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suebak
suebak Member Posts: 199
edited June 2014 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

Only been a cancer patient for 1 month, but it has been a month from hell.  I have myself so convinced that this is just the beginning of the end for me.  I have been on here looking at womans diagnosis, treatments, when they were diagnosed, etc.  I am trying to convince myself that I am going to be OK, but it is not working. I am just so sure, that I am going to be sick for the rest of my short life.  How can I change my thought process.  How can I get out of this "poor me" stage.

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited March 2011

    Hi Sue, sorry about how you are feeling but it is very natural to feel that way.  We, as a society, have been conditioned to expect that a cancer diagnosis is the most dire of all diagnosis.  This notion has been perpetuated by our parents in our growing years and it has become part of our subconscience.  We all know that things have radically changed over the years and now a cancer dx is not a death sentence.   I have been dealing with BC for seven years now and at the moment, the thing that slows me down is not the cancer but arthritis.  There are women who post on these pages who are fifteen years plus and still doing remarkably well.  You are at the very beginning of this journey and your treatment has barely begun, but take it from me, you will start to feel a whole lot better mentally when you know what the rest of your treatment will be as you will feel that you are taking a bit more control of your life.  Please stay in touch.

    Peace, strength, love n hugs.  Chrissyb

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  • suebak
    suebak Member Posts: 199
    edited March 2011

    Thank you Chrissyb.  I will definitely stay in touch.  I am going to find a way to get myself where most of you ladies are now.  I want to be one of you trying to help one of me in the years to come.  I guess it is just going to take some time. 

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited March 2011

    Sue, this is a journey and like all journeys they can take a little time.  Please be patient with yourself.  The emotions you will have will sometimes make you think that you are on a rollercoaster and believe me when I say that all of it is normal and will eventually settle.  You will do it so have faith inyourself.

    Love n hugs.  Chrissy

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  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited March 2011

    Sue ... what were you like before the diagnosis?  Some of the best words I heard from a good friend was, "remember who you were before today (day of diagnosis) because that hasn't changed.  It's ok to have feelings of any kind, but don't let the bad ones take root.  Acknowledge them, deal with them, but do not let them take over." 

    I am dealing with those feelings everyday ... but I do know who I am.  I know I don't want to dwell on what mmight happen, rather take part in what is happening right now which is life and family and friends and food and and and!! 

    Like Chrissy said, it's your journey ... and you have sisters who are walking a very similar walk.  Hang in there and just go one step at a time.  It makes the journey a little easier.

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