Huffington Post article by Dr. Weiss

I don't want to wake up to the "F" bomb written out with no substituted letters or characters, and directed to someone on this board.  Obviously several other people felt the same way I did and reported it before me. 

Just curious.  For those reporting posts because of the F bomb.  Did you also report a thread titled 'Fuck, Fuck, Fuckery"?  If not then please do so.  Otherwise, wouldn't that be considered a double standard?  I, myself, don't like to read, or write, profanity either but if the moderators allowed that entire thread to stand, how can they justify removing another poster's post using the same words? 

I have seen profanity posted alot on this board and it seems the only time it is reported is to target or bully a specific poster.

Oh, so just having cancer and being stalked isn't good enough for the 'F' word?  Truth is, if you type 'fuck' in the search box, 16 pages come up!!!!  Maybe it was cuz PatMom 'woke up' to mine?  Yeah, right.

Always, thank you so much.  Wow, it's been a long time!  I think Melissa is getting a good picture of things these days .. at least, I hope so.

directing?  I did no such thing.  Where's the post?  

Just in case anyone had any doubts about why the name of someone who reports a post should not be made public, just look at the bullying that is going on here toward me on this thread because I reported a post that I believe was in flagrant violation of the rules of the board, and the person whose post was reported has decided to attack me personally for that.

Ladies.......I have a lot of respect for Dr. Weiss, and possibly she has made some very valid points.......but can we contribute some of what happens to us to "fate".......If that is not true then how do you explain 100 people dying in a plane crash, yet there is 1 who survives......how did thousands die in the tsumami, but an old woman and a child were found alive 9 days later under the rubble...........I say "fate and destiny" play a roll in it too.............Ok, what about the risk factors....I never smoked, I have rarely, almost never drink, carry none of the genes, my mother, nor any member of my family had breast cancer, had 6 children the first at 22 years old.......................so you say "hmmm, then what happened to you"..............now on the other hand...........I started my period around the age of 13, and nevr missed a cycle till I finally changed life at 56......my GYN was positively not happy about that........add to the the fact that I was overweight by lbs........not obese, but surely not the weight I should have been............So that being said.......I had risk factors for sure............but I also did not have a lot of the risk factors that are so important..............

My husband, never smoked, drank, was ideal weight, physically fit, a construction worker, ate the best food, and took care of himself amazingly..........he died at 57 from Pancreatic cancer..........explain that one........so to everyone who wants to blame themselves for what they did, or did not do I say .......................cut yourself a break..........you did nothing wrong.......it is fate, and this we must accept............My big gripe is.......stop working on better ways to find breast cancer, test for breast.............remove breast cancer..........treat breast cancer.........spend the money you receive from all the Breast Cancer Organizations, and grants, and develope a vaccine that will wipe it out completely.............yes finding it early is great, but we still end up being tested (some horribled), treated surgically,........bombarded with chemicals and radiation...........and live with the "fear of recurrance" for the rest of our lives.............SPEND YOUR MONEY ON A VACCINE FOR US, AND STOP LOOKING FOR  WAYS TO MAKE BREAST CANCER "as I have been told"....................The good cancer to get......................Yea bucko.....................easy to say when its not you who got the diagnosis.........OK, I'M THROUGH RANTING......................HUGS LADIES.

E - Excellent self-care tip/health advice!

enjoyful I do agree this is pointless. What I feel sorry about is the new people coming here for help and see so much negative going on.

Ladies, your right...........for whatever reason we got what we got, you could go nuts with the "what ifs", "suppose I had done", suppose I had not done".............It is pointless.....I know relatives and friends who have abused there body to the point where you say "what the hell are you thinking", and they have nothing wrong with them................luck of the draw?....Whatever it is, we are on this forum to support each other, and not to be told "had you done this, had you done that...............b---s--t...............it happened, so now we put on our big girl panites, and do what we have to do................I for one will not ponder about what I did wrong......I will move forward and do what I believe is right...............As I have said so many times.............I had cancer..........it did not have me..........................hugs ladies.

I personally don't think there is anything wrong with a good, spirited argument.  When somebody posts something that others strongly disagree with they need to be able to disagree openly. 

I also very much like the new feature that shows who reported a post and the fact that the reporter is then able (or forced as some think) to explain why.  It is good to know that angels posts were reported because of her use of the 'f' bomb ... a later reader might assume it was something much worse and that is not fair to her. 

To say that a word written as f**k or d*mn or cr*p is more acceptable than spelling the word out is rather silly ... we all know what it means no matter how it is written.  We are all adults here.  If somebody uses too much profanity for me I can always put that poster on ignore so I don't have to see it.   IMHO

I've seen several good and touching rants here.  (((hugs))) to all ...

One of my favorite quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission".  I say we make our own version "No one can make you feel guilty without your permission".

DesignerMom..........your right.......no one can make you feel guilty without your permission.......however, if you read enough articles, listen to enough people sometimes you can think "hmmmmmmmmmmm" I wonder..............Well I for one will not allow that......I have no regrets about how I lived my life....I will be 76 next month, have had a mild heart attack........and now BC, but I'm not going to accept the blame for all of my misfortune...............I know I didn't do everything the way society thinks it should be done, but isn't it a little too late now to "cry over spilt milk"...............I believe if we learn from our misfortunes then there is something to be said for what happens to us,...................after going back to Page 1 of the posts about "our hand in our breast cancer"..........................no one said "fate"...................No I take that back......one post said "its a crap shoot", and that made more sense then any others I have seen...........A crap shoot is just a different way of saying "fate".................Didn't I say I wasn't going to comment anymore..............oh well, you ladies just keep me going on and on.....love ya all.