Love this suggestion by our pastor
After suffering with a very deep depression (depression exacerbated by start of Femara), our dear pastor has stopped by our home a few times to visit with me. At the first visit, I told him the deep depression had left me with an odd feeling of being "afraid to be alone." I've always been great at being alone; this was an odd feeling to describe.
He told me to imagine Jesus sitting on the chair next to me or being there with me. Now I do that all the time after I pray and ask God to help me with this. My dogs are here and help, but the reminder that Jesus is literally by my side has helped me, too. Not that everything's perfect. I still get depressed, but I pray a lot and it helps to know He is there.
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He will never leave us..His strength is perfect when ours is not.
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The beauty in this is that Jesus really is with you. It's not just imagination.

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Your pastor was truly inspired to tell you this, Dawn. It was the perfect answer and I'm so glad it's given you the comfort you need right now. I can't imagine going through the trial of cancer without the knowledge that our Savior is with us whenever we need Him.
Hope you're having better, brighter days, Dawn.
~Joanne
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Dawn, just wanted to chime in with a second idea.
I have gone thru times (right after diagnosis, right after surgery, right before new scans etc etc) where I had the worst time sleeping...... couldn't fall asleep, couldn't stay asleep and more etc.
Anyhow, now I can't quite remember how or where I came up with this idea. I think I may have read something in a book, or on a thread here even..... but then I tailored the idea a little further.
For sleeping more soundly.
As I began to fall asleep I thought of four 'angels' to watch over me, to take up residence on the four corners of my bed.
Each night as I'd begin to get settled in bed, I'd typically choose 3 of the same angels: both of my grandmothers and my mother-in-law -- all three in heaven already and with a deep sense of love for my situation and concern for me personally.
Then every night I'd come up with a fourth 'angel-guest' to fill the fourth corner bedpost.
Sometimes it would be a woman from history, Helen Keller for example.
I would imagine that all four were visiting, watching over me, keeping track of my dreams, offering me solace, caring about me. I'd 'talk' with them about the days demands and concerns & imagine what they'd like me to know.
In any case, I am a year post BILAT and have returned to fairly decent sleep health.
I had 'forgotten' that I had used this sleep remedy, until I saw your post.
Perhaps it could benefit someone else here.
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faith--what an absolutely beautiful idea! (i'm going to try it and also share the idea with others, thank you so much)
Anne
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Without 'Faith', there is no hope for our future. Depression is real. It is up to each of up to reach up -- and ask for help. Therapy and / or medication may also be needed. We are all individuals - with unique genes.
Vicki Sam
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Faith I love this idea and I am going to try it tonight. Thank you for posting this.
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Is there a Blessed Sacrament chapel in your church? Spending time there would also be good. Then you would not have to imagine Jesus being present; He would actually be right there with you.
Being on a long term prescription is daunting, isn't it? Do you consider it to be one of those extraordinary measures of life support? Were you told to exercise, even in a small way? I was. I try to go out for a daily walk, or two.
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hello all, when I went in for surgery to imlant the pacemaker/defibrillator I have,in 2009, as my husband let go of my hand for that was as far as he could go, I felt so all alone, I lay there almost in tears, I prayed for Jesus to be in there with me, and HE was ans they prepared me the nurse could sense the anxiety and started talkin to me asking where I went to scholl as I named my high school(St Maria Gorett High she said I went there also, I thought look at God not only was HE there but a fellow Alumni, thank You I said, to HIM. Be Blessed to YOU ALL> msphil(idc, stage 2, 3 nodes, L mast(reconstruction body rejected it), chemo and rads and 5yrs on Tamoxifen) and all while preparing for my wedding.
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