If you have just been diagnosed....

Hi Ladies, well I'm back........got the news around 3:30EST.  My BS called to tell me that the pathology came back "positive".......He said "I understand we have an appt. for tomorrow.".  Told him we did, and he said "is the whole gang coming (6 kids), and a daughter-in-law, that is a nurse.  He then said "Don't forget, that Breast Cancer is treatable, and curable.  He said by the time we're done talking (2 hrs) I do believe I will have answered any questions you have........but if I don't we will talk till you walk out of my office completely sure of what it is you are going to deal with.  I thanked him and hung up..............Didn't cry, cause I don't think there are anymore tears left, and had fully prepared myself for what he said........I was certain just from seeing the ultrasound, listening to him explain it the first day I saw him.  Some things you just know......I am 75, so I felt good when he said "you will die of old age, not cancer".  I thought "well that's encouraging, cause he sounds confident.  I will let you gals know what the pathology says after tomorrow's visit, and will be counting on you all for help and support.  Thank God I have wonderful "sisters" like you.

ducky, it sounds like you have an absolutely wonderful BS!   So sorry you had to get a positive diagnosis, but from his comments, you are in very good hands!   And on top of that, your family sounds incredibly supportive!  

Hoping what you learn from your BS will all be very hopeful and reassuring.  Keep us posted!    Deanna 

Hi.. 

i'm new to this site.. im here for my mom.. she has recently been diagnosed, we found out today.. she just did the biopsy and still needs to do a few more tests.. the doctor says it's stage 2, but they still need to look more into it, more depth.. i'm trying so hard to stay strong for her. She took the news relatively okay, and i'm pretty sure she will be fine.. i don't know what to expect though.. the doctor said they would start chemo in 2 weeks... then they will do the surgery.. any advice? i really dont know who to talk to .. i don't feel like people around me would understand..  

Thank you jenn! I will not leave her side that's for sure, we always spent so much time together, and things are not gonna change. I will always be there for her no matter what. I already read some advice about chemo.. I will make sure to let her know so she can check it out.. We all need to keep on fighting really strong!

Kristina--Take one day at a time. Once you have all the information--things will make sense. The worst part is the waiting but once you have all the information--things start moving and strangely, you feel a greater sense of control. I have just finished radiation after chemo and surgery. The main thing to remember is that it is all doable--may suck--but you will get through. Hopefully you get all the details soon (remember to get copies of all pathology etc---good to keep on hand). Take care, Rachel

Eeeekkkk....that is a pretty bad reaction by the mammo tech. No wonder you are terrified. I know it is so hard to do it but truly--it will feel better once you have all the info. I am pretty young also--not as young as you but was below 40 when diagnosed. Complete shock. You will find lots of information here. It was a Godsend to me. Try to stay off the internet in general--when you google things--it will always give worst case scenario. I would wait till you have all the info--ask questions--get copies of everything. I agree with your Doc--don't panic. I think this site has a limit on the amount of times you can post when you are new--so PM me if you have any questions. I know that coming here to this thread a few months ago--helped me to answer questions, figure out what questions to ask. Take it one day at a time.

I've just been diagnosed and meet with my surgeon next week.  I'm so scared.  I've meet with my personal doctor and understand that they caught it early and it is small. Rationally I get this.  I'm just scared and afriad what this means for me over the next several months.  I also concerned as I have two daughters. 

Kristina....word of advice...STAY OFF the INTERNET...I looked stuff up and thought OMG..I'm doomed.....listen to your doctors and push for results!!! Explain your a young, single mom...you need answers!!!

good news TAR! When do you start chemo?

Hello Ladies,

I was just diagnosed on the 2nd of Invasive Ductile Carcinoma. I had my first apt with my surgeon on the 7th. He has made an apt to see an oncologist on the 15th. I have large breast (48+DD+ depending on bra maker) and I have decided to try Chemo to see if we can shrink this 7cm lump before he goes in to take it out. He also said they will do  more Chemo after the surgery for some time. Cancer is not new to my family but Breast Cancer is. I have been reading up on lots of different things about this matter. I am sure every lady worries about a lot of things but am I wrong for not feeling devastated by this news? I feel a sort of relief. For the past several years I have felt something was coming and when I found the lump I knew it was cancer. Everyone around me (not that there is many) is acting like it's a death sentence and my I make jokes about always wanting to have a breast reduction and getting a bra now that will fit right but they look at me like I am crazy. My husband (God love him) is already starting to drive me nuts wanting to watch every move I make asking if I am ok and such and I have not even gotten that thing put in me yet to start Chemo with. I just keep saying to him honey there is nothing we can do about it..it's happened I have it now we move on and fix it we can't go back and not have it. I just sort of feel like I am wrong. I still feel like me even though I will be losing weight (not such a bad thing) and my hair will fall out (always wanted to see what my real color was) I just feel like I am expected to feel bad. Has it not hit me yet? Will it hit me later on? I just don't know what to expect really. 

MLBIT - Not a death sentence these days. Not even IBC, like it use to be. Some day, yes it will kill me, but I could get hit by a bus and die tomorrow too. I delt with it almost the same exact way as you just described. I was actually relieved. I haven't ever really completely broken down. Cry every once in a great while, but I think some of that is menopause.

You didn't say how old you are. I'm 46. Was diagnosed when I was 44. I just wanted to get started, get it out of me and move on. Get on with my life. I have more important things to do in my opinion. I had my kids when I was young. So that by the time I turned 40, I could go & do anything I wanted, when I wanted. Now this damn desease has interrupted my plans. So I wanna get on with MY LIFE. I'll do anything & everything they tell me so I can get my life back. I'm ready to move on.

Good luck, take care. Let us help you in any way we can. Any questions, comments, bitch, moan, laughs. We're here. This is a great place. Lots & lots of wonderful women here. At some point, someone here will have or will be going through the same thing you are. So ask any and all questions. We're here to help. God Bless & sorry you have to join us, but glad you're here.

Best of luck, Leisa

Hello everyone,

My sister was diagnosed with Mucinous Carninoma of the right breast two weeks ago. I can't find a lot of info on this type of breast cancer. Can anyone help? She was told they caught it early and it was microscopic. She had a biopsy done resulting in this diagnosis. She is so scared and so am I. She meets with her surgeon tomorrow. I so want to help her but have no idea how. Can anyone help her please?

Thank you so much!

Thank you! Unfortunately I don't see it. Is it another another name or catagory?

I was just recently diagnosed with high grade DCIS. Initially, the biopsy came bach ADH and DCIS. A conservative reexcision was performed, with the surgeron believing it was all lactational hyperplasia (I was nursing my now 5 month old during the biosy but had to wean for the surgery on March 7th) only to find the tissue to be all high grade DCIS with no clean margins. I am scheduled for an MRI tomorrow and then consultation with the surgeon on Tuesday. I know I am heading in for more surgery and either radiation or tamoxifin depending on the surgery. I feel like I should just go for the mastectomy if not a double mastectomy. I am positive for estrogen receptors, I am 38 yr old vegetarian mother of 5. I don't want to worry about this for the rest of my life. Any recommendations? 

Thank you Deanna. I am looking at my MRI results and I am getting the hang of looking at them but am concerned that I am seeing some acitivity on the other side as well. The mammo showed a benign calcification on that side but now I am noticing more of them. Not as much as the right but I am curious about what they are going to say. It is scaring me that I haev a so called "benign" calcification to begin with since they said that about my right side last year. I don't want to be one year down the road and start this all over again. 

I am not sure what Diep is. I have heard of tram flap and the silicon. I am trying to get as informed as I can even though my husband is getting very upset with me. I don't want to rely on one doctor's opinion, I want to know the right Qs to ask.....