and they don't see your boobs. They drape you. I bought a group of 3 1/2 hour massages for 75.00. That is pretty good. I have been treating myself to one a week. Once I get my back into shape again, I will go to once a month. 

I'm older...54...and I hope I have enough sense to be here!

Chrissy - the stove is beautiful but the cover is even more so!  I've never seen a curved, clear range cover!  Such a nice cozy kitchen - let's have tea shall we?

M a s s a g e s......oooohhhhhh ahhhhhhhh THE BEST!  Then comes pedicures.......

Just remember - if you don't care for this massage therapist, try another one - they can be very different!

Thanks Barbara!  Sounds like I'm in the right place!

Thank you Lynda - I can't believe I'm here but glad to be surrounded by all these strong, inspiring women.  Wow, imagine women had to deal with this before the internet!  This kind of support is invaluable, immeasurable & soooo comforting!

Thank you Chrissy!  I have cousins that live in Cooma, NSW.  One of them had BC several years ago.  Are you anywere near there?  Not that I know anything about the area.....though

Isabella -  I also meant to offer my sympathies to you.  I adore my three cats (wickwack is my favorite...) and I can't imagine your horror but I do agree with the others.  If you want us all to be "at daggers drawn" with that neighbor from afar - count me in!

Rhea

Rhea - so glad you found us, just wish it was under different circumstances.  We are always here to lend and ear, offer advice from our experiences and have lots of love and hugs to give.  Gald to see you just jumping in with us.

Thanks for all the well wishes for my pain relief and for a good visit with my granddaughters.  The onco upped my pain patch dosage and that has done the trick.  The pain is so much better and is almost completely under control again.  I have been able to really enjoy being with my DD and the granddaughters.  My DD has not done anything to drive me crazy yet and so that has been a pleasant surprise.  Granddaughters have been a pleasure and they are so excited that their Dad has finally graduated from college and they are looking to move back to Myrtle Beach, SC, hopefuly at the end of June.  We will see if the job situation works out for him so they can move closer.  Well it is already tomorrow so I am off to bed.

Hope everyone is enjoying their weekend with family and friends. Amy Jo 

good to see you girls here.. one thing, though, i'm no saint, by any means!!! get that.. and Amy Jo, im glad you learned to do it with grace, 'cause i haven't . theres much fussing on in this house you guys don't hear!!!

  im so glad i don't live near Chrissy, or Marybe ( tho i wouold LOVE to be ablre to visit them weekly) i would weigh a ton; with their wonderful cooking...

   which reminds, me Marybe, can you make the chochalate silk Pie at uncle bills? it sounds lovely... i love choc silk w/ peanut better .. id love to learn how, if you know.... there i go again.. more lbs.!!

   just waiting for the results of the culture mon., or tues. when the antis start to work, i might be able to sort myself out better emotionally. im still in a state of shock, i think...

   sorry to have missed you, Chrissy. had chinese, forgot about the sodium, and am wrapped for le swelling. trying to type carefully with my gloves. So glad the patch is working, and you're enjoying yourself, AJ..

 Isabella, im so sorry for the cart. but, if that guy didn't fix the door, he's a moron( one that is doomed to be locked in again!!)     3jays

Marybe, glad it's only getting better. It's about time something turned in your favour! (Don't words look nicer with that extra 'u' in them?)

For those with implants, to lie down on a massage table, roll a towel under your breast area. That will take the pressure off when you lie down. I had to do that when I had breast surgeries. Works beautifully!