Is anyone else in their 20"s???

jcoutee
jcoutee Member Posts: 58
edited June 2014 in Triple-Negative Breast Cancer

I am 28 years old and was diagnose with tnbc in Dec. 2010.  I have a 3 year old girl and a 5 month old girl.  I have looked everywhere it seems to find someone to relate to that is around my age.  When people find out I have breast cancer they try to tell me a story of someone they knew that had it or their grandma had it and how everything will be ok.  I appreciate the concern but tnbc is probably not what your grandma had and was she 28 with 2 babies when she found it???  I get aggrevated but they are only trying to help.  I have started my chemo and I am waiting on the results from my brca gene test to come back to find out if I need to have a mastectomy/hysterectomy.  Me and my husband of 5 years wanted another baby next year but after this we will have to stick with the 2 girls. 

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  • Traci-----TripNeg
    Traci-----TripNeg Member Posts: 2,298
    edited January 2011

    Hi jcoutee,

    My sister was 29 when diagnosed, with a toddler, a seven year old, and a baby that was 7 months in the making. She had her baby, and two days later, a mastectomy, then chemo. That was 12 years ago. She too was triple negative, as am I, and our other sister.

    Hang in there girl. And I'm sure, there will be way too many 20 something's to reply to you soon.

    (((((hugs)))))

    Traci

    PS: My cancer stopped me from having any kids at all. Cry

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  • jcoutee
    jcoutee Member Posts: 58
    edited January 2011

    I am so sorry to hear that you cant have kids.  I would have a hard time with that too.  My sister went to the Dr. last week with a cancer scare but everything turned out ok.  Good luck to you and your sisters!  You seem to be doing great!!!

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  • Sugar77
    Sugar77 Member Posts: 2,138
    edited January 2011

    jcoutee - I was diagnosed with TN at 45 years old. However, a friend and former co-worker was diagnosed with TN when she was 29. That was in 2001 and she's since married and had two children. She did chemo and radiation and is doing well. 

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  • Smile_On
    Smile_On Member Posts: 141
    edited January 2011

    Your daughters are gorgeous! 

    Sorry to hear of your cancer diagnosis.  I am 27, had a double mastectomy, chemo and radiation and so relate.  I'm pretty new to the boards, but there is a board I've found helpful.  In the forum index go to "young people with breast cancer" then find "Calling all ladies in their 20's."

    I truly feel that all people who go through breast cancer have things they can relate to regardless of age, but then there are also challenges that are specific to each age group or at least each stage of your life.  Although I can't relate to having two little ones while going through treatment and having to explain why mommy is tired/emotional, I can relate to other feelings you may have.  I so want to have children one day and have met with a fertility doctor.  I know how it feels to be the youngest person in the oncologist's waiting room--how it feels to have medical professionals stumped and constantly repeating "but you're so young."

    Good luck with your cancer journey...I hope you find lots of support here and at home!

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  • Sugar77
    Sugar77 Member Posts: 2,138
    edited January 2011

    jccoutee - I probably should have mentioned that I have a young daughter myself.  She was 10 when I was diagnosed and went through chemo. I know she's older than your children but me being tired was an adjustment for her but we all got through it and you will too.  Chemo is no picnic but it's doable.  All the best!

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  • Kristamoon
    Kristamoon Member Posts: 9
    edited January 2011

    I'm 38 and was diagnosed TNBC in November 2010.  Have a 5 year old and 7 year old, and am almost divorced.  Had a left breast mastectomy, and am trying to decide my next course of action.  It's tough.  One book I've been reading is so interesting - AntiCancer - a new way of life. 

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