DCIS is the good cancer I'm going to scream!!

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momto4ct
momto4ct Member Posts: 6

 I just want to scream and throw a tantrum the next time someone says 'DCIS..that the good kind of BC"   I realize that it could be a lot worse but after having 3 biopsies...one because the radiologist biopsied the wrong area!!and  3 re excisions..with no clear margins..I am on my way to having a Uni masectomy.(sorry need to learn abbreviations)

  I'm sorry but NO cancer is the good kind!!  The next time someone utters those words to me again I think I'll just scream!!

This is my first post here and thought that if anyone would understand my frustration it would be others who have DCIS!!I

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  • SAMayoFL
    SAMayoFL Member Posts: 958
    edited January 2011

    OMG, I know exactly what you mean!!!  After diagnois I swore I was going to slap the next person who told me that breast cancer isn't so bad anymore.  Excuse me but I have lost my breast, my hair and my general state of being healthy.  Breast cancer seems pretty bad to me at the moment, whether it's DCIS, IDC, ILC or whatever.  People can be so offensive even when they are trying to help!

    Susan

  • SuebeeBC
    SuebeeBC Member Posts: 1,256
    edited January 2011

    I had a radiologist tell me that I DIDNT have cancer.  WTF?  HUH?  Then WHY am I SITTING HERE????  The longer it has been, the more i realize what Susan says, DCIS, ICD, ICL etc....all bad cells...all needing treatment.....none of this is fun, easy, or a good thing.  Thanks for the rant.  I get to have my single MX and SNB tomorrow and if I dont have cancer, then please, tell me now so I can keep my breast,  and move on my merry way.

  • tweetybird
    tweetybird Member Posts: 815
    edited January 2011

    I totally hear you Mom! My BS (breast surgeon), said that DCIS is cancer, and my Oncologist said it's pre-cancer, so even amongst the medial profession, there's differences of opionion!

    One of my first meetings with my oncologist, I actually mentioned if DCIS is "pre-cancer", than why am I/had going thru 33 rounds of radiation, now visits with her every 6 months (at the begining it was every 3 months, then 4 months), tamoxifen for 5 years, and an MRI/ultra sound and Mamo/ultra sound every 6 months.

    I look at it that cancer is cancer, it's just a different journey that we are all going on.

    You're not alone with your feelings Mom! I think the majority of DCIS people feel the same way! Good luck with everything!

  • blondee327texas
    blondee327texas Member Posts: 23
    edited January 2011

    I have to agree with all.  My dh said I didn't have it, that it was PRE-Cancer... excuse me, but I did just lose part of a Ta-Ta...If it was so Pre, then why do they cut it out???  Yes, Cancer, is Cancer, is Cancer... Pre, Post, LUmpectomy, MX, and so on...

    I do have peace about the surgery. It has been one month.  I picked up a 4 year old that didn't want to come to school today and said, wow, no pain :-)  so I guess I am recovering well.

    Hang in there.  Do what you have to do.  This is a great group.

    Deidre'

  • Debbie42
    Debbie42 Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2011

    This is the first time I'm posting on here, but I do agree with you all about the DCIS thing.  When my primary care doctor came in to give me the biopsy results that I've been nervously waiting for he say "Well, its not bad news..... well, not exactly great news either"  later "but if you had to get cancer this one is best..." WHAT?   first I hear it's not bad news and my mind goes 'whew!' then I hear a moment later that it actually is cancer.  He is a nice doctor but needs to work on his cancer breaking delivery more.

    Then I have another friend who sort of tried implying that she bets I don't have the gene (waiting for results), and implying it may be because of my past drinking habits of years ago.   don't need the guilt right now.

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited January 2011

    A diagnosis of breast cancer is earth-shattering and life-changing.  It's something that no woman should ever have to go through and it's not something that I would wish on any woman (or any man). DCIS is breast cancer and and anyone who says that it's a pre-cancer can take a flying leap.  

    Women diagnosed with DCIS have to go through the same awful diagnosis process as anyone else diagnosed with BC.  We have the biopsies; we wait and wonder and worry about what the result will be.  Will there be cancer?  Will there be invasive cancer?  Once the diagnosis is in, we struggle with treatment decisions just like everyone else.  Then we have the same surgeries as anyone else diagnosed with BC. In fact because DCIS tends to spread out more than invasive cancer does, women with DCIS are more likely to require mastectomies.  For many of us (I count myself in that group), this is devastating.  And it affects us for the rest of our lives. 

    So I get furious when doctors (or anyone, for that matter) downplay the seriousness of DCIS.  But I also understand that DCIS is a pre-invasive cancer.  It is the only breast cancer that is not life threatening (assuming no invasive recurrence).  The simple fact is that if you're going to be diagnosed with breast cancer - which is a horrible situation - the best possible case is to catch it early.  And DCIS is the earliest stage of breast cancer. 

    So while there are a lot of similarities in the experiences of women with DCIS and women with more advanced breast cancer, there are also differences.  If you have DCIS, you don't have to worry about your oncotype score and whether you'll need chemo.  If you are HER2+, you won't need Herceptin, a wonderful but very toxic drug (there is a clinical trial underway but I understand that the dosage is very different).  Most important of all, you don't need to worry about your mortality.  

    While you are going through your diagnosis and treatment,  it's certainly hard to appreciate your "luck" (which is a bad word, really)  that your breast cancer was caught early, but once your treatment is done, you might find that you do understand this. I hope that all of you come to this realization.  My diagnosis was one tiny step beyond DCIS - I had a lots of high grade DCIS along with a microinvasion of IDC, which means that my cancer was the earliest possible Stage I breast cancer.  I'm five years out from my diagnosis and there isn't a day that goes by that I am not grateful that my cancer was found at such an early stage. It took me a bit of time to start to feel this way but honestly, it didn't take me that long after my treatment plan was in place to appreciate that within the world of breast cancer (which is a world I would wish on nobody), I was in just about the best possible place. 

    So scream at me if you will. But just as I hate when DCIS is downplayed or called a pre-cancer, I also worry when those who are diagnosed with DCIS don't come to understand and appreciate that a diagnosis of DCIS is in fact a whole lot better than being diagnosed with a more advanced BC.  It may take some time to come to this understanding, but I think it's an important understanding to have.  

  • Laurie08
    Laurie08 Member Posts: 2,891
    edited January 2011

    Beesie said DCIS is in fact a whole lot better than being diagnosed with a more advanced BC.  I whole heatedly agree.  We, with DCIS have much better odds than other with a more advanced diagnosis.  I am very glad that I found my cancer as DCIS, I am thankful, truly thankful.  I hope it doesn't come back, I hope I have done enough to get rid of it so it will not return.  I hope the other damn shoe never drops.

    I have a problem with the word lucky.  If I was lucky I would have never had been diagnosed with any stage of cancer.  I would not know what it is like to go through the appointments, the surgery and the sleepless nights worrying.  My mother was diagnosed stage IV, I went through a lot with her and was very familiar with BC before my own diagnosis.  I found my cancer by being proactive and fighting for a mammogram that no one wanted me to have because I was "too young to have one."  Compared to some of the women on these boards I was an old lady at diagnosis, I was 34.  I'm glad I finally found a Dr who would sign off on the mammogram, and that I went back to that Dr every year for 4 years and asked for another and that they found those calcs.  Thankful?  Yes.  Lucky?  No. 

    I am glad I have never had anyone tell me to my face that this was pre cancer, or that ir's the good kind.  When I see other ladies on the board say this I take it with a grain of salt, compared to what they are gong through it probably is, I know I haven't endured a tenth of what they have, and I have never stood in their shoes.

    Maybe what we need to remember is that every ones situation is different. You know what they say, something like "until you've walked a mile in their shoes"....something like that. I know I need to try to think more before I talk (or type) get out of my own head and try to understand their point of view.

    But again, I hate the word lucky.  

  • Halah
    Halah Member Posts: 352
    edited January 2011

    I had a small IDC tumor and two larger DCIS tumors (stage 1b). I guess a part of me feels like I belong here as well as the IDC forum. It all happened so fast. Dx'd Jul 21 2010, a boatload of tests (with no waiting thank god), BMX Aug 30, 2010, and then I take a little pill for five years (arimidex). I do consider myself lucky that I didn't need chemo or rads. I can feel that way now because enough time has passed and it has become easier for me. I was at the same place many of y'all are at and I hear your anger. I felt it, too, several months ago. But I can't help but think how it could have been worse.

    I took a break from here and got cancer out of my mind, and now I am prepared to be of support to those who need it. I didn't have that strength before. Don't get me wrong, I love this site and I don't know what I would have done without it during those rough times.

    People who downplay the seriousness of DCIS or any other lower staged cancers show their own ignorance, insensitivities, and their own limitations to comprehend. Let's not make it our problem. It is most certainly theirs. There will always be people like this out there and we can't change that.

    Please know that although cancer sucks at any stage, it does get easier. Take breaks from it, get it out of your mind, and give it time.

    Mindy xxx

  • agada
    agada Member Posts: 452
    edited January 2011

    I am with you on this one.  If it is such a good cancer then why do we get lumpectomies and mastectomies???  Radiation as well and other meds to block estrogen production.  A biopsy for a "non" cancer can be lots of fun as well.  So much for the good kind of cancer.  Rant away. 

    Agada

  • lovesnature
    lovesnature Member Posts: 82
    edited January 2011

    Well call me a fool, but as I sit here with my missing breasts, uncomfortable expanders, I do feel damn lucky. It could have been so much worse. I read what some of my sisters here go through, with more advanced cancer. Yes I feel lucky, damn lucky!

  • 3monstmama
    3monstmama Member Posts: 1,447
    edited January 2011

    Don't feel bad!  Rant away---I don't think there is a single woman out there with DCIS who hasn't had the same experience---I had my own rant about "the good cancer" comment way back around this time last year.  My favorite was the co-worker---who had actually had DCIS herself--who told me DCIS wasn't really cancer when my then surgeon was recommending a partial mastectomy and reconstruction.  When I responded "really?  thats interesting.  My surgeon thinks I will do better with a mastectomy than a lumpectomy because of size and location. . . ."

    She shut up so very fast and if I recall correctly barely asked me anything about it ever again. . . .

    of course its better to have DCIS than to have invasive cancer just as its better to have a diagnois of Stage 1 than Stage 2.  But its still F-ing Cancer and it still stinks.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited January 2011

    I too was told I was lucky that my cancer was found so early...that it was small..but 'regular run of the mill cancer' with lobular features ...and in all honesty, I felt lucky..blessed that it was 'only' going to be a lumpectomy, radiation and tamoxifen. Perhaps it was just my way of dealing with it all. I have not felt angry except when I met my first surgeon- who did not in the end have anything to do with my surgery- and he said I would still have great cleavage. How was that supposed to help me get over the first hurdle of "we are going to perform surgery and you are going to have radiation...maybe chemo..time will tell".WTH? When people tell me it is a gift to my life and really does give me perspective, well...then I feel annoyed. I could hav elearned these lessons without having to lose part of my breast and 7 lymph noded, you know? however, I still feel lucky because I am alive, I have recovered quickly, I am living my life and hoping that all I do combined with a bit of lady luck, will be enough.

    'Good cancer' be damned, I say!..."No..oops our mistake. You don't have cancer"...now that would be the good kind of cancer!

  • dsj
    dsj Member Posts: 277
    edited January 2011

    I don't think you, or any of us, is lucky to have DCIS. Those of us who have DCIS have to undergo treatment that is an assault on our bodies. We have to agonize over treatment decisions and wait for results. It's a terrible thing to go through. But it is something that one can get through and come out the other end. I agree with Beesie; being diagnosed with DCIS is different--and so much better-- than being diagnosed with invasive cancer. So I feel lucky that my BC was diagnosed early, that I have good doctors, and that I had treatment options. My oncologist, who generally sees people much sicker than me, is one of those doctors who doesn't think DCIS is cancer. Nevertheless, he says i must have a professional breast exam every three months, take tamoxifen for 5 years, and be checked regularly with mammograms and MRIs. I understand him to be saying that i have to be vigilant but I don't have to be fearful for the rest of my life.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited January 2011

    Fair enough...my oncologist and radiologist took my cancer very seriously and the surgeon who did the surgery was supportive and encouraging of my going for a lumpectomy rather than a masectomy because of the size etc. but she was also open to a full masectomy if that was the way I had chosen to go...I also feel blessed that  my annual mammogram found the cancer at an early stage and that my prognosis is excellent. Cancer is cancer...but I am grateful nonetheless.

  • Herky
    Herky Member Posts: 29
    edited January 2011

    I hear you. I've had so many doctors and others tell me the same thing. On the one hand, I don't feel very lucky because I have to go through a double mastectomy and the fear and worry that the final pathology will be something worse. On the other hand, I'm praying that the final pathology comes back as "just DCIS."

  • FLMel
    FLMel Member Posts: 40
    edited January 2011
    I call it "Cancer Lite."
  • Bella_YT
    Bella_YT Member Posts: 95
    edited January 2011

    I am with you. There is no such a thing as good cancer. 

  • marxi
    marxi Member Posts: 183
    edited January 2011

    My family physician's nurse told me, "It's really nothing."  I lost both breasts.  The general surgeon told me that he didn't know when he had ever seen a breast so full of cancer.  It was high grade, aggressive and was microinvasive.  Nothing benign or "good" about DCIS.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited January 2011

    "Cancer lite"...good one...

     Marxi - the nurse clearly did not know what she was talking about...good gravy....

  • SuebeeBC
    SuebeeBC Member Posts: 1,256
    edited January 2011

    I LOVE the "Cancer Lite" expression!!!  I think Ill use that one!

    Ya know, a lot of people started to make me feel like 'it wasnt that bad' and I felt like I was almost apologizing when I was telling people about it.....but looking down at my new scars and feeling the tighness on my chest, I know they were the wrong ones!!

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,946
    edited January 2011

    Perspective could look like this:....it was bad....it is better....it will be all right. We are all works in progress....I am getting a much better idea of why we are called cancer survivors....couldn't wrap my head around that initially...but I am getting it now.

  • momto4ct
    momto4ct Member Posts: 6
    edited January 2011

    FLMel,

     I think I like "cancer Lite as well" 

    Bessie ,

    Your comment, "I also worry when those who are diagnosed with DCIS don't come to understand and appreciate that a diagnosis of DCIS is in fact a whole lot better than being diagnosed with a more advanced BC.  It may take some time to come to this understanding, but I think it's an important understanding to have"  I have read many of your posts and you are very knowledgeable and share info in a way that is easy to understand. So I would not yell at you. LOL 

    I certainly KNOW that DCIS is a better diagnosis then invasive or more advanced BC. I think that everyone with a DCIS diagnosis KNOWS that it could be a lost worse but hearing any diagnosis of "you have cancer " is not easy to hear and no one is lucky to hear that.  No one with a BC diagnosis is lucky!!  It is not  a club that anyone wants to join,

     My BS surgeon told me to only go on websites and talk about my DCIS on boards specifically for DCIS. I felt that here on this board I was free to rant about my "bad luck" and have others understand.    I hope not to have offended anyone but I hate cancer just as much as the next gal. 

  • CTMOM1234
    CTMOM1234 Member Posts: 633
    edited January 2011

    This is a good thread. When the DCIS diagnosis came, my BS who I met for the first time never danced around the idea that it was BC, and it was hard for me to handle being "lucky" because he was talking mastectomy -- actually BMX, dependent upon results from genetic testing and MRI which he insisted I do before he'd even consider a lumpectomy (good call, I understand why). Oh, I sure feel lucky to be 43 years old with young children, and absolutely no one in my family with this or any clue before a few weeks earlier even what a calcification on a routine mammo. was, and now I've entered this whole cancer system of doctors and appointments and fearing death.

    So I can totally understand all of you who are pissed. I am with you.

    But I totally understand Beesie's post, too, because just when I thought the mental stress of this couldn't get any worse, SURPRISE, the DCIS also had a smidge of IDC detected in the final pathology report. BAM!!! Bam bam bam, why can't I walk into my surgeon's office and him not tell me something else to wrap my brain around?? It's overwhelming.

    On an oddly weird note, that little (thankfully little) 1.75mm of IDC confirmed any doubt I was still harboring after my lumpectomy surgery that it was very very very good that I took this seriously and that getting 6 weeks of rad. zaps was now going to be an added insurance plan to fight the BC rather than be something I still didn't embrace as necessary.

    Uncovering the IDC was an education I wish I hadn't had to get -- I already was scared TONS with the DCIS diagnosis -- but I do recall my BS telling me at that first meeting that I had DCIS that if you get BC, this one is the best one, and the only kind in which one is technically "cured."

    He never said I was cured after the path.report included IDC . . . think if I'd pressed him, he'd had used the term "remission." I wouldn't have had to go under a 2nd surgery to test my sentinel nodes and pray that yet more unbearable news would be shared with me at our next office visit.

    It's all lousy, wouldn't wish any of it on anyone, and the recurrence fear is something we all must wrestle with no matter what our final lump/mast path.report states. Thank you all for your posts.

  • doingbetter
    doingbetter Member Posts: 117
    edited January 2011

    Beesie put it very well.  As someone who has had both DCIS (10+ years ago) and the "real" thing more recently, I can say that in spite of the numerous biopsies and surgeries (including mastectomy) for the DCIS, I felt very lucky back then and was wishing that this time around it was "only" DCIS again.  While the procedures are just as uncomfortable, there is a significant difference between being told that you have a non-invasive - thus non life-threatening - cancer and invasive cancer.  In fact, it really bothered me when anyone would call me a survivor for having gone through DCIS. There is virtually no threat of spread or mortality with DCIS, as opposed to with Invasive breast cancer. It is never pleasant and always scary to deal with something like cancer, be it DCIS or invasive, but the fact is, those with DCIS are very lucky when compared to those with invasive breast cancer. No one wants to get any kind of cancer, but if there is something growing in the body that has the potential to develop into something more serious and deadly, then we should consider ourselves lucky when it's found before it has the chance to do so.

  • Deirdre1
    Deirdre1 Member Posts: 1,461
    edited February 2011

    I appreciate what you are saying doingbetter but I am not completely on board when it comes to being "lucky".. I have to say that in hindsight I don't feel "lucky" at all to have found DCIS -- the confussion of the doctor's as to how to proceed after the dx was so scattered that I felt as though I had invasive cancer.. One day it was "the biopsy got it all - now all you need is radiation", then add the genetic councelor who states "in order to be sure you have caught this early you should have both your ovaries as well as your breasts off and perhaps a full hysterectomy" the next day "because of your family history I would suggest that you take them both off and be done with it now".. IF the medical community knew difinitively how to treat DCIS then I would imagine a place where I might feel "lucky", but honestly I feel that the lack of understanding that the medical community has about DCIS puts those of us who have a dx of DCIS in harms way!  This disease MIGHT be very B9 but until it is understood as many dx's instead of one, until there is a way to know which treatment will satisfy a good standard of care, unless we get continuity of care for this disease I just don't feel lucky..  I feel that I was put through a grinder and (perhaps out of the best of intentions) stripped of some of my human qualities (some of my best I might add <wink>).. No we are not yet at a stage in the understanding of this disease to be "lucky" to have discovered it IMO.

    I read an article the other day about a blood test that will be available within 10 years and will be able to identify any cancer cells floating in the body - at first I was excited until I processed it concept and realized that if the medical community found a floating cancer cell HOW would they isolate it down to one particular place in the body - or would they just start removing organs/ body parts one by one in much the same way they tend to do today with DCIS!!!  If my daughter came to me tomorrow with a dx of DCIS (God forbid) I would advise her to do "watchful waiting" not to remove anything EXCEPT the cancer cells that had been found and then I would pray that the scientific community would come up with a more definitive treatment for DCIS.. that said I am torn about the new information within the recent articles suggesting that the medical/scientific community would like to take the word cancer out of the description of DCIS...  It really is a mess at the moment IMO...

    So back to the awful statements that some people give when I've explained that I have DCIS.. I have a brother-in-law who was trying to be very helpful and did a great deal of research (an engineer by trade) but the only good thing he came up with (from his perspective) was "at least you will get a new pair of knockers out of the deal" <nodding head in pure exasperation>..  Then, several months after my bi-lateral and as I was waiting in my breast reconstruction doc's office here he comes out accompanies by his wife... they had decided SHE would get some new knockers apparently the research he had done did come in handy!!!! <grin>  I can grin about it now I was shocked at the time!!!  Best, to all Deirdre

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited February 2011

    momto4ct, I appreciate that you know that DCIS is a better diagnosis than invasive breast cancer but unfortunately I don't know that I agree when you say "I think that everyone with a DCIS diagnosis KNOWS that it could be a lost worse". In fact, studies have shown that women with DCIS greatly overestimate their risk; in a 2008 study, 28% of the women diagnosed with DCIS feared that the DCIS would spread to other parts of their body (something that DCIS cannot do). Every day, women make treatment decisions based on these fears and these misconceptions.  

    In fact, it's because of these misconceptions about the risks associated with DCIS and the resulting anxiety that the National Institute of Health has tabled the idea of removing the word "carcinoma" from the name "DCIS". Personally I think that would be a huge mistake because it could lead to the undertreatment of high risk cases of DCIS and that in turn could have a drastic impact on some women. Frankly to me the idea of changing the name of DCIS in order to ease women's minds is ridiculous and insulting to women.  Rather than do that, I think the onus should be on the medical community to better explain what DCIS is, and what the risk levels are.  That has to be an individual discussion between the doctor and the patient because DCIS is such a heterogeneous disease, with some cases being low risk and other cases being high risk.  But overall, the simple fact is that DCIS does not present the same risks as invasive cancer and that needs to be better communicated to all patients with DCIS. 

    That's why although I agree completely with your comment that "hearing any diagnosis of "you have cancer " is not easy to hear and no one is lucky to hear that. No one with a BC diagnosis is lucky!!" whenever this topic comes up in the DCIS forum, I am careful to remind those with DCIS that in fact it could be a lot worse! 

    Risk perceptions and psychosocial outcomes of women with ductal carcinoma in situ: longitudinal results from a cohort study.


    NIH Consensus Conference Urges: Defuse Fears of DCIS at Diagnosis 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011

    I was DCIS until after the BMX.  Then it was .5cm (1/2 cm) IDC.

    You can read my signature for the latest news.

    NO ONE is lucky to have cancer.  None.

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited February 2011

    lisa, I'm so sorry.  Your situation shows why the word "cancer" shouldn't be removed from the name DCIS.  DCIS is breast cancer and needs to be treated as such, in part because you never know what you might find. The idea that DCIS may be reclassified as a pre-cancer is frightening because without question, it would lead some women to forgo treatment. And that could be hugely dangerous. But your example also shows that the risks after being diagnosed with invasive cancer (as you were once you had the BMX) are different than the risks after being diagnosed with pure DCIS. 

  • mrsbeasley38
    mrsbeasley38 Member Posts: 62
    edited February 2011

    Thank GOD or whatever or whoever that we all are not dying!!! I want to live!! I want to keep my boob!! I do not want to get this again!!! We are all at higher risk now.  So I plan on really focusing on being HEALTHY and am so damn glad to hear the words  " you are not going to die from this Breast Cancer.  you are going to live to be an old women and die from something else"  I cried with gratitude.  How could we not?

  • cjwo57
    cjwo57 Member Posts: 1
    edited February 2011

    For a long time, I felt guilty because I never went through chemo and radiation and the other BC survivors every year at Komen (the race - we hand out t-shirts for Survivors) had--they'd talk about their treatments and what all they had and were still going through.  I'd just nod my head and listen, my gel implant breast silently throbbing in pain.  Still, many of them are now living pain free, with their breasts intact.  Me?  While I had no chemo, no radiation, I did undergo a mastectomy and have endured 24/7 pain since 2001 when I first went through surgery.  I've had reconstruction, a redo on the reconstruction due to capsular contracture, an infection that threatened me with a redo on the surgery (and probably my life--I was just so out of it on pain meds I didn't realize how serious the infection was). 

    While I am grateful to be alive and grateful I didn't have to endure poison being injected into my body to fight the cancer cells, I have fought my own battles and continue to fight them.  Cancer is cancer.  I'm not going to diminish anyone's battle with cancer, and the first jerk who tries to tell me I didn't have cancer may be listening to a litany of my experiences from the last 9 years.

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