Here are a couple of my favorites this far: 1) When preregistering for my surgery the nurse went over my history and said "Wow, you have been pretty healthy but now you certainly bagged the big one!" I almost fell off the chair but held on so as not to punch her in the face.

 2) Several others who chose lumpectomy/radio/chemo asked me why i chose to MUTILATE my body by deciding to have a bilateral mastectomy.

3) The overnight nurse following my surgery jamming the iv in and when i asked her to be more gentle as she was hurting me- leaned over and said I better accept Jesus Christ as my saviour and not to bite the hand who feeds me! At this point I started crying which woke my husband up and he couldn't figure out what was going on. There I am shouting and crying and telling her to get out-leave the room and he is saying "shhhh honey, be nice, she is going to help you," him having no clue as to what had transpired and thinking I was out of my mind from the effects of anesthesia! I told him he could get his ass out of the room with her if he didn't shut up and get her away from me.

This was great posting this stuff as it made me laugh my butt off remembering it:).

I love coming to this thread every couple of weeks and getting a good laugh.  I'ts so amazing how thoughtless people can be, one just has to laugh.  Like my DH says, "I hate everybody equally".  I had to add another one for you all to shake your heads at.  When I first learned of my recurrance back in September, I went to see my mother to break the news gently to her.  My DH had just been dx with lymphoma back in June and when I told her about my metastisis, not only did she ask me what that word meant, she asked if my husband had "given" me the cancer.   I just bonked my head on her kitchen counter a few times to see if I was dreaming.

May we all be blessed this Christmas and granted a happier and healthier year in 2011.

I know this is the wrong place to post this.  But this is the thread where I really feel I have a group of supportive sisters.  I was diagnosed with DCIS about a year or 2 ago.  Went through 4 surgeries.  3 lumpectomies til they got the margins clear and one for a hematoma that developed.  Also went through radiation.  I used this forum for support and then drifted away and just went on to my normal life.  In November my DH who was my wonderful rock and support through all of this (as he has been throughout 46 years of marriage) woke me in the middle of the night as he was having trouble breathing.  We went to the ER and he was admitted to the hospital.  As part of the testing done he had a CAT scan which showed masses on both kidneys.  After he was discharge he had an US and later an MRI of his abdomen.  They show the kidney masses as well as lesions on his spleen and pancreas.  I thought I was calm and dealing well and that it was "nothing".  I started lurking on this site.  Today I am depressed and realized that I am both devastated and terrified.  We are seeing his urologist on January 3 (his Primary Care Dr wants him to have biopsies and he refuses).  I am hoping the urologist talks him into biopsies and refers him to a renal specialist.  Meanwhile I am terified.  I realized today I have been lurking as I again needed the support I had while going through the BC tx.  I just need to vent and scream somewhere!

 Kat

Kat, you're welcome to vent and scream here any time you need to.  And you know we all understand your fear.  May you find some peace tonight.

Kat,

Sounds like you are both scared, and reacting in your own ways.  His is denial or as Julie said assuming the worst.  How do you normally get him to do things he doesn't want to do?

Hugs to you.  There will be ladies on here tomorrow and they may have more advise for you.

Kat - 

That does sound terrifying. I hope that by the time your husband sees the urologist, he will have had time to absorb this news somehow and be ready for further tests. I hope also that you are able to have a happy and peaceful Christmas and that you get some good news in the new year.

Sandy 

this is the only chhristmas bus i could find. so far    3jays

Flyingdutchess-you poor dear! I can imagine you are just terrified right now. Has you DH said why he refuses biopsies? Perhaps it's as simple as he doesn't want to deal with that kind of stuff during the holidays. He may be as terrified as you are, and he has a good idea of what he's in for if it does turn out to be cancer. We hear you screaming, and are listening. And don't worry about being off topic, every thread has these moments, and in the end that's what we're all here for. Sometimes we just need another excuse to click on a thread.

Annette-I second Riley's comments. At the very least you should call the hospital and file a complaint, for both violations. She has no reason to try to force any treatment on you, and MUST stop when you tell her to. She also has no right to push her religion on you. I am a nursing instructor and teach about spiritual care and the difference between spiritual care and pushing your religion on a patient. What she did was WRONG, legally and ethically, and you could sue the hospital. The hospital needs to know about her ASAP so they can either release her or get her appropriate training.

Dogsaver-oh, boy, what ignorance. I'm always surprised when I hear someone say something like that, that they think that once you get cancer you're immune to all other cancers. And obviously don't know a single thing about rads and the permanent skin damage that it does. I'll hold the person while you smack ‘em.

3jays-LOVE the busses!

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!

Can't remember if I've already mentioned this but: I've been alone for the past 6 Christmases as my DH was driving a cab. This year he isn't working and last week he turned to me and said "What do we do for Christmas?" I said, HUH? He said, "Do I buy you a present or what?" I said, No.

My DH is being a jerk today.  Of all the days in the year, why would he pick this one to be an idiot??  I mean I think they even stop fighting in Iraq on Christmas day for gawd's sake.

 Hope everyone finds peace within this Christmas and know you are loved.

Annete: im glad you took care of that nurse. ive been resp. for " Continuing education" with my nurses with my recent stays, also. i'm always appalled when they come out with that crap!! healers, my butt!

Barbe: what DID you end up doing? im glad you did it together, this year.. whatever "it" was...               3jays

On Christmas day I woke up at 9, went back to bed at 12 and woke up again at 3:30 then back to bed at 8. I had to get up at 4 am so I could open the doors for all the people that line up for TVs at 5 in the morning!!!! No visitors, a nice quiet day....

Apparently,once you go through BC, every woman who is having a biopsy lets you know. Are they looking for the usual "80% are benign?"  Dontcha think I'm the wrong one to be asking for that kind of support?  Or is it the sick "well, you already got it, so statistically, mine must be fine" thing?

Either way, annoying.  It would be nice if folks would let us talk about it WHEN and only WHEN we want to.