My Fellow Deletees and The Cyberbullied Sisters

Hear, hear!  (What Athena said.)

Medigal, I decided to follow Athena's lead and cough up some cash as a pay-it-forward gesture.  She, of all people, has felt the stings of the deleters.  In the post I never made this afternoon, I was going to say those barbs were analogous to the picadillos (or banderillias) in a bullfight.  But, if Athena thinks it's worth the investment and the risk, I'm game.  Nobody else has to follow.

I'll pay-it-forward, yes.  But tomorrow I am also going to pay some back.  One of my May '08 chemo sisters died last month, and her memorial service is tomorrow.  I can't make it to the service; so, in addition to the "Healing Garden" she and her family favored, I plan to toss a few more dollars to BCO.  I never would have met Dana and my other May '08 sisters if it had not been for these discussion boards.

As angry as I get about the other stuff -- the childishness, and the bullying -- I still have a fondness for these discussion boards and this site, because of what I've gained from them over the past 3 years.  I will walk away some day, but not today. 

otter

Count me in!

So glad that everyone who was deleted is back on line.

Cheers

Beth

1Athena1, my fellow loving the B cups friend....I could not agree more!  And Otter...the friends we have here - I would be lost without these boards - really lost.  No one gets it like my fellow sisters. 

I can be very strong in my opinions too - but generally, I don't get rattled enough to 'Report a Post' but rationally try to work it out. 

I purchase the BCO stuff and will make this a part of my now referred to as 'The Rebel Walk in the Komen 3 Day'. 

Melissa is not the only moderator but she does field pretty much the majority of the PM's.  God Bless her - she sure must get a passle of 'on the rag' type rantings. 

I was not around for the ads - but I would not object to a few discreet and bc appropriate ads - such as external prothestics, mascetomy clothing, hospice care, LE sleeves, wig shops, specialty scarves, port accessories - things we actually use, we are a prime source for that type of marketing and a very 'captive' audience which could mean good money for very little ad space - and for newbies, it would be a great thing and keep it minimal so that the money taken in is just what BCO needs to keep moving forward.  I think we would have to allow a few freebies like where to recycle your external prothesis or LE sleeves or wigs. 

Just my thoughts...LowRider

lindasa, those of us in the U.S. can't use a charitable donation as a tax deduction either, unless we itemize our deductions (on "Schedule A").  There's no point itemizing deductions if the total dollar value is less than the "standard deduction" would be.  (Can you tell I'm still working on our taxes?)

You're right, though -- so what!

otter

As a web developer who also has quie a few websites out on the market, I can tell you approximately how much a website like BCO incurs in monthly costs. For this high number of members it has to have a private server, and depending on the hosting provider, it could be anywhere from $200 to $400 a month. Anything above that would be a ripoff. The software platform used is of a type that doesn't use too many resources in terms of server, mostly it would be the space taken by all the forums themselves and the members profiles, as well as the bandwidth.

As for hiring people to do the necessary changes - that wouldnt' be THAT bad. Very easy to find someone on Elance to do them for a very affordable price.

A few advertisements, as long as they are targeted for what we need, would be acceptable. Heck, even a Google AdSense module or two - from my experience, that only and it would cover the costs, and the ads are targeted on the keywords (words most frequently found in the forum), so things that we probably would find of interest. Also, when setting the Adsense module, lots of things can be tweaked so it would only bring ads related to what we are interested in.

I think targeted ads would be fine.  I would also be willing to donate if I saw something being done but after reading old threads and seeing how long this has been going on I'm not comfortable donating money until I hear of a plan.

A good friend reminded me of my name because I changed it so many times lol.  It's me, it's chemosabi. March 3rd was my birthday and my doctors told me they didn't think I would be here for my birthday.  Stage 4 ya with brain mets now.  The devil must have lured me here and thanks for getting a good laugh out of me.  Melissa even you.  I can't even fathom the amount of women that bco has helped in the last 6 years.  Thank you.

And hello to Otter, LIndasa and all my friends.

Bump.  And a check's in the mail, so to speak.

Safe from what?

?????

I hope you guys have proof with regards to your allegations because, if not, you could be opening yourselves up to a can of worms. Proof please.

Erica, this is serious.  It's not a game.  I don't like what's being said.  Have you ever thought that law enforcement may be involved already.

Well in that case I have no worries.  But if you all are not careful, you may end up with a few.

Edited to add:  would be wise to delete that whole thread until you have your facts and proof.  I'm glad you enjoyed my humour!