How did u tell to family & friends?

Sagita ~ I think it's wise to wait to tell friends & family, as you're doing, until you have more information and a treatment plan in place.  That avoids sharing news that might be shocking and create more fear than it would if you can also share your treatment plan.

Another thing I found helpful when I told people was being sure to add something positive about my prognosis.  Saying something like,  "... and my doctors assure me we've found it early and it's very treatable, and that I should be fine after I go through this treatment."  That way, you are answering everyone's natural concerns about your prognosis, which I think is often the awkward elephant in the room.

As far as your 11-year old, she will look to you for her cues on how scared or worried to be.  Let her know that you have excellent doctors who are taking very good care of you, and that you have an excellent prognosis for a full recovery.  Let her know that any sickness you may experience from treatments will be temporary, and that it's all part of a healing process.  Life won't be exactly the same as you go through treatment, but she will learn how to cope when life throws her unexpected challenges through the strength and courage she'll see you demonstrate in this situation.     Deanna  

Don't feel like you have to tell anybody until you are ready. It is your personal choice who you tell and feel comfortable talking to and who you don't. It is often better to wait until you know what your treatment entails. I personally was not going to tell my family at all until it was done (they don't live close by) but, when my test results were all in and it got at little more complicated to treat I ended up telling them sooner than I would have liked. I was pressured into it by good meaning people. I wish I hadn't. They haven't been the pillar of strength for me I would have liked. Actually its added a lot more stress to my situation than I needed. You likely know better than anyone what to expect from them so trust your gut.

My friends and co workers however were my surprising strength. I'm sent good wishes by someone almost daily. You never know for sure where you are going to find support and we definitely need it when going through this. The ladies on this board are awesome if you have any concerns while you are waiting to tell your friends and family, afterwards as well. It's a very hard thing to just say out loud at first but it will get easier after you've done it a few times. Good luck to you.