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Katmags4
Katmags4 Member Posts: 4
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

Today. I am devastated. She is devastated. My sister and I don't speak either so I feel there is no one to talk to. Waiting to cry until my kids go to bed. Half of me knows that she will get through it. Half of me is terrified that because she is older and has cardiac issues it will be so hard. My dad died of lung cancer when I was 24. Just when things seemed okay in all of pur lives.....

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  • mollynminnie
    mollynminnie Member Posts: 86
    edited March 2011

    I'm so sorry Kat...  Sending hugs your way.  Please feel free to vent/ask questions, etc. here...  there is always someone here who will listen and help. 

    Molly

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  • Katmags4
    Katmags4 Member Posts: 4
    edited March 2011

    Thank you Molly. We don't know any specifics yet which seems so scary such as the type and stage. I feel helpless because she is about 2 hours away. I don't know what to say to her but I was trying to be positive.

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  • mrsnjband
    mrsnjband Member Posts: 1,409
    edited March 2011

    So sorry to hear about your mom.  I think it is soo much harder to watch a loved one be sick.  I have been on both sides of that isle.  My husband and I have both had cancer.  Hubby had 2 reoccurances but is now 5 years out NED.  My journey was hard but I made it through. 

    Sending love & prayers to you & your mom. NJ

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  • mollynminnie
    mollynminnie Member Posts: 86
    edited March 2011

    This is always the hardest part... the not knowing of the specifics/treatment plan, etc.  Once your Mom and you know exactly what she is dealing with then it will be easier to focus on what has to be done.  That's when my "fighter" instinct kicked in.  

    As Norma just said, the journey is hard- but many, many, many of us are still here years later- and doing great. 

    Please feel free to ask anything-  there are SO many knowledgeable ladies here....  

    Hugs...

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  • Katmags4
    Katmags4 Member Posts: 4
    edited March 2011

    Thank you both very much.

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  • Betterwannabe
    Betterwannabe Member Posts: 153
    edited March 2011

    I am so sorry to hear about your mom, I hope that it is very early and with you and your sister by her side she will be able to beat it, hugs to you...

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  • Katmags4
    Katmags4 Member Posts: 4
    edited March 2011

    Thank you. Frightening not knowing if it is early or not. The lump is quite large and it is maddening that it has never shown up on a mammogram. Even the other day. My mom found it herself! They are already talking mastectomy today. I thought she was going to lose her mind waiting for the phone call. Torturous. I think I aged 5 years today. I just want her to be okay, I want many more years with my mom.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited April 2011

    katmags4, I can feel for you..hang in there.. just want you to know you are not alone

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  • ninastar
    ninastar Member Posts: 22
    edited April 2011

    Hi. You and I are sharing similar journeys. My dad died from cancer when I was 28.
    I was shocked and devastated when we learned in Oct that the lump my mom found herself was IDC. I couldn't believe it, everything seemed so okay and healthy in my family.
    I'm just checking in to see how you're doing and if you have some answers to work with now. It's insanity provoking having to wait with nowhere to focus your energy. For her and for you. You will be able to be there for her and you just tell her that, that you will be with her through it every step of the way. Tell her how much she means to you and surround her with strength and love as much as you can. You might also consider getting someone else to talk to whether it be on here, or a counselor, etc. Feelings will come up that you won't want to necessarily explore with her, ya know?
    My mom had a double mastectomy and is halfway through her chemo treatments now. I'm here to message whenever you need someone to talk to. The women here have been very helpful when I needed answers or to hear we're not alone. Reach out whenever you can. Lots of love and courage to you and your mom. You WILL get through this,
    ~Nina

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