Depression, or just life?
Hi everyone,
after diagnosis and treatment I had a clinical depression: couldn't eat or sleep, panic attacks, the works. I took antidepressants and climbed out of that pit, and have been off them for about a year.
My doc said I had/have PTSD.
I have been doing ok moodwise, up to a couple months ago. The possibility of a move came up, and I had a stressed out reaction-hard time to eat/sleep, but it didn't interfere with my functioning too badly. The house deal fell through, and I felt stable again. Then I was moved from a simple, frankly boring, job at work to a more stressful, responsible position. It's a new position, and I'm not completely sure what my job description is. I'm not being given a lot of direction, and it's stressing me out. I'm feeling bleak and unsure.
What have others' experiences with depression been? I'm afraid of it getting bad again, but I don't want to take meds if this is just life upheaval.
Catherine
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For the heck of it I decided to follow up on this post. Guess what? It's life! I'm not falling into a pit of clinical depression. The job is getting better-I decided to take the confident WTH route at work and do what I think should be done since I'm not getting much direction there. The snow is melting here, and it's easier to get out and exercise, which is my firstline antidepressant. I started seeing the counselor I saw when I was first diagnosed, and she said "You are human, you have feelings, and you're sensitive."
Looks like I have a case of life.
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Keep up the good work Cath! It is great to be in tune to what is happening for you emotionally. So glad you are feeling better! xo
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Hi Catherine,
Glad to hear you are doing better. I do think after all that they do us we do get PTSD, so if you have a set back that would be realistic. So if you did need to take meds again it would be okay. After 2 1/2 years I am still taking anti-depressents. (Just takin a low dose.)
Congrats on the new job & being able to handle it. You go girl!!! NJ
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I think it must happen to alot of us. I am 2 years out & am still have depression with occasional anxiety. Mrs. Norma June you must be right about the PTSD. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer 9 mos. after my diag! Then my mother (86 with dementia) had to placed in a dementia unit (3 different ones). Finally on May 7, 2010 I was biking with a friend when a truck struck her from behind and killed her. It barely missed me. I guess its just going to take awhile. I am on Celexa and Klonopin and I am so tired of being this way and not being myself. I've been wondering if I was an isolated case. I really want to try to get off of both drugs!
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Cathmg...Hope you're doing well. I have a lot of experience with Depression because it gallops in my husband's family and he's been dealing with it for the last 15 years of our marriage. I very rarely discuss my husband's journey because if you've seen any of the commericals for Depression medications, you'll know that Depression "hurts." When I see some of the commericals, I just pause and say, "That's it." Anxiety is an all together different ball game. Anxiety can eventually trigger a Depression or be a part of Depression and can be equally as debilitating. Anixety can also, as another poster mentioned, be a part of life. A good therapist can figure out the difference and then treat you accordingly, if necessary. I know we all have stressors in our lives. All of our brains are wired differently and some of us have better ways, so to speak, of dealing with stress. But you have to be very careful with how much stress you can "take" once you've had a Depression, because the anxiety that accompanies the stress can eventually put you back into a Depression. It's a good sign that you can distinguish your feelings now from the Depression that you had. I urge you to continue to follow up with your therapist. Sounds like both of you know what you're doing. I just also want to warn you, if the doctors push "anti-anxiety" meds on you....be very careful. They can become addictive and hard to get off of. If the therapist thinks your stress is just a part of life, then continue to look for stress reducing activities. Hopefully, that will be all you need. Good luck!
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Thank you everyone for the encouragement and information. I am indeed leery of being clinically depressed again, which is why my anxiety and low mood scared me. I am feeling more comfortable on the job, and just realized I am going to have some of these feelings when have a big change in my life. I have started taking 5htp, a supplement that is supposed to raise serotonin levels. I'm not sure it has made any difference. LauraLC-I took Celexa and Seroquel for over 18 months, and was able to wean off them. I would take the Celexa again if things got bad. One thing that really helped me understand myself was a website for highly sensitive people. I understood my reaction to the diagnosis/treatment/tamoxifen more when I understood things really affect me-a clinical depression is a pretty reasonable response to being faced with your mortality and the possiblity of having your kids watch you die. Freaked me right out, and I didn't have any RA-RA pink fight thoughts, which is how everyone wants you to deal with it.
LauraLC, I'm sorry for your losses and what you've been through. I hope you heal soon from what life has thrown your way. How long have you been on meds?
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For me the depression stems from the fact that I can't get my former life back. There have been many, many losses as a result of BC and I can't accept the new me and new life. My life was much better before
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Voraciouser, you are certainly right about the stress+anxiety=depression! I've found that stress from elderly parents (88 & 86) and children (15 & 12), both "life" stressors, throw me back.
hrf: I completely understand: we all want our former lives back, we all want to be like we were. I guess for some of us it is a longer journey to accept who we are now. Please talk with someone if you aren't already. It can be a great help. Meds can help, but I have to drag and push myself to do things I would normally do.
cathmg: I been on meds since diag. 11/2008. I've been on prozac, and one other one, on different doseages. But the blasted thing keeps coming back! My sister wants me to try to get off both Celexa 30mg & Klonopin (only 1/2 of .5 mg twice a day). But I don't know. After my diag. I found out I have generalized anxiety disorder that developed at about 10 or 11. Can you give me the website for highly sensitive people? I'm obviously one!
It helps to hear from women who know what you are talking about! Thank you all!
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LauraLC....some more advice. My husband and I do not discuss his treatment plan with family members, except with two of his cousins who are also treated for depression. We would never have discussed it with them except that the doctors believe there is a genetic component and think whatever meds the cousins respond to might work well for all of them.
If you are continuing to get bouts while taking the meds, speak to your therapist about manipulating your meds and/ or dosages. My husband's problem was that after feeling better for a couple of years on the meds, he would hate the side effects and then ween himself off. After a year or two off of meds, he would relapse. He now knows that despite the side effects, it is in his best interest to take the meds for the rest of his life. He also knows now that on the right cocktail he functions well and we are all able to enjoy life.
If you are on the right cocktail, when you are stressed, you will be able to deal with it.
Last thought... Part of my husband's cocktail includes exercise. Exercise fuels the brain with happiness.
Good luck! -
I feel as HRF does. My life has never been the same as it was before - my relationships, my looks, my job - everything suffered or ended because of it. I am happy to be alive, but am thinking the depression about missing my old life is somewhat normal?
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LauraLC-the website for sensitive people is www.hsperson.com. I basically only talked about my depression with those who would understand. My mother was so anti-medication I had to stop talking to her. The Celexa worked well for me, but I did feel a little "up" on it. My therapist's advice was to be on it for over 18 months to get the best benefit, so I did that.
Fearless_Ones- I have come to think that depression is a more normal reaction to diagnosis, treatment, and all the losses than a spunky, fight this with positive thinking attitude. C'mon. This sucks. And at the same time, I am grateful to be alive.
The anxiety has really lessened over the past couple weeks as I acclimate to this new job.
Happy spring, everyone.
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