Not interested in sex since the dx?

It's not uncommon.  There are several threads dealing with this topic.  I will try to "bump" one to the top for you.  Hang in there.

Sue 

Cyborg, sorry you didn't get many responses. Sex was the last thing on my mind right after diagnosis. I was too stressed in those weeks prior to my surgery as well to be in the mood. I just couldn't.

I didn't either.  It was like my breasts were something evil, not sexual.  Yet I will say we finally had a last hurrah the night before my BMX.  I had taken a Valium (and was relaxed and we had a nice night of it.  I have two young kids, 3 and 1 and we still don't have much of a sex life.  I don't want it like I used to.  It's almost like when I lost my breasts, I lost some of my sex drive?  But we are both tired from the kids and life and we end up asleep.  I think this is just a phase in life for us.

But back to your question!  Sorry for the rambling!  I think it is normal, your mind is all over the place- sex isn't a priority.  Try taking a weekend away before chemo and make time for yourselves.  A change can make all the difference, a nice dinner etc.  Pack something sexy and see what happens. 

Good luck to you and don't worry too much about it.

YEAH CYBORG da dida da da zippity do dah.  A moment of sanity

Yeah- I have to agree - my heart wants it, think I should...my body just doesn't feel that way. Felt wonderful the few times we have since DX back in Nov. But I just haven;t been up to par. I think BC just added that much more stress to my poor little brain.

Although I must admit, I am thinking about it a lot more these days= may be just part of the healing.Hubby has been great, lonely, but understanding.

mccrimmon32

Hope it goes well for you. I managed through chemo reasonably well. Sometimes I wore a beanie but not always. Quite often I wore a camisole top. I found that really helped. I wasn't denying what had happened to my body I just didn't want to look at it right then. If you can, why not wear a bra. That way your chest is covered and off limits until you feel more comfortable.

Also, it might be a good idea to have plan b and c. If this works great. If it doesn't let's do this...

I have found that a nice gentle touch over my chest (not sexual) and torso is a good plan b - it stops me feeling so upset if things don't work out. It takes the stress out of everything having to work properly if you have a fall back option that you are both happy with. Cuddles and touching might not be the full works that you're used to but they go a long way towards feeling connected and keeping the door open for more action.

You can probably tell from this that I've had a fair few problems since starting hormonal therapy. I'm still working on it though.