My Fellow Deletees and The Cyberbullied Sisters

Oh Jancie, I never thought of that!  I was partial to the 'see a cure' eye avatar I had, which was borrowed from a dear sistah who passed away October a year ago, but in light of it potentially causing confusion I've changed back to my original avatar! 

and in technical problems.. if you click on an active topics thread from the forum index, you only get the first post. to view the thread you must visit the hosting forum.   Once in a forum, the whole thread appears when clicking on an recent topic.

maybe this has been mentioned.

I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 3 years ago. It's in my bone, lung, and brain.  Strange how everything changes.  I have apologized and I have forgiven.   After much research this is one of the ways to make peace with yourself.  I am sad a good part of the time now yet I can still come here and talk to sisters I know will understand how I am feeling. and thats special.

I no longer sign chemosabi - stage 4 changed everything in my life.  Palaminorides again is a remimder that if you are knocked down get up and try again.  I am glad I stopped by here tonight.  It was nice seeing all of you.

Nicki 

Sheila .. interesting article.  The general consensus is those that lie on the internet about medical conditions are seeking attention.  Since there is no monetary gain (unless people send them money), for the most part they are starving for attention and will lie and create other personas to get that attention. 

What was interesting was that most times these people are found out.  They either go to far or can't cover their tracks.

Bren

Good article, Sheila.  From it:

~ Psychiatrists say the lengths to which people like Wilson are prepared to go mean their behaviour is pathological, a disorder rather than simply an act of spite. The irony is these people might actually be classed as ill - just not in the way they claim to be. ~

~ "It's hard to say how common it is because the disorder is based in deceit. We're only detecting cases where the ruses have failed, which is probably a minority." Still, he hears of a new case every three weeks or so, and believes the phenomenon is becoming more widespread. "With the explosion of net-based support groups and special-interest groups, increasing numbers of people have realised these forums can be abused." ~

 ~ Whether feigning illness online or in the real world, fakers are often profoundly disappointed when they're told they may be ill after all. Many appear to prefer the stigma of being labelled cruel to that of being a psychiatric patient. According to Kanaan, this could be a false distinction. "There's confusion about where the line lies between being a bad person and being ill. Someone who's doing this, I'm afraid, could be both." ~

Unfortunately, I feel that there are probably more than we think who haven't been found out on this site.  It wouldn't be too hard to follow what others write about and incorporate it into your own story.  It's very sad.  You want to take people at face value, but this kind of thing leaves one weary.  I tend to believe people first, but have learned some hard lessons here. 

I have to admit that I have been suspect of a few posters.  If medical facts are wrong and/or the person tends to be an excessive poster always looking for validation...I just stay away from them.

I was here in 2005 after being diagnosed with Stage IIIB, had lumpectomy, had mast., TAC, radiation, Tram recon, and was on tamox for 5 years. Now, I am back because I have mets to my liver, and somewhere in my belly area which is pushing on one of my kidneys. I "found" this thread and cannot believe how things have changed. I am especially concerned about people pretending to be sick to get what? Attention?

My reason for posting here is that I don't want anyone to think that I am one of those people. I have changed my "diagnosis tag" several times because I couldn't remember my original diagnosis. Yes, six years from og diagnosis and I am still using the chemo brain excuse. The sad fact is that we have to be on alert for people who are here for...? I don't even know how to describe someone claiming to be sick with this BS disease for attention.

These boards helped get me thru the worst time of my life and I hate to think anyone is taking advantage of it. I have always referred people to this site because of the information, the community, the caring people who will talk you thru any questions, concerns, or anxieties that you may have. I admit I have not been here for a long time because I wanted to be free from cancer, to not think about it, but now I am a Stage IV and I need this community. I hate the idea that people are here for reasons other then what these boards are about. Maybe I should scan my recent biopsy report, or my original pathology report from 2005.

I am concerned for people that are really here for the first time seeking help and how they are received. I guess its a crap shot whether or not someone is believable with their diagnosis and that is really sad.

Guess I need to go to the rules because I am not sure about this five posts in 24 hours. Is that until I have 50 posts? I can't remember my original login information and since I signed up again with my old user name I assume I was deleted for inactivity.

So, anyway, this is post number one.

very interesting article, sheila, and right on point, in this thread.. its' a question a few of us have had here, and it makes you pay stricter attention, i think...     3jays

i agree, sheila.. there was a thread where people would try to figure out "who was a troll, or not" i just could not get behind ANY of us trying to judge anyone else.. and, then, the real situation of what happened to Angel  here, just goes to show you, it DOES happen...   3jays

I met you face to face sweetie♥

thanks deb.  yeah, was hard being thought a troll the first week. Little did you all know.....  Stuck with me now. LOL

Ladies,

I am personally greatful for debate. Disagreement leads to exploration which leads to better treatment. Any wonderful scientist or researcher will tell you that questioning an assertion leads to the creation of a new hypothesis which later leads to exploration. In my opinion, the rigid thinking and ignorance of others ignites their need to bully you very strong convicted women. I admire you for your truthfulness and conviction! You all rock!

palamino ridesagain... chemasabi.. you were  here when i got here, and we always helpful.. i am sorry for the new dx. i personally know women here who do well stage IV; AND it still SUX .   hope everything will work out on your next chapter here, with us.   3jays