Reality Hits

Dear Betty - I am so sorry you heard this. I know you love your Onco - but that was insensitive for him to say.  I don't blame you for feeling sad and being hit hard by the comment.  It's great though that you can use your strength, knowledge and love to help your sister through this too.

Sending you a big HUG and sending thoughts of strength to you.

xoxo Bevin

HI Betty - I know, I sometimes think doctors don't "hear" how their comments come across to us.  I'm sure he was trying to ensure your sister understood her situation and how it differs from yours.  . I truly apologize if my note sounded as though I was  being critical..I just felt bad for you and realized he may not have thought  about the way you could feel or take the comment. Obviously, neither did I..

Sending you thoughts of strength and healing. 

 xox

Bevin

I know what you mean.  There are times it kind of sneaks up on us.  I try to tell myself that the probability isn't my personal reality.  Good luck to both you and your sister.  Hugs, G.

I know what you mean. My sister was dxed a few years before me with stage 2. My mother would say things to me about her poor prognosis. My mother was an rn so I know she really wanted to see my path report. That is never going to happen.



My sister was a wonderful source of support. Wishing the best for you and your sister.

I think I understand what you mean.  It's great news for your sister and I know that is very important.  We are in a different ballpark.  But that doesn't mean we can't hit the ball out of the park, too! 

Yes, we are much closer to the stage IV dx.  So we get watched closer.  We cringe everytime we feel something new.  Scared that it might be the next step in our dx.  But we also get taken very seriously by our medical team.  So we get the scans, the tests, whatever it takes to prove that our concerns are not cancer.  And so many of us keep on going to live long lives.  We find a strength we never knew we had.  We don't want to be here but, because we are, we have gotten stronger and so many of us appreciate each day in ways we never could before.

Your sister is going to be fine and so will you.  And you are not alone!  Our ballpark is filled with wonderful women!

It sounds like he was trying to make a joke and probably didn't realize how it would sound after you repeated it to yourself a few times.  I'm sorry you had to feel that way.