my mother might have breast cancer n im 17

I am sorry your family is going through this.  Breast cancer is not a death sentence.  Read this message board it is full of people that have gotten through it and are now cancer free.  I know how scary it is - I was diagnosed in December and I am a mom of a 4 year old little boy.  Yes, I was scared, but I am getting through it. Having the love and support of my family and friends gives me strength.  I don't have cancer any more...it is gone after surgery.  I just have to finish my treatment to keep it that way.  I know it would be too easy for me to say "don't be scared".  That's rediculous....you will be.  Just know that so many gals on this board have beat it.  Your mom may be one of the lucky one's and have caught it early. I am Stage 1 which is good news.  I am saying a prayer for your mom and your family.   Please take a deep breath.  Feel free to post your questions on any of the message boards here eventhough you are not the one with BC.  People here are so supportive...they can offer support and point you in the right direction.   I wish I was near you now....I would be giving you a very long, tight HUG!  Best of luck to your mom.....hang in there as best as you can. 

Oh, more waiting, that really just sucks! You must all be so on edge.

i don't really know much  about mammograms - mine was black with white spider lines all over, had a very clear white circular patch nearly three inches across, that was the tumour, there was calcium deposit in the tumour made the picture white but most are a lot less clear than that. Spider lines are normal, that shows you where the milk ducts are cos they got calcium traces too. Maybe it was a negative and that's why hers had black spots?

Anyway she was right to go get checked out, something is there, she's not making it up. Getting the docs to admit that, is a big step forward. It's natural to worry so much, and well, she been to the docs now and they are on board with her concerns and she's being taken seriously. I don't know why they're making her wait though, maybe she can ring and ask? Or maybe it's something she knows more than she's saying but needs to work through by herself and she's not ready to tell you everything just yet?  I don't think that's very likely but i know you will be there when she's ready. It could be that they think she is on the borderline of normal for her age, and they want to see if it changes or goes away there are other things than cancer that can look similar on x-ray. I'm sure they wouldn't be hanging around if they thought it probably was cancer, but if she is still worried perhaps she could try for another opinion?

Six months takes you through to the late summer holidays so you got lots of time to put it on the back burner if you can and have picnics and stuff with the children - your cute little baby will be walking and trying to talk by then, imagine! Any way you can think to help your mom relax meantime has got to be good.

Tosha - It is ok to be scared for both yourself and your mother.  What I do ask of you, if you could do this, is to be there for her as I am sure she has been there for you.  Yes you are scared of having to live without her.  I doubt it will come to that.  These days more of us with cancer survive than not.  Many, many more.  My daughter is soon to turn 16.  I was diagnosed on Valentine's Day.  I intend to beat it.  I was given some news today that allowed me to breathe a bit easier.  Trying to share it with my daughter was harder.  She doesn't want to talk about this which frankly makes it worse for both her as well as for me.  She is angry and I feel she is trying to push me away. This is why I ask you to be sensitive to your mother's needs and fears.  She has lost loved ones to this and even when we are told that our particular type of cancer is treatable, it is still cancer and that is scary.  Sounds like since your mom it set for surgery that they know what they are dealing with, which is good.  Take care of you, your child and your mom.  It will all work out.