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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    Barbe & Leisa - Hugs to both of you.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited April 2011

    Leisa- I was told by my radiologist that sore ribs post -rads is VERY common. Mine are so sore I can't wear my favourite bras any more...tender on both sides, but I did not have burns on my back as you did. Sorry you ar ehaving such a rough time.

    Barbe- No wonder you have such a good sense of humour! you are dealing with a ton....holy dinah! Wish life were simpler

  • annettek
    annettek Member Posts: 1,640
    edited April 2011

    Barbe- I have had condoblablahblahitis as well...IT SUCKED- I was convinced I was having a heart attack and death was imminent...doc called it asap- she is a treasure...it was while I had PINKEYE...all before the BC DX...it is a very harsh pain...it finally went away. and the doc told me it is often overlooked and misdiagnosed..

    I sure wish I could make it up there- how wonderful to have two weeks off! I have to really kick butt at work and get ready for the damn talk I have to give in Atlanta on 4/27. I always feel like someone is going to stand up and say get the hell out of here why are you telling us anything hahahaha...hugs gonna go get mom finally

  • OG56
    OG56 Member Posts: 897
    edited April 2011

    Yeah Lisaparis and Meece B9 results...

    I have seriously been smiling about the "alert" colors for all the testing we go through. I especially loved the "Terrorist" because that is how I feel when it is time for a test on "something suspicious"  I am constantly on the Orange level of alert and I would like more moments when I don't feel like there is a terrorist group planning an attack Surprised 

    Linda

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited April 2011

    Meece - glad for your good news this timeCool, not so glad that you have to go backYell.

    Leisa - yeah for your test results but hope they can find you relief for your pains.  My rad went all the way through too. 

    All they are keeping my Dad in the hospital for at least two more weeks for observation and more transfusions.  His MO did not tell us up front that this would be as long a process as it is turning out to be.  My sister that lives here in the area with me drove to be with him this week.  If I would have known more up front I would have waited and took my turn later.  My other two sisters are back at their jobs and family this week.  We need to get our bro on the bandwagon as well.  Dad is feeling well and is good spirits chasing the nurses now (not really) and giving them hugs.  I know he is being taken care of but wish I could do more.  I understand the reason they want him close is for the transfusions and in case he gets a fever, but there is a nursing home in his home town that he can be in to do his PT, blood tests and transfusions.  He dr wants to see him three times a week and the sisters cannot run him to the dr since it is a two hour drive both ways each time.  I'm ranting I know.

    Good news, my coworker just returned today after her recovery from her BS surgery.  She had a partial mx with reduction on non tumor side.  She looked really good and in good spirits.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited April 2011

    MBJ, whatever you do, don't tell her she looks good! ehhehehehe

    The best place for your Dad is in the hospital. I'd feel a lot safer if it was my Dad. The reaction is a lot quicker there, no transportion if something starts to go sideways. Too bad they hadn't filled you all in like you say. I hope you told the docs that mistake so they keep you guys up to date in the future. What were they thinking? None of the women work or something?????

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited April 2011

    Barb I know what you mean, I gave her a big hug (not to tight), asked how she was feeling and to take it easy today.  I only mentioned (hair) looks after she told me I looked cute today and liked my new cut.  (she has the best wigs).  I'm a pixie now.  Just call me tinkerbell.  As soon as I get my new glasses, I will update my picture.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited April 2011

    leisa happy for clear scan, unhappy they do not know what is causing your pain.  Keep after them until they give you answers.

    My Dad had his last rads tx today and was to start chemo today but his rbc was low so off to the hospital for a blood transfusion and hopefully his rbc will be ok next week to start.  To look on the bright side at least my parents get a rest this week.

  • carol6026
    carol6026 Member Posts: 45
    edited April 2011

    Had my bilateral mast. on friday with lymph node disection. Nodes came back clear, which is good news, in alot of pain, but with meds it is tollerable. The one thing i cannot stand is the drainage tubes, have 4 of them and 2 of them are under the arm pits, very uncomfortable. Ty all for your help and prayers. Hope this makes sense, pain meds kicking in.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited April 2011

    Carol glad it is done and now you can take the time to heal.

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited April 2011

    Carol - So glad your nodes came back clear. I know the drains are painful but they are only temporary, keep telling yourself that. Just don't be a hero and take the pain meds when you need them.

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited April 2011

    Sherry glad your dad is done with rads and glad for the break. Hope the transfusion goes well and has no reactions to it.

  • Carrol2
    Carrol2 Member Posts: 2,903
    edited April 2011
    Carol6026 congrats on your surgery going well and no nodes yaaaayy! When I had my bmx the first thing they said when i woke u was no nodes. I was so relieved. The drains are awful no doubt about it. Try putting pillows under your arms to keep them away fro  your sides a little I found this helped.
  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    Carol6026 - Glad the surgery is done and now the healing begins.  Good news on clear nodes.  Sending very gentle hugs.

    Sherry - So glad dad is done with rads.  Hope the transfustion goes well.  The break between treatments will do him a world of good. 

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited April 2011

    YIPPIE!!! Pictures, Images and Photos

    Carol6026, clear nodes YAY!  How many did they have to remove? 

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited April 2011

    Carol  - congrats....the relief will kick in soon after the pain meds end.

    Sherry/MJ- my dad always said the best place to be when you are sick is in the hospital...true enough...that they want to keep an eye on him is a good thing..better than sending him home befor ehe is ready....Sherry...time in between radiation and chemo will help your dad regain some of his stength...it is hard but will be ok.

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    Eli - You are too much - cool picture.

  • dawney
    dawney Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2011

    Ladies - I am having Bi-Lateral TRAM flap Wednesday morning and I am soooo nervous!!  I ma just ready for it to be over with!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    dawney - Best of luck to you and wishes for a speedy recovery.  I will be there holding your hand so you won't be so nervous.

  • dawney
    dawney Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2011

    Jo - thanks, but can't I just go with you instead??

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    dawney - Of course you can.  I will find a space in my suitcase for you.

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited April 2011

    dawney, try and chill out tomorrw & don't let your nerves overwhelm you.  You'll have some caring thoughts going out bright and early on Weds. for a smooth surgery. 

    A question...do women having reconstruction also have to have the drains put in?

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited April 2011

    Eli, there is always the posibilty of having drains placed during recon.  I had to sign papers saying I understood that before both of my recon surgeries.  I was so relieved to wake from anesthesia without them though.

    Dawney, praying for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery.

    (((((((((Dawney)))))))))))

  • chelemybelle
    chelemybelle Member Posts: 21
    edited April 2011

    Hi All- I have not not posted since the first week in March and look at all I have missed!  Looks like you had fun on the fantasy cruise.  Had a bad month.  Joints so sore I could barely walk.  Nobody listening to me.  I had to trust my body and speak up and push.  I joined a quick herceptin side effect site and that really helped me.  I did not feel alone in my pain.  I had my Onc. take me off the herceptin.  I have not had an injection since March.  I had 13 of 17 treatments.  The longer I was on this steroid the worse I got.  I can now walk and I am sooooo much happier.  I still have pain in my left arm in elbow and wrist.  I can live with this. I am doing the happy dance and getting on with my life.  Good luck to all and best wishes for future appointments. 

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited April 2011

    barbe, i guess it counts how you grew up.. my grandparents were in Cape Cod, thats def. the ocean, we called it the beach house. my uncle, in Hudson,

    Mass., on a lake,some called it also the beach house. we called it the lake cottage.. to me, any water is good. i actually prefer a lake, but that's just me...   

       i also wanted to say to leiaparis: i just went all the tests for chest pain, etc.. near the sternum.. now, mind you, after many months of discussion, they tell me they need to ck for possible bone mets.. thank goodness, all was negative!!!

        then, the same drs. tell me that when i had the bmx; they had to use "the spreaders" (like what they use to break the sternum in bypass heart surgery) onky, not to the breaking point, and they did it again a yr later, when i had the "dog ear" surgery by the PS.. WHY couldn't they tell me that when i was talking about how sore i was???coulda saved me all the fear...OF COURSE im sore. the PS says probably bad bone bruise, that may never go away...

        i went to your home, but couldn't see you had  a bmx.. so, it might not apply.. but, i sure was relieved when i found out...

       during all the tests, they mentioned "metal wires"  didn't know they left tumor markers.. i remember asking specifically to the BS if that was done, during surgery, 'cause they FORGOT with biopsies.. he outright  said NO.. now, i found out he did!!! ya just never know what they did while you were asleep, and they INSIST on treating me like a mushroom... keeping me in the dark, and feeding me s**it....     hope all is well for you..      3jays

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    chelemybelle - Glad you are feeling better and able to do the happy dance.  You see me?  I am right by your side dancing with you. Great news is always good to hear.

    3jays - It is sad that doctors don't tell us everything and practically have to beat the information out of them.  Hope you are doing well. 

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited April 2011

    Dawney - May the Lord wrap his healing arms around you as you have your surgery, pray for positive out come and speedy recovery.

    chelemybelle - way to go glad you are doing better

    3jays - I wish the Drs. would live in our shoes for a day to see what we have to put up with when we seek answers for the lingering pains we have.  Would they even survive!  They tell you enough to keep you coming back.  Some times I feel like Nemo's dad in finding Nemo when they are following the little bright light and a monster fish with big teeth try to eat them.  Good thing we are also quick on our feet (fins) too.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited April 2011

    3jays, there is NO WAY they used rib spreaders for your dog ears!! Those are under your arms. That's just bullshit. Also, many of us have wanted intramammary nodes biopsied and they say they can't do it without being invasive (rib spreaders!) so that is bullshit too!! I think my ribs were sore because of the drain tubes. They irritated them and I think you begin to heal around them and then they rip them out! Of course they're sore. Why can't docs just admit it?????

    Tumor markers are found in your bloodwork not your chest. Those are titanium clips to mark a previous biopsy. Your doc lied again! Why do they not tell you the truth!! With all your medical history you would certainly understand what they're saying if they just told you the real goods. Geez that pisses me off!!!!!!!!!!!! Yell

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited April 2011

    barbe - It seems this whole experience is full of crap that we have to live with.  Sometimes it is hard to know what is crap and what is not.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited April 2011

    I hate that they think we either can't understand, or can't handle the info!

    I remember a magazine ad years ago. It had a woman with red/stuffy? nose and it said:

    I have sinus!!!

    Um, yep, everyone has a sinus. In fact, we have 5 sinuses! I think they wanted to say sinusitis but thought the word was too big! I have never forgotten that ad.

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