Dear Hair,
Gina Velasquez
Dear Hair,
I can't believe it's been almost two months since we had to part ways. After our forty years together the split has just taken a huge toll on me. Every morning when I look in the mirror, I'm reminded how much I miss you. I know I took you for granted for so long, but the short of it all is that I just didn't know how good I had it. In the beginning of our relationship, I know you were so untamed, and so sensitive to the weather. I did you a great injustice by just trying to hide you, slick you back like you didn't matter. Some days when we were young teenagers, you let your true colors show. When you were unruly the kids called me mushroom head, and then after puberty we started working together to shine.
As we grew older, I know I sometimes neglected you. And when things were tight, I even had to buy generic pantene! I know how shameful. Gone were the youthful days of Silkience shampoo, and the occasional egg, mayo, and beer conditioner! I so abused you, making you curl, making you wave, the heat you had to bear for me....how did you manage not to tangle yourself in my vanity?!!
Oh my dearest hair, when we can finally be together again, I promise to let you be all you want to be. I promise to keep you looking young always, and to keep the blues and grays away from you. I will buy you only the best, and we will recapture our youth with all the Aveda you want to drink. I won't try to hide you ever again, and I won't ever think you are too much trouble, you won't be any trouble at all, not even on rainy days...
For now I must just keep our hair raising memories close to my heart, and pamper my skin instead. But Hair, make no worry that you will always be my diva! Until we meet again,
"Good night, good night! parting is such sweet sorrow,
That I shall say good night till it be morrow"
Comments
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You are welcome, and your Fan post, so true right now for me. My air conditioner is blasting!
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Love it! I thought the same thing about my hair, it was long blond and straight, lost it all to chemo, cryed so many tears and vowed to never treat my hair bad again, then it finally started growing in, dark, curly and short- I hated it, i almost liked my head better bald, then it started getting longer and curls were still there but not looking so much like a french poodle, i thought, if it can only stay like this, so soft ,silky and young looking again i will take care of it and never abuse it again, then i decided to color it, blow dry it, tease it, and put all kinds of gunk in it again, well, i do still like my hair better now than i have for a long, long time even just before losing it to chemo- Now im so afraid of losing those beloved curls i once started to hate, i came to love and even have had so many compliments on my hair and curls- problably wont be long till it looks the same again like it did a year and a half ago- guess I will never learn, but for now im happy with my hair. Thanks for the memories.....
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Hi Debbie! I only have hair a little longer than razor stubble right now! I had very curly hair before, if it comes in that way, I'll probably be wearing hats for a long time, till it's long enough to fix!!! how long did it take you to grow hair back to a managable length?
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For me maybe about 8 or 9 months till it got long enough to style it, when I would go out with friends they would say, take off your hat you look beautiful bald so i did, and i stopped feeling so self concious, i didnt like my wigs so never wore them, right now it is probably 3 or 4 inches past my shoulders so once it got to a certain lenght it started growing like crazy, Im afraid to cut it because I dont want to lose my curls, but i dont want long hair to my waist any more- Sounds like a long time to wait for your hair to grow in, but it went fast and I think my daughters started coming a lot faster than mine maybe to her shoulders within 5 months (?) Hang in there it willl get better and hopefully you will love it even more!
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