Never hearing the word Cured!!!!
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Barbe1958
I often wonder if being 100% ER+ and 98% PR+ makes it highly likely that I'll recur. What does this mean really?
Barb
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shanagirl, I think it might mean that the Als or tamoxifen will work better on you. I did read that somewhere. Check with your onc. I'd love to know if that is in fact true.
So it might actually mean just the opposite because the Als/tamoxifen did their job.
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I still say it's a crap shoot! But as you are already getting AI's or some other adjuvent therapy you are still better off than nothing. Maybe being 100% means you will get 100% reaction to the drugs?
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SherriG;
Your line about...'claiming I am Stage 0 until further notice', is the best line I have ever heard!!!!!
I have never really thought of myself that way but if you don't mind I am going to use it from here on in!!!!
Thx so much.
Fondly, Heather
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Shanagirl- my oncologist told me that AIs are more powerful than chemo for us. I am 95% er+. I asked about recur many times and I have been told by my docs that they just don't know who will recur and who won't. My rad onc. (who I continue to see because he is great for me mentally) told me that he has many stage III patients who are fine after many many years and have not had a recurrence. He has also had stage I patients recur with mets and die. They don't know why. Once I wrapped my head around the concept that there is no way to predict and we do not really have that much control over it, I felt better about it all. It is hard for those of us who like to be in control and like predictability but the thing with bc is that it is not all that predictable. Some people survive who we never think will and others who we think are "cured" end up not surviving.
One good thing about stage III is that we have the most aggressive treatment.
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Hope you don't mind me chiming in.
I'm ONLY Stage 1 and I've NEVER heard the word "cured" from any of my physicians. Here is a recap of what they have said when I've asked about my prognosis:
Radiation Oncologist #1: "You're not on the Titanic, you're probably on the Queen Mary." My reply: "Oh..."
Radiation Oncologist #2: "You'll probably die from something else." My reply, "Okay..."
Breast Surgeon: "Haven't lost anyone YET with your pathology." I say, "That sounds encouraging."
Radiologist who did biopsy and initially called to tell me I had breast cancer: "It's breast cancer, but don't worry." I say, "Yeah, right!"
My beloved internist: "I think you're going to beat this breast cancer, but MY concern for YOU now is, despite your being 'healthy,' how do we keep you from dying from heart disease because we threw you into early menopause and you'll be taking an AI down the road?" I answer, "Thanks alot for your candor and giving me something else to worry about!"
Medical Oncologist: "You SHOULD do well. But YOU know, WE can NEVER be sure with breast cancer." As I look around the office and my mind goes off to some distant and dark place, I have no reply.
I'm so happy all of my doctors are on the same page. None of them said what I wanted to hear the most and that is, "Don't worry! I'm giving you a money back guarantee that you'll be dancing at your GRANDCHILDREN'S weddings!" I'm not even up to dancing at my CHILDREN'S weddings!
Better yet, wouldn't we all like to live to see the day when we visit our doctors and they greet us by saying, " You no longer have to worry, they've found a cure."
My prayers are with all of my breast cancer sisters.
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voraciousreader ~ Your are too funny.
I'm sitting here laughing to myself reading your comments to your docs. Sounds like my conversations with mine. I'll go in there all worried about some issue and he'll kind of give me this non-committal type answer, and I go "OH", or "Okay".
Barbe ~ I've also heard AI's are better than nothing and you should be on them if you don't want to recur.
Carol ~ You're right. Stage IIIers do get very aggressive treatment. So I guess it's all a real crap shoot like Barbe said.
Barb
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Barbe, my onc told me the higher er/pr pos you are, the better the hormonal blocker works.
I was 98% er pos, so I'm hoping thats true, But I think It's a blessing in any case that we that
fall into this group have somthing to take! Even though I don't like the se of tamoxifen, I look at the little white pill right before I gulp it down and say, Just do your job please!!! I did have an ooph,
by choice and recomendation by docs. Did anyone else, and do you think at 42 it was a good
choice ? I go back and forth on that one. It's done now, I really don't think it's a bad thing to do,
I just hope all the lack of estrogen won't turn me into a raisen. lol !
I love this free theropy !! ( i know thats not spelled right) oh well who cares!
Faithful
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@SherriG: That is an interesting point. I was thinking myself today that maybe I have metastasis all along and they are simply too small to show up on my scans. And indeed, if I already have them then they should show up on the scans rather sooner than later. And since I am more likely to have them than somebody diagnosed without LVI and lymph nodes they should indeed show up more quickly at my higher stage than at the lower stage. I would be very interested to see this study.
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There IS a spell check if you want it....it's the last coloured icon above the reply box as you enter your post. We are so used to programs that do it automatically that we forget it has to be "asked for".
Now here's the thing...I am on NOTHING!!! My surgeon took it into his own hands to say that the double mast was enough, and based on my ER+/PR+, HER2- I didn't need any further treatment. He said to "save the big guns until next time".
It was by coming to this forum that I learned I should be on something, at least Tamoxifen! I demanded to see an onc and she said that I really slipped between the cracks. Too late for chemo and rads as I saw her 7 months after surgery...sigh. So I wait. For the big guns. That's probably why I still come to the board and learn so much.
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Faithful-
I also had an ooph by choice at age 41 or 42. I was 40 when diagnosed and am now 45. Because I was so highly er+ I made the choice that it would give me the best chance of survival. I can't say I am loving not having estrogen but I am glad I am alive to complain about it.
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Hi,
I also had an ooph by chioce at 42, also dx at 40. Was on tamox but periods returned with avengence so onco said he would start goserlin injections as strongly er+ and pr+, my reply "I have no need for my ovaries, 3 kids don't think I want any more how about you whip them out?" he said "ok I agree". 6 weeks later they where out now on arimidex.
Gynea also agreed best decision for me, do I miss them NO!! okay there is downsides to no oestrogen-- hot flushes, joint pain etc but hell I'm alive.
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One thing that really hasn't been discussed is the TYPE of Stage 3 breast cancer we have. From what I've been finding, ILC is much slower and is more likely to recur after 12+ years. Whereas with other forms, recurrence rates drop after 5 years.
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Did you know that nearly 50% of those of us dxed with invasive bc go on to develop mets (see Cancermonthly.com), and - as in 1971 - 80% of bc metzers succumb within five years (see NYTimes, Forty Years' War - Pledged to Find Cancer Cure, but Advances Prove Elusive)?
Looked at positively, that means that slightly more than 50% of us don't get mets and 20% of metzers live five years or more (but we don't know who) - so 70% of us have at least five more years in this particular life lottery; but it's still shocking that despite all the torture they put us through, our chances of escaping mets are basically 50:50 and that nothing has changed in respect of mets survival since 1971.
Actually, bearing in mind that bc is the oldest known cancer and, according to an Egyptian papyrus, its treatment was cauterization with a tool called the ‘fire drill' (see Wikipedia), very little has changed since 1600 BC.
You'd think, wouldn't you, after 3,611 years that the disease would have been eradicated years ago; or, at the very least, that there would be a vaccine to prevent it, gentler ways of treating it and, because 50% of us are going to develop mets no matter what we do, that the survival stats for metzers would have improved dramatically over time?
There is no cure, and because none of us can know which side of the 50:50 we fall into it is just a matter of taking each day as it comes and being thankful for it.
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Yes, I knew it. But not sure if I wanted to see it posted on this thread. Excuse me while I stick my head back in the sand.
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BTW I thought this was interesting. Looking at breast cancer by molecular subtypes
Luminal A
ER+ and/or PR+, HER2-, low Ki67
Prevalence 42-59%Luminal B
ER+ and/or PR+, HER2+ (or HER2- with high Ki67)
6-19%Triple negative/basal-like
ER-, PR-, HER2-, cytokeratin 5/6 + and/or HER1+
Prevalence 15-20%HER2+
ER-, PR-, HER2+
Prevalence 7-12%Source for more details: http://ww5.komen.org/BreastCancer/SubtypesofBreastCancer.html
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My point about the spell check is that though it is there, I don't even use it! You have to "ask" for it and I usually forget. No harm, no foul.
And NO, I am on nothing. No Tamoxifen. Nothing. Just the surgery. I feel like a sitting duck!
So Iago, what does the Luminal A/or B make me?
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I have a question regarding the 50% mets. If 50% get mets why is the current survival rate for breast cancer at 90% for 5 years, 82% for 10 years and 75% for 15 years. These are the current stats from the American Cancer Society and it also states not to look at the figures that are years out because they do not reflect current treatments. If 50% get mets you would think at least by year 15 the stat would have a survival of only 50%. Also I can't understand if 50% get mets what are the figures we get from adjuvant online, they are usually much better than 50%.
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clariceak and tupelo: Actually, living in La-La-Land is how I get thru each day - less messy than sticking my head in sand, but do it for the same reason (frustration at the whole bc business, no cure, etc) and truly sorry if my post upset you or anyone else (going thru a bad time right now, and was forced to face these facts myself).
barbe1958: We all feel like sitting ducks!
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Allalone, reality usually sucks! In fact, "reality is for people who can't handle drugs!"
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Here's my take on all this (loved SherriG's stage zero !)
When somebody asks "are you cured ?" I tell them "as far as I know" or "there's no sign of cancer right now" -- but after Elizabeth Edwards announced "I'm cancer free !" and then was dx Stage IV months later, I make NO definitive statements.
And I don't worry about the percentages -- MY percentage of recurrence is either 0% or 100%, no matter what the overall statistics are. My onc ran adjuvant online at our first meeting and that said that I had a 25% chance of surviving 10 years without further treatment after surgery + radiation, 50% with added chemo and hormonals... but that she had patients with the same diagnosis who were 10+ and doing well. And I'll be 5 years from dx in a few months -- will bring in fruit and dark chocolate for my weekly support group to celebrate getting that far.
"Yes, I have a terminal illness ... it's called life."
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50% sounds high to me. I am choosing to focus on the following articles.
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2008-08-12-breast-cancer-relapse_N.htm
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I tend to prefer to educate. Am I cured? "Nope. There is no cure for breast cancer. Oh, you didn't know that? Really, did you know that 42,000 women in the US die of breast cancer each and every year. It's not all pretty and pink. I am one diagnositc test away from being a stage IV." But I think like a stage ZERO and live and do and plan and imagine. I am cautiously optimistic but hate when people brush away my diagnosis. One of the reasons I stay flat is to remind people around me what I went through. If I have to lose my breasts, they have to see it too.
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After my last post I left the sight and took a long bubble bath. I thought some about this thread. I think as well as finding a cure they need to find a way to tell people if/when they are cured. Most stage 1 are cured, many stage 2 are cured and a lot of stage 3 are cured. Often the surgery is the cure. But right now they can't tell who is "cured" so they push treatments on everyone. At least at stage 1 and 2 the onco test is starting to give them an idea of their status. But us stage 3 women are always in limbo. I also think they need to develop something that better tells us at what year we can breathe a little easier. A recent study out of MD Anderson had the stage 1, 2, and 3 recurrences about the same in the 5 to 10 year period. They said the bad stage 3 women occur in the first 5 years. The biggest recurrence in the 5 to 10 year period was stage 3 grade 1 tumors. That made sense to me since grade 1 tumors are slow growers and probably take longer to present as stage 4. The grade 3 fast growers no matter what stage will go to stage 4 quicker usually.
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JudyO : I can't answer, I don't know, but Cancermonthly.com is reliable, isn't it? Maybe the ACS adds the DCIS patients into the mix to make things look better than they really are. Maybe someone more knowledgeable than my La-La-Land self can answer you. My main concern is the horrible survival stats for the metzers published by the NY Times (which, presumably, has no vested interests in bc to protect).
barbe1958 : Drugs? Maybe you've got a point there, but I prefer La-La-Land (I really love the Teletubbies and think it's wasted on little kiddies).
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Judy, you do know that there is NO cure for breast cancer, right? You may be NED, but you are never cured until you die of something else.
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I prefer to live in denial.......
My SIL works with/on the tumor board for the state, she tracks cancerous tumors. When I was dx'd I know that she talked to my DH and MIL about my TN status. I preferred not to hear the stats, for which I'm sure she's well versed in since she does this for a living. For now, I am cancer free and I am happy, that is what matters. If by some chance I have a recurrance then I will handle it at that time.
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caaclark :Thanks for those links. In the first study Brewster notes that her study didn't include women who relapsed before five years, so her study is very good news for 5 yr survivors. (Getting to 5 yrs is the problem for faithfulheart, myself and others!!)
The second study showed overall 5-year survival was 71.9% while 5-year disease-free survival was similar, at 71.4%, which is similar to the Cancermonthly.com stats (which boils down to 70% of us having at least five more years in this particular life lottery, 50% of which will live to old age without mets).
JudyO wrote: "right now they can't tell who is "cured" so they push treatments on everyone". Instead of "cured" perhaps "not likely to relapse" is the better word.
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OK, these stats are freaking me out!! I think La la land is the best place to be if those 50/50
stats are for real. Some how I went from being incouraged to extremly discouaged. I don't look at
statistics, mine suck, I never have since this journey started. its sad when your doctor tells you ,"don't go on the internet it is not current and will upset you" There really are a lot of woman
living with NED for years I know several, I have to focus on that and trust God. I have kids to raise!!
Anyone have any uplifting stories to throw out there soon!! Help, maybe tonight is a good night for
a glass of wine, oh no that causes reacurrance!! I guess I could just eat lots and lots of broccoli
with it! LOL! I really did not start this thread to talk stats, do I hate the fact we don't get to hit that mark where they say your done with this for good. Damn right. I hate it! we all do, talking helps a lot, I guess it just
got a little scary there for a second. I guess I live in a bit of denial. I really don't think I could do all I have to do with the kids if I focus on when its comin back! BC does not have to be a death sentence!!! My good friend told me that when I was first dx, She was in stage 3 big tumor er pos,
11 pos nodes, and its been 9 years! She said," I know the doctors will never tell me I am cured,
but I know I am cured" My friend just keeps moving forward. next story please!!
Faithfulheart
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faithfulheart :Just put yourself in the 50% who will go on forever and never relapse and get on with your life! It's pointless worrying about something that may never happen - you only have to look at the stats for motor vehicle accidents to freak out, but that doesn't stop you driving, does it?
For uplifting stories, look at the 5yr survival thread and imagine yourself adding your story to it in a few years' time.
There is no cure - YET - but it's coming. Keep smiling, keep hopeful and keep faith.
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