MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

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  • MWS
    MWS Member Posts: 36
    edited May 2011

    HI Helana.... I feel like I do not belong either... 41 and have a 12 year old and a 9 year old... 

  • Kay_G
    Kay_G Member Posts: 3,345
    edited May 2011

    I'm 48 with a 13 y.o.

  • annettek
    annettek Member Posts: 1,640
    edited May 2011

    wow Sandee, that is a big deal and important. so proud of you-I think sometimes when we say something out loud it removes some of its power over us. BIG HUGS and here is to making plans!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2011

    That opening I wrote has come up several times as a stumbling block as to whether people fit in here or not.  That was only a generalized statement...even I did not fit the description to a "t."  Please don't read the opening like some kind of checklist...it isn't.  So, MWS and kay-from-philly, if you are willing to embrace your middle-agedness, you are both welcome here.

  • Kay_G
    Kay_G Member Posts: 3,345
    edited May 2011

    I am!  I also have a 20 and 22 y.o.

  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited May 2011

    Hi Kay and MWS, welcome!

  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited May 2011

    Sandee I just love that you shared your story and it was so well received. Awareness is key to any disease or condition so that woman saying that you might have saved one life tonight had to feel overwhelming, because it could be true. Kudos to you my friend :)

    Eli thanks for the reminder that the guidelines for "joining" this room are loose - if the name of the thread interests you, by all means join in!

    Annette when you shared your story with us about your son (for newbies, he is autistic) that led, I am sure, to many people trying to find out more information too. I was happy to share that our daughter has been a behavior therapist with autistic children since 1998 and we just couldn't be more proud of her, so every time one of us shares something, it opens doors for other conversations.  For me, it tends to be about LE and education on that front and I'm always sooo gratified when someone sends me a PM for more info and I think that maybe, just maybe, that info will prevent one case of LE down the road.

    Bottom line, I've said it many times before ... this vehicle that we all found that enables us to share our lives, our troubles, our joys, our insights ... I just find it amazing and am so very grateful it's here for us. That we also become friends is such delicious icing on a wonderful cake.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited May 2011

    Weird...something just timed me out and I lost everything!

    Annette/Marlegal- thank you....was afraid to say yes and 'out'myself but have decided it is fine. No like I have done anything wrong so why hide breast cancer and a heart attack....and you know what, I am a good spokesperson for both of these things...I am confident in front of large crowds ( thank you theatre major and singing in bands!) and I don;t get nervous...though I did write and rewrite a number of times because the choir still had one more song to sing and I did not want them crying....but having someone I didn't know come up to me afterwards and say she was glad I was alive, ask if she can give me a hug and tell me about her own father dying from a stroke at the age of 50...well, I guess that is why we tell our stories...so others can also tell theirs....think I will start sharing the breast cancer news too...and after the cardiology appotintment on the 31st and once I get the results of the Junw 7 mammogram, I will volunteer to talk at schools or whatever...why not?

    Also, Annette/Marlegal- I hav enow had 5 sessions with my autistic ESL learner and it is becoming a joyful event. I messed up badly one day...the materials were too hard and he got frustrated with it but I went back to pictures, he tells me the story he believes it to be then he writes it painstakingly, I might add...and then he reads the original story and answers the questions. He is an excellent drawer. I went to the Autism association in my city and got out five books to pour through to make sure I am helping him and not wasting his time. My time with him is sdone this week because then I get into teacher training again but I will miss working with him.Tohelp with the transitin, I am goig to have Thursday's teacher sit in with me on Tuesay so he can get used to her being there.

    Kay/WMS- WELCOMe ladies!! I am 49, no kids..

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2011

    DREAM & REDEEM from American Express apps.facebook.com Check out my photo at the Memorable Miles photo contest from American Express. Vote for my entry and help me win 100,000 miles!   

    I am posting this one more time and will not bug you again since the contest ends tomorrow night at 11:59 and then I will go back to thinking about cancer and posting about it, but this has been a fun and nice diversion for me.  And I thank each and everyone of you who voted for me and ask that you vote again tomorrow.

    Sandee, I liked your post.  I am sure you are helping many people by sharing your story.  People need to be aware.   Regardless of stage, we need to be aware and it never hurts to remind people of that and yes, it could happen to them. 

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited May 2011

    I voted and it was at 340 for the contest

    I talked with my sister yesterday and my dad was back in the hospital for his second round of chemo.  He has decided tha this will be the last one no matter what the out come.  He is my hero.

    When I did my first relay for life last year I was at the survivor table talking to the ladies about buying a shirt and told them about my story about just being dx with breast cancer.  They told me I was already a survivor and gave me the survivor shirt and sash to wear on the survivor lap.  When they called my name I started to cry as I walked to the start not believing I was a survivor yet, very emotional time.  Four days later I had my BMX.  This year they gave us medals and I walked with pride as my son was escorting me to the start.  My DH and DH both walked the first lap with me, I had a spring in my step this year as I felt that yes I am a true survivor.  Now I want to go through life knowing that part is behind me and get on with living, thriving.  I will continue to do the relay's and raise money in support of finding a cure for cancer.  So I am not going to worry about the future, not going to lable myself either, I will share my story, talk to other women about getting their yearly exams.  I hope with sharing my story that it will help other women in making their decisions on what to do.

    My son

    My husband

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited May 2011

    mjb - Wow!  Get to put a face with a name - such a lovely family.  As I read your story, it brought tears to my eyes.  The love of family and friends gets us through this.  Thanks so much for sharing.

  • leisaparis
    leisaparis Member Posts: 587
    edited May 2011

    Marybe - still at 22, but just voted

  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited May 2011

    I just voted again.  Don't stop reminding us.........sometimes chemobrain gets in the way.

    I am all about awareness, but I do get frustrated at the "cutesy tight pink t-shirt" girls that wear it because it's "cool" and the in thing to do during the month of October then seem to completely forget about it after October.  I also get frustrated with people that think BC isn't hard and doesn't kill.  But.........for all of my frustation, whether it's good or bad, the awarness has helped find treatments to save and extend lives. 

    Wow!  Love the picture of the tree, I would have never guess it was petrified. 

    Great pics from the walk - it's nice to see each other's pictures and especially our families.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2011

    MJB.  Thank you for sharing that story with us.  It looks like you have a wonderful support team. Ok Jenn3, I am reminding you as requested...it is now Monday so the last day to get one more vote in and the last day I will be bugging people, but I am now at 21!!..and it looks like I only have to get a few more votes and I will move into 20 so I think I am going to make it into the top 20 which was my goal.  I know this is silly, but I am just so excited I can hardly stand it!!!  Thank you middleaged women....when I go to that BC program and Marissa Weiss is there I am going to tell her that Elimar started a superior thread here!!! 

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited May 2011

    Marybe, did my final vote and you are at 20!!!!

    MJB you have a very good looking family!!! How old is your son? He REALLY looks like you but in a guy-way. Purple shirts this year? We've had 2 years of yellow. I don't know if Canada will always be yellow, but I'd like a purple one. Our Relay is in a couple of weeks. I will be at my new city's location.

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited May 2011

    Barbe,

    http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_7P37NqWJVlM/SZIdz8GF0EI/AAAAAAAABzo/wdMjUAm8Enc/s400/PinkAirblownInflatableCupcake.jpg

    Our RFL always has pruple shirts, or at least for the past 8 years they have. Ours was identical to  MJB's.  Ours has a big list of sponsors on the back, which I could do without, but at least it is money for the cause.

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited May 2011

    I just voted and it is now at 19!!!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2011

    MJB,  lookin' good in the photos!  Was the first chemo hard on your dad?  Just asking why he will stop after the second one?  Is it just a desire to live naturally with no more chemical intevention? 

    The day is still young Marybe, you might finish even higher.  Wish we could propel you into the top four.  I might not get to check on how you did til tomorrow...Good Luck!!!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited May 2011

    Meece got the cake, I better bring the ice cream...Happy Birthday, Barbe!

                                       

  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited May 2011

    Happy BDAY Barbe!

  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited May 2011

    Barbe-today's your day so rock it!  Have fun with your cake & ice cream! 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2011

    Marybe voting has you now ranked at 18!



    Barbe. Happy birthday and wishing you many more. Enjoy!



    MJB. Great photos and I agree your son looks just like you



    Ladies go for my second fill this afternoon. I am rather looking forward to it for I am sloshing around so I think I am more than ready. Wish be luck

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2011

    Yes, I am #18 now and thrilled....of course am now hoping to get to 17 and so it goes....baby steps, but moving.

    Happy Birthday Barb.  I will take a scoop of the pistachio! 

  • MWS
    MWS Member Posts: 36
    edited May 2011

    I am 41 and feel like I do not belong either..... I have a 12 year old and a 9 year old....

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited May 2011

    Barbe - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

                                    

  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited May 2011

    Barbe, you can never have too much chocolate.

  • Teklya
    Teklya Member Posts: 435
    edited May 2011

    Have a wonderful day, Barbe.  It is yours to enjoy! Fill it with laughter and joy, peace and love. Then have a year filled with great health, much happiness and tons of hugs and love.

    Smile

    Teklya

  • ReginaR
    ReginaR Member Posts: 287
    edited May 2011

     Happy Birthday Barbe Enjoy your Special day!

    Checking it with my Middles Thniking of all of you !

    Thank you all for the support. I have got my lipstick pick out for my Mastectomy Tomorrow! I will check in with you after I get home from the Hospital wed or thurs! Love ya all My Middle  Pink Sister!! xxoxo Gina

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited May 2011

    mws-everyone belongs

    BArb happy birthday

    mbjmiller-love the pics of your family

    I have not been on all weekend and this thread was cruising.

    Marybe since I have not been I just voted today and you were #18

  • fmakj
    fmakj Member Posts: 1,278
    edited May 2011

    Happy Birthday to You, Barbe! Hope you have a GREAT day!

    Gina - Good luck with the surgery tomorrow! 

    MWS- this is a great thread to join..... I usually "lurk", but reading this thread always (usually) makes me SMILE! 

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