Mother's Day Blues - anyone else?

YES, I know what you mean!  I'm grumpy today, and I didn't realize why until I read your post.  I hope that we both, and all of us, end the day happy and able to share it with those we love!

My b'day at year 2 was a non-event for me....I really wasn't excited for it at all.....this year....5 years post Dx, my b'day and mother's day are on the same day....its kind of anti-climatic.....it seems that my cyber friends know when my b'day is, but few of my in town friends do......My kids...well at least my daughters have treated me well.....Hubby got me stuff for my b'day, but he no longer does mother's day as he says that I'm not his mother....so I guess, that means I don't have to do father's day!!!  I can't complain.....he got me a couple pair earrings (costume), hanging plants for the front door and a mani/pedi......but I definitely won't go overboard anymore for father's day!!!!  DD#1 and SIL sent me beautiful flowers....DD#2 got me a pink ribbon charm and other small pink charm at Brightons.....love them both.....don't have the heart to tell her I already bought the pink ribbon, so will return it and get a chain to wear hers....and put the other charm with it....she got me nail polish and eye shadow (green, because I wear lots of green) for mother's day.....She is 13 and just an amazing kid!!!!  Now we just have to figure out what we are going to do for the day......I hope your day gets better...

Well, its a bit depressing but I wont hold it against my children.  At least my son called me thats a good thing. I know my younger daughter has had a heavy schedule and she needed some r&r badly so she went to the hot springs.  She lives in Folsom Ca.  I imagine she will call me tonight. My oldest daugther she called me and how I missed her call I dont know. But she left a message.  My husband is gone working in Tenn right now so its my 17yrold granddaughter and the animals.

So far neither one of my daughters have called me.  I think its not that bad cuz I may go to sleep now.  

Yes, Happy Mothers Day Ladies.

Just diagnosed stage 3 c this March.  Feel the same as you do.  Oldest son is 1000 miles away at college.  He hasn't called yet.  Middle son lives a mile away and dropped out of school.  He is 20 and very self centered and immature.  Just quit his job.  Don't know what he is going to do.  Praying he finds another one quickly.  Got a text from him at 7 am saying Happy Mother's Day.  Had a brunch for my brothers and sisters and mother an in-laws.  Asked him to come.  He was a no show.  My 13 y.o. daughter has been sweet though.  DH has been good.  But just feeling kind of blue.  Feel bad I'm not in a better mood for my daughter and hubby.  Trying to fake it.  But really feeling down about the two sons.

It was a great Mother's Day....Started my day by making Ricotta cookies which turned out deliciou

1 grandaughter called to say Happy Mother's Day, Nan

youngest daughter (who takes me to Rads 2 days a week) came in with my youngest grandaughter with a basil plant, a beautfiul card with a check, a "Willow" statue of a Grandmother with 2 grandchildren,and a white coffee mug with a pink center.......then my grandaughter gave me a canvas tote that she hand painted all beautiful sayings all over the whole things, including a rainbow, what talent and she is only 10

Then my son came over and sat for about 2 hours and brought me a card, which said "for my wife on Mother's Day..............that got a good laugh, and he said "I'll bring yours back" obviously grabbed the wrong one on the way out of his house....

Then another daughter and son-in-law, brought me another beautiful card with another check. and stayed for about another 2 hours.

Next another son (the one who takes me to radiation 3 days a week) with his wife, and 2 more grandaughters, with my great-grandaughters in tow.  They stayed for another 2 hours.

Finally I got my cookies, drove about 10 minutes to my youngest daughter's house for dinner.. Chinese, and it was good.

Then the same son, and daughter came to her house and we had dessert

Got a call from my grandson in Chicago, another son came with a gift, and a phone call from another daughter.

Finally my last Mother's Day event.......another grandson who lives in Chicago called too, and another grandaughter at Catholic University, in D.C.

What a day, I'm tired I think I am going to bed, and thank God for such a wonderful family

Just wish my husband was still alive to enjoy the fun

I am so sorry:( I know exactly how you feel. My son wrote I will love you forever and noone can take you from me. I wanted to break down but I thought to myseld no matter what happens I will fight fight fight for everyday with my children....Hang in there:(

How did I hold my composure? Well I could die of anything at anytime for any reason..I know that.  And I guess it's sad for the children-IF IT COMES BACK but right now I am happy and healthy and odds are it wont come back. I hold onto that. It would be a shame and waste of time to think anything other then that.

BlueCow girl

So sorry............it should no happen to anyone, but certainly no someone your age............where is that vaccine..........Please its out there, just spend the money to find it.....

It hits me like that somedays too, not so bad (yesterday) on Mother's Day but something will trigger it and I'll get all bummed thinking about the possiblity of leaving my girls.  Cancer sucks.

Well I think I've topped the bummer Mothers Day's here.  It was the worst Mothers Day ever I told my husband.  Got up at 5:30, met sister and her family at their hotel and then did the Komen Race for the Cure.  What was I thinking?  My husband was a mess during the survivor parade and felt nothing but horrible being reminded of HOW many women are affected by breast cancer.  I looked out and saw 40,000 people cheering us on and then also felt horrible that sooooo many families, children, couples, friends, mates are having to deal with Breast Cancer in their lives. And I realized just how much I didn't WANT to be in that parade.  It took us two hours to do the walk because I have young children (yes they came too).  And then I came home and cooked a brunch for the 8 of us.  Got a nice card and some sweet little goodies from the boys and my husband.  The next day, I spent all day gardening.  I considered this my Mothers Day. I relate to your sadness. Every woman should have the honor of seeing her children grow up.  This disease puts us in a place where we have no choice but to live in the present. I see my children's beautiful faces, and I just think of how they look now.  I try not to worry that I may not see what they look like as grown men.  It is too sad and overwhelming to go there (and I said try not to worry, I worry too often). Next year (yes I plan on being here), I will spend Mothers Day with the family and kids doing something that is more positive and uplifting and am just trying to see the beauty in each day.

Hi ladies,

Mother's Day appears to be a mixed bag for us, right?  I am happy for those of you who had a special day and I sympathize with those of you who struggled.  I fall into the latter group but not because of BC.  My Mom's birthday was on the same day as Cinco de Mayo - she always liked it because people everywhere were drinking margaritas and celebrating!  Unfortunately, in 2005 she passed away on her birthday after a very long illness.  I honestly think she just wanted to make it to her birthday - she was close to dying so I made sure to sing to her right at midnight in case she didn't make it through the night.  Mother's Day is always that next Sunday so I am generally still in that period of sadness thinking about my Mom.  I have always resisted too much of a Mother's Day celebration, even prior to my Mom's passing, because I am not that fond of "Hallmark holidays" like Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. That being said they both expressed their love for me (one by phone from several states away, and one in person) and that is all I needed! Too funny though, both my DD's ex-boyfriend and current boyfriend sent me flowers, and get this - they sent the same kind of flowers (pink lilies) and both are named Steven!  Crazy, right?

BlueCowgirl - I am so sad for you, I actually felt my heart clench when I read your post.  I don't know what your thoughts are on adoption, but I was adopted shortly after birth by parents who adored me.  My Mom had a complete hysterectomy at the age of 24 due to fibroids.  They could not have loved me more if I had been their natural child.  I wish you strength and peace. 

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts. My goal is to be at least one year NED and pursue adoption. However, I am obviously concerned about mets and the possibility of leaving my spouse with a young child when he has so much on his shoulders already...but that will probably not stop us, as he very much wants child(ren) too. Big hugs to all you mothers (and non-mothers) out there who are dealing with this shitty disease and hope today was a better day for you.