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kira1234
kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
edited June 2014 in Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care

I know this is a BC site, but I just got a call from my dad's hospice nurse, and  they feel he is beginning the passage home. She feels about 2 weeks at the most. I am so thankful they have been there for us the last 5 years through my Mom's stage 1V breat cancer and now my Dad's prostate cancer. I ask for prayers that I can give him all the love he needs during the next days. I feel so sad I had to place him in the VA home because of my  treatments during this time in his life. This is something I will always regret having to do.

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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited December 2010

    My prayers are with you Karen.

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  • carcharm
    carcharm Member Posts: 486
    edited December 2010

    Thoughts, prayers and peace in this rough time.

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  • Octobergirl
    Octobergirl Member Posts: 334
    edited December 2010

    Thinking of you tonight and through the days to come. You may regret that your father has to be in the VA home but you can always take comfort in your commitment to wholly surround him with love as you sit by his side.

     Molly 

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  • NatureGrrl
    NatureGrrl Member Posts: 1,367
    edited January 2011

    Kira, I lost both my parents during the holidays... dad, 5 years ago Sunday, and mom, just over a year ago (I was living with and caregiving for her in the middle of my own treatment). Please try to let go of your regrets. I know what a difficult time this is for you, but Molly said it well:  surround him with your love.  He'll feel it.  This can be a very hard thing to go through but it's also a blessing to share this time with someone.  Love and hugs to you and your family, and to your father.

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    I want to thank all of you with your thoughts and prayers. He is peaceful at this time which we are all thankful for. It is so hard when cancer hits the brain.

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  • mrsnjband
    mrsnjband Member Posts: 1,409
    edited January 2011

    Sending love, prayers & support during this difficult time. NJ

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  • wenweb
    wenweb Member Posts: 1,107
    edited January 2011

    Kira

    So sorry that you have to go through this.  May you and your family have peace and comfort during this difficult time.  My best to all of you.

    wendy 

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  • mamanmidwife
    mamanmidwife Member Posts: 689
    edited January 2011

    prayers and positive thoughts for you

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  • justpayton1
    justpayton1 Member Posts: 786
    edited January 2011

    Prayers being said for you

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  • dmacw
    dmacw Member Posts: 886
    edited January 2011

    Oh prayers for dad and the whole family. 

    Donna

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  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited January 2011

    Prayers for all of you.  You have all been through so much.

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  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 2,893
    edited January 2011

    Kira,  My prayers are with you and your family. 

    Love,

    Maureen

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    I want to thank everyone who is praying for my Dad and our family. My brother is coming in from Japan on the 10th. Dad has said his goal is to stay alive till my brother is able to come. He is so weak but is really trying to make it.

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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited January 2011

    Adding my prayers three times a day to give him strength to make it. (((HUGS))) to you Karen.

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  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited January 2011

    Kira .. you're in my thoughts.  I lost my dad almost 2 years ago to esophageal cancer.  Not a day goes by that I don't miss him.

    Hugs,

    Bren

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    I thank you all daily in my prayers. My younger brother got here today, and the older one on Monday. It seems so odd to enjoy seeing my brothers whom I haven't seen in quite a while for such a sad reason. I know we all are in Gods time now, as well as his care.

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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited January 2011

    So glad your brothers made it. Prayers for you and your family.

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    It's finally over. He is with the lord. It has been a long vigal, but wouldn't channge a minute of the time we had at the end.

    Thanks for the prayers Barbara.

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  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited January 2011

    Kira .. sending you hugs and love .. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.  There is such a feeling of emptiness when they leave us.  I still miss my dad so much, and it's been exactly two years since I last saw him.

    love,

    Bren

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  • Alpal
    Alpal Member Posts: 1,785
    edited January 2011

    So very sorry about your Dad, Kira. Thinking of you and your family. Warm hugs.

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    Bren and Allison, thanks. You know it rather interesting how the Lord works. The day he took my Dad home is also the day I had my first 6 month mammagram anad all looks great. I feel this is God telling me not to feel sad but rather enjoy the life he has given me.

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  • Claire_in_Seattle
    Claire_in_Seattle Member Posts: 4,570
    edited January 2011

    Kira.... Do you ever have that one right!!  I am so sorry about your father.  I think my big learning is that you are given only so many days in this life, and not to waste any of them.

    Thrilled you have a clean mammogram.  Actually, my big worry was that my internist would find something from all the hammering I got a year ago.  I was elated when he told me he would see me in 2 years!  (I see my oncologist every 6 months.)

    Anyway, sorry about your father.  In my church, we offer prayers of Thanksgiving for his life.  I will do that, and also for you and your family. - Claire

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  • kira1234
    kira1234 Member Posts: 3,091
    edited January 2011

    Claire, Thanks for hte Thanksgiving prayers your church will offer up.

    I was also a bit afraid the mammogram might see something with the radiation recall I had. It did show up, but the radiologist said it was just scare tissue from all the trama.

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  • maltomlin
    maltomlin Member Posts: 343
    edited January 2011

    I'm sorry for your loss and really sympathise. I was so close to my dad who died 6 months before my dx. It sucks.

    It's now over 3 years since his death and my dx and I still don't feel as though I've grieved for him and still miss him. It does get better though with time. It gets easier.

    Mal

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  • jan508
    jan508 Member Posts: 1,330
    edited January 2011

    God Bless your Family

    Your Dad is now with the Lord and looking down on you to protect you! He is now your guardian angel.

    Be Happy

    Jan

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