My apologies

Ana,

as somebody else said you do not need to prove anything to anyone. Good luck with your surgery and further Tx. Also, do not think that wanting to take some time off work and work on yourself and your well being is something you need to apologize.

Take care of yourself.

Man, this has really been bothering me, that someone actually had the gall to call your doctor and accept this personal information from you. Please contact the moderators and tell them this so that this woman can be permanently removed from this board. I'm sure we all have our own ideas of who it might be, but only you know for sure so please, please, please make the mods aware of this. This women is obviously bat-sh*t crazy. I have no doubts you're going to end up with a stalker on your hands. Nip it in the bud.

Edited to add: marie, you are so correct about the "ignore" feature. This situation however, has gone beyond something or someone you can just "ignore". Granted, the information was unwisely offered, but to call her doctor?????? I'm stunned.

Edited again 'cos I still can't get over it....I would call your doctor and find out if they have a record of her call (possibly they thought it was just weird enough to keep track of). If things get out of hand at least you'll have some info to take to the cops.

Gracie, I wouldnt worry about it anymore. Best to just let it go

There is a law called  HIPPA. Im guessing both Anna and the person who PMed her havent been involved very long with medical situations. HIPPA is a big BIG deal within the medical community. Violation of it  is SERIOUS business

Im not sure why Anna would give out her doc's number or why the person who received actually would call them. It was a dead end on the very face of it.

HIPPA prevents doctors, hospitals, etc etc giving out any info.  

I understand that Anna is bothered by the idea that someone is questioning her honor, integrity, credibility. It would be grating against my nerves too and my impulse would be to prove my honor.

But in the big picture of dealing with BC, I dont think it's wise wasting one's energy in such a pursuit.

As one gets further and further into a medical journey, one learns not to sweat the small stuff. Esp when it comes to strangers and their opinions. It simply isnt worth it.

I agree with DesignerMom. Time to focus on the important stuff.  

 Anna: The person who is that interested in whether or not you are lying to go as far as trying to make you prove that you have cancer,really needs something to do and really needs a heart. It is just so sad that a person that is fighting cancer themself has nothing better to do than to pry into someones elses' business. The bible calls them busy bodies. I am glad that you have calmed down some and have had time to think about yourself. If you don't take care of yourself no one else will. You will get through this! Look at how many of us already are. I am stage IIIa and I just live everyday as if it is my last. Enjoy your life and your family. This will no doubt make you closer. Don't push them away. Allow them to be there for you and to help you in any way that you need it.

Carolyn

It's ok Anna.

Dont let anyone distract you from getting better. That and only that right now should be your focus.

Good luck with your surgery. 

Anna,

I agree with tooyoungtohavebc in that I saw nothing wrong with your original post and that you have nothing to apologize for.  I also agree with Erica31 that many people here owe you an apology and I hope that they are big enough to do it whether on the boards or in a private message.  I was horrified at the pack mentality stupid replies that you received from women that should know better.  The words contempt prior to investigation come to mind.  I had to walk away from my computer after reading the thread. When I came back I saw the thread was deleted.   The person pming you and demanding proof is beneath comtempt and you can report her when you are ready.  You have enough on your plate and you don't have to take action now.   I feel strongly that this needs to be said.  I hope this is a valuable learning experience for certain women to not have such a knee jerk reaction again to a newly diagnosed women's post.

Somebody has already suggested posting in the surgery thread and I think that is a good idea.  I don't know if you saw that there also is a young person's forum:

http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/27

I hope ALL women here continue to give you the support that you need.  I think you are a very courageous, smart, and compassionate young woman.  After all your treatment is done and  over with, and you have some time under your belt, you can come back and help out others that are newly diagnosed and scared. I think you will be a real asset to the boards.  Right now you need to reach out for help and support. I am so glad that you came back.  Be good to yourself, Anna and keep coming back for all the online support that you need. It's here.

Anna, I couldn't agree more with Gracie. This person should be banned. Pity you shared information with her, but you must report this to the moderators, if not for yourself then for others whom she might victimize.

Good luck with your bmx. The surgery board should be very helpful, and, if you should decide on reconstruction, there are some wonderful threads out there as well which I found very helpful. Damned awful to have to cope with all of this and I am sure this has been an express-lane learning experience for you. May you emerge healthy in the end!