When do you stop asking...WHY?

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  • Dayzeroze
    Dayzeroze Member Posts: 36
    edited February 2011

    thanks ladys

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  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited February 2011

    Dayzeroze ((((hugs)))) you sound like you've had more than most people can handle, you must have the shoulders of a weight lifter.

    We don't always know the reason we're faced with what we're faced with, it just IS and that can be hard to accept, it really can.  I know that there have been times that each of us has said "why me" whether is be to this or something else.   And.......we've all tried to figure out if we did something to cause it.  The truth of the matter, it's a crap shoot and it sucks.  The hardest part will now be to work past the "why me" and accept that it happened and just IS and that you may never get that answer to why me, but know that it will get better and you will figure things out in a different way. In the meantime I'm sending you a great big cyber (((HUG))).

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited February 2011

    for some reason I was lead to beleive that people prayed "asking for stuff.  I always thought I would do it a bit differently.  My major concern when pregnant was having a baby with brain problems-hydro chephalis.  I never prayed for a "normal" baby, I prayed for the strength to handle whatever we would be faced with (I didn't know about teenages then, LOL). 

    We thought my dh larynx cancer had returned and my prayers were not so much that it wasn't there, but for our ability to manage the treatment.  I do accept miricles, as a nurse I've seen a few, but never considered myself or family in line for one.  So I simply ask to be able to handle what ever it is that must be done.  I was very thankful today that no more cance was found for dh.  You can all celebrate with me if you choose!!!!!!

    This, to me, goes to the "why" question.  I don't ask why, I just ask for strenghth and the ability to handle what ever it is.  guess I have lower expectations.  LOL, but i sure don't have a problem asking for prayers from others when I''m in a tight place. 

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  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited February 2011

    Iodine - you said it.........pray and ask for the strength to handle whatever we're dealing with. 

    I remember as a child sitting in the car with my Grandfather, who was a man of few words, but well spoken and an Elder of the Church.  We were headed to church and for some reason I wanted to know about miracles and why if God created miracles we couldn't just ask for one and it happen.  He drove silently for a few minutes, then proceeded to tell me that miracles aren't created by God, but that God has given us the ability to create miracles.  He didn't mean that sometimes something great happens without explanation, but that we are the miracles and that God expects us to use the gifts he has given us.  Strength, courage, wisdom, compassion....... Sometimes when I feel like I am facing a tough time I remember that conversation and know that I can do "it".

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  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited February 2011

    Very cool jenn3...sounds like your grandfather was a smart man :)

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  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited February 2011

    Thanks Jenny - My Grandfather was a great man - I still miss talking to him.

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  • hymil
    hymil Member Posts: 826
    edited February 2011

    Why from what cause? Well i don't smoke, drink or take external hormones, never have done, and apart from being female, nearly 50 and slightly cuddly (now we are talking BMI 28 not 38) had no known risk factors. Cause- "Poop happens." (beautifully put, thank you.)

    Why through what mechanism? well i think it's to do with cells reproducing inaccurate copies that sort of get overkeen on reproducing themselves - cool in rabbits, compound interest investments and M&M fairy cakes, not cool inside my boobs. Go ask a scientist for the details.

    Why for what Purpose?  Ah, now that's a question, and if i was told the answer I suspect i wouldn't understand it anymore than if you sent Shakespeare a handheld thingummyjig with his complete works on video stored thereinside or If you showed Moses a map of the Sinai peninsula with all the tents and wells marked...   Certainly been lots of consequences for me of having got BC, many bad obviously, a few good... I lost some weight not before time, got back to the gym and eat a bit better, i'm been jolted out of a few ruts, I value things and people a bit different than I did a year ago...  Possible consequences for other people probably, none of us exists in isolation.

    I learnt about Benefit finding (it used to be called Looking for the silver lining in every grey cloud, til they all got lost in the fog) and as a big Q?? hangs over my job now I will be posssibly exploring benefits in greater detail (ahahaha. sick joke)

    No, I don't ask why. But i do a lot of looking for the good in the situation. I'm no Pollyanna I mean I was never going to live forever anyhow, this just focuses my attention a bit. I could lose all the weight I like and still get run over tomorrow, if I get out of bed. Have to say I'm no way in favour of BC but there is good all over the place when you start looking, and it's more fun than looking for the bad, that's way too easy.

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