The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

hey, it wasn't mean, quite the opposite.. but along those lines..went to my pain specialist; he did an xray where the rib pain is the worst. he Really didn't want to do an exam.. he's been a friend and dr. for almost 18 yrs.. but he had to.. so, i just pulled my shirt down a little, and he blanced.. he said"put myour breast away! imm a married man.. to which, of course i said breasts? what breasts? i dont even have as much tissue as you have ..! i had a radical max. and i have a ridge where they used to be..

    the whole thing was, he got teary eyed seeing the scars.. so, i lifted my shirt from below, where the scars don't show, and he examined me. what a mench he is.. he was an ortho/ surgeon for years! so he's used to scars, ertc.. just not those.. on me. i love him for that!

    3jays

Ladies you are all wonderful. 3jays I hope you figure out your rib pain!  I had some terrible treatment at the hospital I went to as well.  One nurse refused to wrap my PICC line so my husband could help me with a shower. They did nothing for me while I was there the three times in 4 weeks and three surgeries.  My husband helped with my shower, my hair, getting me water everything I could have asked them to do.  He spent every night with me in the hospital. But one night he had to go out of town so was going to help me with my shower at 6am before he left. The nurse refused saying she would be busy at that time. So we asked if she could come in a bit earlier, we would get up earlier to accomadate her.  She refused. We were also told she was going to teach us how to flush the PICC line and when we asked her at 10pm when she was working with my IV if she was going to she rolled her eyes and looked at the clock. I told her to jsut forget it. She said well they didn't tell me in report. I told her that is not my problem but just forget it. I am a nurse and I know this is unacceptable!!!  I wonder if we hadn't had to deal with the horrible things that should not have happended if we would do better in acceptance and recovery. I will not go to that hospital again as this was not the only things. They just kept adding up. Today is the one year anniversary of my bilateral mastectomy and I am numb

Determined- I am also flabbergasted by the treatment you received. My tumor was near my nipple and having to lose it was one of the most traumatic parts of the whole experience. My nipple(s) were/are very important to me. Finding out that the nipple had to go was the worst moment in all of this- because of that I opted for a mast rather than a lump- I decided I'd rather have a whole new breast than a nippleless potentially cratered mound. I have the fake nipple and tattoo now 2 years later- its not even close to the same- not only due to lack of sensation, but its just such a pale imiation of the real one.

That doctor needs to be reported- saying "I hear you had a meltdown"  for a few tears! Ludicrous! Even if you had had a full blown meltdown- commenting on it the next time is so insensitive! Why even bring it up unless you were going to offer some compassion/empathy? And then implying you had some major emotional issues for feeling like losing a nipple was losing part of what made you a woman? !!!! That woman has no business working anywhere in medicine, let alone working with breast cancer patients! maybe they can transfer her to the morgue so she can work with people who have the same level of feeling she does!

Just been through 23 days of unbelievable torture.  Mammo/UltraSound/MRI/Ultrasound?MRI-Guided Core Biopsy.  Waiting, wondering if the BC is back.  Couldn't tell anyone but my DH.  Just couldn't spoil the holidays for family and friends.  So when the BS called this morning with the news that the new lesion was not BC, I just sobbed with relief - at my desk.

Office manager wanted to know why I hadn't told her, then showed me a photo of the snowman she'd built at Christmas.  Really?  Couldn't this be about me for 30 seconds?  Been scared stiff for 3+ weeks.  Could use a few minutes to get my breathing to normalize and hands to stop shaking before I return to my regularly scheduled life, including giving two hoots about the walnuts you "actually painted blue for the snowman's eyes."

3jaysMom- I know it is cold outside, but please run out and start the bus, I hope the snow chains are on because Imays has an office manager who needs to go UNDER IT, PRONTO, clutching her blue eyed walnut brained snowman.

Julie E

Mine:

"Have you repented?  God is really trying to get your attention about something."

"You have breast cancer because you took birth control pills."

From Best Friend:  "Sorry to hear about that breast cancer thing.  What are we gonna do for New Year's Eve?"

@Barbe.  So glad you were able to use the blue walnuts for Wacky Definitions.  I'd never been to that thread.  Cute/smart concept.

Thanks everyone for your support.  The bus should be cranked up for the office manager.  She's one of those people who only listens long enough to launch her own story. When one of  the girls in the office announced that she was engaged, OM said, "Sure, but did you know Kevin (her 10 year old son) won his basketball game last night?"  Well, sure...that's life-changing too...*sigh*

Imays I am so glad you are ok.  It should be about you!!  It is so hard to hear others complain about life's trivial things isn't it. 

And the thing that is hard is if you do confront someone when they stay something so stupid then they turn it around on make you the one at fault.

kelben thanks, I do think I will write that letter to the hospital CEO.  If I do it as a fellow health care professional, I am a nurse, then maybe they will view it in the spirit I intend. Not to punish but to help make a positive difference. When I had the side effect of loss of balance from one of the antibiotics the Infectious disease doc said it is rare and I started laughing and said well then of course it happened to me as everything that is not suppose to happen has! I know each of us has had to deal with so much and I am not alone in having things go wrong or insensitive comments made.

I drop the F bomb when I am really upset, I am surprised it wasn't flying in the hospital ha!

3jaysmom I will be thinking of you and hope for the PET scan results to be negative.

Peace

Why don't we all take a round the world bus trip thisyear and get rid of all the foot in the mouthers!  Boy I want to be the first one on the bus.  I know where the first stop would be.

Kat

barbe--I'm 51 and my mom still sends me to my room--figuratively speaking!  And HER 91 year old mother does the same to her! 

barbe1958:  Dealing with males like that is so frustrating for me.  I have a brother-in-law like that who picks up on every piece of sex-related, immature stuff in the universe, and it's definitely causing stress in our relationship. Then he complains that he can't find anyone who will enter into a long-term relationship with him . . . gee, I wonder why???

Julie