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Jaismama55, aren't 7/8 year olds great! My 2nd grader is so considerate, kind and helpful. But with all this breast cancer drama we had to put her in counseling (talk/art therapy) since she became more withdrawn and was constantly talking to her 3 year old sis about her fears of me dying. Hope your son is coping well. Now to figure out how to rest prior to chemo tomorrow!
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browinefranks- so funny! I am glad you were proactive and put her into therapy, some parents sadly wait til the damage is done and there is a LOT of needed therapy...
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Brownie- I will be thinking about you today while you're having chemo. Get your rest and let us know when you come out of the chemo fog. Xoxo
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Thanks you all chemo was not as bad as I imagined, having the port was great. I was able to eat lunch with my husband, read and work on the computer during the process. 2 hours after chemo, though was a different story, I could hardly play with the kids when I got home and I feel like a bad mom. Thank God my hubby and daddy have them. Five hours later as the anti nausea meds wear out, but I can't sleep. Will be signing off to take some meds for nausea and sleep. Thank God for proactive oncologists.
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Sofia Cristina here.... (for other Sofia Mom)
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so last night was a bad one for me. My nanny walked out the door and said she wasn't ever coming back. She has been with the family for almost 4 years. I am upset at how she treated me and this has been a long time coming, well since i got cancer. mostly i am upset that my 8,6, and 3 year olds have no closure. i had to spend last night with them angry at me over this and i cant explain it to them. they are kids and dont understand some of those adult interactions. now, i am an hour away from a chemo infusion and am totally upset. talk about messed up. no words. not even ativan can help me right now.
thanks for letting me vent.
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Yorelh feel free to vent! You poor thing. Kids are strong and will adjust. Take care of yourself. I hope the infusion went well!
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thank you browniefranks. The infusion went well but i was really really tired afterwards. Later that night my middle son started throwing up. My husband was working an overnight so this left me with all four kids by myself on infusion day. I was wiped out. Somehow I managed to get through it as we all do. Son is feeling better but now my middle daughter has the vomit bug. I am praying I don't get it and that my oldest and youngest done as well. This week is filled with surgical consults and chemo so it would really be bad if I got sick.
thanks again for being there for me.
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yorel- I am so sorry that she walked out on you. It's sad how people who are supposed to rally for you while you are in one of the biggest battles of your life leave you out to dry. I don't understand it, how there is no understanding or compassion.
It sounds like you had such a rough day with the infusion and the stomach bug running through your house. I hope you have gotten some sort of break to take care of yourself. It's amazing the strength you find being a mother when you think there is none there. I hope everyone is feeling better and that NO ONE else gets it. I also hope that you gave yourself a big pat on the back for getting through the night. Perhaps it will remind you of what a strong person you are. (I hope you don't have to keep it up though!)
(((hugs)))
Good luck with your week and the consults and chemo. Always come and vent to us!
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Yorelh, please try not to get the bug. Do you have any friends or family nearby that can help you? If not, do you have a local American Cancer society, some sections have volunteers and contacts that would help with the kids. Please try and take care of yourself and make sure you go in for IV fluids if the fatigue continues or you get the bug. I am with Laurie08 in sending you hugs and wishing you a wonderful week.
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Thank you Laurie08 and browniefranks. It has been a rough couple of days. so far I am well but very very tired. If only I could get the baby to sleep when everyone else does. I think I have a lead on a new nanny so that is good. My neighbor has been great and is helping out with the kids tomorrow and friday. You really do find out who your real friends are in times like these. I really appreciate that you all are out there. It helps to know that there are people who understand just how hard it is to be a mom and cancer patient. LIfe never stops even when you feel like it should. I am hoping for some sleep tonight. Laundry can wait I have decided. I want to be able to function at tomorrows surgical consult.
Good night and thank you again.
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yorelh, good thing she handled that for you. No notice, what a lack of repsonsibility and professionalism. Take it as a blessing, just what your family doesn't need considering your circumstances. And remember her walking out could have nothing to do with your family, it could totally be a thing with herself and her life and she is taking it out on your family.
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yorelh- that sucks! Glad you got a little help, and hopefully the new nanny works out. People can be total selfish! And yeah you really do find out who your true friends are (and family for that matter!)
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I honestly have to say i am a young kid. I joined this website because just yesterday, May 4th, my mother died of breast cancer. She fought for 9 years. And i was only 3 when she got it. I never got to tell her that I love her in person and when she was awake. I was more than 1000 miles away from her and still am because she was in the middle of taking some meds and treatment in Germany. While now and before, i was and am in the United States. At the moment, i don't even have my dad. My dad is in Germany, probably weeping by himself and packing to come back tomorrow. I can't imagine how he feels.
I also joined because i have nobody to talk to. Nobody i know know how i feel. Only my dad, which i cant talk to in private and my siblings who just hold it in and wont talk about it with me. My friends just don't know what i am going through. They are all with 2 parents and just keep saying everythings gonna be okay, which it's not! They said that when my mom was alive ever since she's gotten cancer. It just kept getting worse and worse. She just couldn't take it anymore and she just gave in.
Do you ever feel like you have a missing piece in your heart and it's impossible to fill in?
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Carisa my heart breaks for you, i can not imagine what you're going through... But i know its hard. I spend many nights awake crying thinking that one day i will leave my kids like that.
At 12 life is so hard for us without losing a parent. I would suggest talking with a counselor at school, maybe they have a group meeting for children that have lost a parent near you.
Good luck and God bless- remember we are ALWAYS here if you need to vent your frustrations, or anything
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carisa- I lost my mother to breast cancer too, but I was much older, I was 28. Yes, there is a hole that can not be filled. Texasrose gave great advice on seeking out a counselor or a therapy of some kind. When I found out my mother was terminal, a few weeks/months to live I found a therapist and it helped me a lot. She never told me what to think or feel, just gave me someone I could say anything to, it helped me work out my thoughts and feelings.
This is a very hard thing you are going through. Come here and talk to us whenever you need to. We are all mothers and have lots of love to give. I am so sorry about your mom. Moms are amazing- she is still with you, in your heart I know it, just like my Mom is still in mine.
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Carissa-
I wish you didn't have to go through this. I too suggest that you try to find someone to talk to like a counselor at school. I know they also have groups for children of parents with cancer so maybe she can help you find one. Please feel free to come here to talk.
I can relate a little to how you feel. May 7th marks the 11 year anniversary of my fathers death. I still have some issues surrounding his death. I was older as well, 27 and can't imagine losing my mother as young as you. Counseling helped me work through my grief. I hope that you find someone who can help you with yours. If you want to private message me, I am here for you.
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Yorehl so glad things are improving, please take care and know that it does get better.
Carissa, sorry about your loss! As a mom I am sending huge hugs your way. You are only 12 and should be with your family and friends right now in real time. I am praying for you! Please accept help or demand help from your teachers or one of your mom's best friends. It will get better and you have the strength and spirit of your mom in you.
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All on a lighter note, huge clumps of my hair fell out yesterday and my 3 year old ended up gathering up a huge ball that she put on her head as an afro puff. I wish I had taken pictures, it was too funny!
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browniefranks, I have had hair lose for quite some time, certinaly not nearly as much as someone going through treatment, however did you ever notice before then that you were losing hair? I am just curious if there are any signs of pre-cancer that exist. I have had some hair loss and blamed it on after baby hair loss and thinning...
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Hi Angelinac prior to two years ago, my hair was very thick and I shed very little but in the last two years my hair though thick still shed a lot more, maybe it was the cancer, but like you it was after baby so I also blamed it on after baby hair loss and thinning. Who knows so? BTW I gave myself a fab short do today and I am rocking it to work!
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Angelinac- I too have had hair loss, but also have the baby factor. I never noticed it getting thin, but would see a lot on the brush. It is more that now that it has been growing in I have all these short hairs sticking up in my part and framing my face. They are also coming in gray so yay for that:)
Brownie- You post made me smile! Congrats on your new short do!
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Like a lot of y'all pre dx i had hair loss, but also didnt notice it thinning out. It prob was the hormone changes after pregnancy and breast feeding...
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Oh lol i got online to share a coupon code from walgreens.com for a free 8x10 collage. the code is FORMOM and the 8x10 size is 4 bucks normally- It expires 5/7 so get on a do it ASAP! They have a new arrange option before the pictures would just be random but not you can choose which goes where
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!
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browniefranks and Laurie08, Thanks for your repsonse. I am proabley overthinking it but you know I am wondering if any women with cnacer missed the early signs....
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Angelinac- really the early signs of cancer is the lump- most people can go YEARS with it in their body without knowing it and the only symptom is the lump, or when it spreads and causes other problems.
They say BC isnt painful but mine was. (one of the reasons my dr didnt think it was bc at first becuase i complained of pain) I've read a few people have said theirs was painful too.
Depending on the type of BC some cause changes to the skin (sorta like an orange peel) some cancers will make the nipple draw in- sorta inverted... There are a lot of odd symptoms that comes with cancer but often times its mistaken for something else....
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Hi texasrose361, thanks for your repsonse. I had a mammorgam and a sonogram last Wednesday and I am still in pain from the procedure. My doctor did a breast exam a couple of months ago and felt nothing however they were able to find 3 nodes, one at 5 o'clock, one at 6 o'clock and one at 11 o'clock. I am having two of them biopsied in two weeks.
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Hi Texasrose361, your doctors were idiots to say that breast cancer does not cause pain. I find it so annoying when the doctors view breast cancer through the prism of an over 50 postmenopausal woman's symptoms, that's likely why they tend to under diagnose younger women.
Angelinac please insist on a biopsy of ALL of the lumps you can feel, mammograms and ultrasounds are merely detection tools not diagnosis. I had pain in all my lumps and only 1 of 6 was cancer by biopsy. The others were fibroadenoma. Luckily, I insisted on biopsies on every lump. If it's not cancer thank heavens! But just make sure you check everything because early diagnosis SAVES lives.
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I just want to wish a Happy Mothers Day to all my fellow moms
Have a wonderful day tomorrow with your children and families! I know I will. Xoxoxo
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browniefranks, funny you say that because I was thinking while we are there do all three. Thanks for helping me make that decision.
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