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barbe1958, thank you for your reply.  can I ask did you end up with lots of extra skin/fat under your arms. I am a bit worried that I will have all this extra that can be removed... I know I will need to change the way I stand and I want to slim down a bit so I will look ok.  I am not worried about not having any boobs but I do worry that I will look very odd with a flat chest but what looks like boobs under my arms...

I'm a couple years ahead of you I had my DMX in July 08.  I go flat & I love it!  I wore a cami with puffs for about 6 months until I couldn't stand it another day.  I occassionally were bumps, but not very often.  I just have too much pain in my ribs from the radiation & I really don't miss the "over the shoulder boulder holder."

I have just learned to buy different kinds of clothes.  Anyone who didn't know me before wouldn't notice it at all.  I'm not considering reconstruction but may need some scar revision.

Sending love & prayers.  Have a Blessed Christmas. NJ

I'm an an-isser, too...."robin-no-breast"....and I go totally flat 95% of the time!  Seriously   I only wear "bumps" if my outfit needs filling out.  I even wear swimsuits flat!!  I have two bras, two camis that forms will go in, and two different sets of forms - silicone and microbeads.  Hate them all.  I've adapted my wardrode a smidgeon, and I look for "flat" shirts (shirts that hange loosely and will hide the flatness), but sometimes I will wear clinging shirts, not caring in the least that I look flat.  Some of the gals who have been on here for awhile have heard me say this, but my body shape does help a bit - I'm 5'11" and weigh about 130 lbs, so my being on the thinner side does help, but even then, I"m not sure I'd worry about it.

 Of course, I get asked a lot if I'm ever going to reconstruct.  And if I continue to feel this way, I will continue to say NO WAY!!!!  No more surgeries for me....and like you, PHEW, I'm boobless and uterus-less (as of two weeks ago!!)

Keep up the positive attitude...and I tell ya, the gals on BCO *really* helped me through some of my more emotional times when I was second guessing myself....but deep down, I knew I had made the right decision to not reconstruct.

blessings..robin

Kezzie, don't be in a hurry for a cammy for right after surgery. There are special ones for the ladies who reconstruct and they HAVE to wear them. You may glory in having nothing against your skin and wound for a while.....plus the special ones have fluffies in them so you don't feel flat. If you're going to stay flat then why spend the money? I'm just saying....

oy vay, that was not to happen

i wanted to wish a happy day to those with cchristmas in their lives.  good family yimes, good food and great  celebration about booblessness! 

Good info Kezzie, sounds like what you need!

robinibe -- if only there were an invisible intel faierie to tell us what and if we'll need, beforehand!

things!  i bought the cami with pouches that attach with velcro for drainage,  and falsies in case ---cuz doesnt eveyone--wanted them.  found out 3 things  1) fluffies are not just cosmetic.  if i wear something that i do wany wear with a bra....cuz now the other side is feeling like the one that had cancer, i need something to anchor down the flat side.  who knew?    2)  for the the drainage pumps i ended up plutting them in pockts of dresses or shirts that i already had.  placement was perfect and having them on the outside was very convenient.    3)  i need undershirts/camilols that are very titght....i still feel like i have a heavy beast there, AND gotta be silky cuz it irritates my skin.  

and finally, i donated my cami to chemo place.  i have an ugly scar tthat is proof  I had the early chance  and speedy practioners to  surrended a canceous breast, but i dont want "any stinkin badges" to remind me

Good evening ladies,

I had  both breast removed.  The first was a radical, leaving next to nothing as for tissue . . muscle was removed.  The second breast was removed in 1996 by having a modified radical.  Since the first surgery left very little tissue I was not a candidate for reconstruction.  Although the decision wasn't made by me, I was thankful I didn't have to go through more surgeries.  Walking around the house it is  topless time and it feels great.  Twenty years later I have since added more to my waist line, not much but more. So I do wear my fake boobs in public.  I wear the stick to your chest type which I love.  Wearing them helps conceal the tummy.  I have never been ashame of my scars.  It was what I needed to do to borrow more time since I wasn't suppose to  reach the five year mark.  Going in tomorrow to see if a specialist to find out if the cancer has returned or if I have perhaps a new one.  Really would rather be doing anything else but that, LOL

Good luck tomorrow Wonder.....

wonder:  hope nothimg new   for a very polyana comments:  we/YOU know how to do it already.....it sux     you have a zillion women praying (in whatever way they believe)  

brazos  i wass just talking boobie alternatives.  i realize the only reason to have one is to anchor down the cotton camis i have been wearing ....MX , so i still have one side.     i agree with on everything except the sadness part.  for years i felt that i had some elsed breast on my chest...that it did not belong to me!  it was heavy and twice the size of the other and had caused pain and cysts for nearly 3 decades.so, other than having to accodate the lopsided occasinos  which are few and far between.   this may be a temporart euphoria at just getting ride of that alien,  but gotta admit!  i am thrilled to wear strappy things, braless numbers etc.  that part is a big yey!  of courwse there's that pain and drug part, but  at least i got perqs or should i say perkiy!