What do you do when you don't feel like having sex?

I can't believe your doctor hasn't suggested anything/therapy. Have you considered going to a therapist? It sounds like your issue might also be psychological not just physical. That's not unusual. No shame in getting some help to deal with the issue. It does take some women a bit longer to swing back into it. Couple that with the physical/horomone loss it can be challenging.

I will admit it's a bit more work to get "worked up." Do you do anything for vaginal dryness? Is that part of the issue too?

Try "OH YES" water based for dryness order it over the net. . a Syntic progesterone may help libdo.  Im with Lago cant believe they havent suggested anything/therapy.

I can relate to not have the one boob I have to not getting touched. My BF goes overtime on it and it just becomes sore and under comfortable, lucky for me I have him trained to move south where ( after a bit of teaching ) he has become very good. 

I think a bit of therapy would really help as well. I have to admit that it my case my libido has not suffered except for the 1st week after chemo where I am too sore from peeing out all those toxic chemicals. 

It's been 2.5 years since my DIEP flap procedure and I'm still having issues with how I look and not wanting to be touched by my husband.  I too was abused as a child and my self-esteem is low as well as my libido since my surgery.  I did not continue with the Tamox after trying it 3x as the side effects were horrible and different each time I went back on it.  It was like my body was telling me it was toxic.  I was on anxiety meds too (Effexor for hot flashes/night sweats) and got off of those because of libido and foggy brain issues.  I'm still dealing with issues related to menopause and Hypothyroidism.  I'm a trainwreck aren't I? LOL!  I see my Oncologist tomorrow to address signs of the Hypothyroidism (again), now that my hair started falling out a couple of months ago.  I started taking a natural Thyroid Energy supplement in Dec., which has helped with the foggy brain, dry skin, always cold/low body temp, and IBS (which I've had for 12 yrs.!).  I did see an Endocrinologist in Apr. 2012 who was rude and said it was just menopause and I had to just learn to live with it!  My TSH and T panels were on the low end of normal.  My half-sister was diagnosed two years ago with Hypothyroidism, but the Endo said I wasn't low enough to treat.  I think it's time for another opinion!  I'm having marital problems because of all this bodily craziness going on.  I'm hoping the Oncologist will have some answers for me tomorrow.  Prayers would be appreciated.   

I have hypothyroidism that is treated with Armour Thyroid.  Even though my thyroid levels are slightly elevated now, my symptoms are gone.  When the dosage was lowered, they returned.  The "normal" levels aren't for everyone.