Deconstructed and Happy about it!

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  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited December 2010

    Hi all,

    Well, for me I am quite concave on the right side, but I was that way before recon on that side. My PS took out all the stretched skin and tried to make a nice smooth flat surface. My cancer was in the chest wall muscle, so I am litterally skin and bones on that side, and I have a small indent at my new scar line on the left side, I feel like as I heal that will fill in. I am very very happy with my decision, I have had a bit of pain this weekend but I was trying to finish up shopping and all for the holidays...my fault! Ya know I wondered if I would have a profound feeling of loss like I did when I had my bilateral, but I did not! What I felt was a great sense of relief! No more healing problems, no more tightness in my chest, no more pushing on my ribs, no more not being able to sleep on my tummy because it just feels weired, no more freezing cold silicone in my body! I just feel like it is all looking up from here. It took me a long time to be happy in my own skin again...and for the 1st time in years I feel free of cancer and all of the crap that comes with it. This last surgery was the 15th for me and I look back thinking WTF? was I crazy? But I will not beat myself up, but look forward to all the great years I have coming with no surgery or anything else in my way! Look out world, here I come! XOXOXOXO

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    Thanks so much for describing your appearance after deconstruction. You give me hope!!! I can't wait for that relief. I'm glad you're not beating yourself up about your choices. I was doing a little bit of that myself when I finally looked back after two years of pain (expansion process was dreadful, too) and it made me wonder why I chose to reconstruct. I reminded myself I made difficult decisions during a stressful and scary time and did the best I could. If I hadn't done the recon, I might always wonder if I should. And I know I tried all I could to make the recon work but my body just didn't want it. So I'm letting my body call the shots since feeling healthy is the most important thing.

    Feeling happy in your own skin again . . what a gift!! So glad to hear you are feeling good physically and emotionally, HairSprayMom. Thank you again for starting this thread and sharing. The best to you!! Hugs!

    Tina 

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited December 2010

    Tina -- I had capsular contracture twice in my reconstructed breast (one is natural).  The first implant was replaced last December and the second one was removed a couple of months ago.  Since that surgery I've had some post surgical issues -- a hematoma that required another surgery and a seroma that got infected, but am now healing nicely.  Even with all the surgeries and the radiated, stretched skin on this one side, it is beginning to look pretty flat and tidy.  There is no extra, loose skin and only one small concave spot that may look different as time goes by.  The left side of my chest honestly looks and feels so much better than the contracted implants ever looked or felt.  I do have a lot of scar tissue forming again, and am not sure what to do about that.  Nothing for now is the plan. 

    Hairspraymom -- I love your attitude and am so glad to know you are happy and feeling good about your decision to be deconstructed!!

  • Estel
    Estel Member Posts: 3,353
    edited December 2010

    Thank you for posting what you look like.  All the stuff you have to read before you get the implants kind of led me to believe that you would have a bunch of loose skin if you ever had to be de-constructed.  I really appreciate knowing that you all look so good.  I hope things continue to heal well.  Relieved for you!  It shouldn't be this hard ...

    Take care, ladies!

    Much to love to you, peace and healing!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    BonnieK, your comment is another ray of hope! Glad to know your newly flat side looks better than it did with the CC. You must be thrilled. Hope everything continues to heal well and becomes even more flat and tidy. When you say you have a lot of scar tissue forming again, can you tell me about that? I know some of us tend to scar more than others, but I'm curious about where it is, how it feels, looks, etc. 

    I didn't have rads or chemo, so I'm hoping my body is just rejecting the implants. The strange thing about the CC, is that my mastectomy scars have practically disappeared! My scarring is the capsule itself, or perhaps the capsule has adhered to the pectoral or serratus muscle or to the chest wall. I have had myofascial release therapy and found it helped break down the scarring quite a bit. It didn't work as well on the capsule itself, but it did on the areas surrounding the implant, and esp. my back, neck and shoulders. I'm hoping I won't need it any more after the implants are gone. However, I've talked with my therapist, and I definitely would have to wait at least six weeks if I did want him to work on me post surgery. 

    Thanks again for sharing, as it continues to buoy my spirits and makes me eager to have this over with. Now if it weren't for this damn lymphedema, I'd probably have the surgery scheduled already. Need to interview PS's first and then I can get going. 

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited December 2010

    Hopefully I will get my drain tube pulled tomorrow. Woo Hoo for being DONE!!! Merry Christmas to everyone!

    XOXOXO

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    Drain pull and being done - the best Christmas gift!! So happy for you. 

    All I want for Christmas is to be deconstructed and feel good! They weren't kidding when they said if you have your health, you have everything! 

    Best wishes to all! 

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited December 2010

    There is a picture of my contracture on the pic forum -- it's not pretty.  At that point I had a lot of very hard scar tissue on the side toward my armpit.  Now that the implant has been removed, the whole area where the implant was has become hard and tight, but my incision is still seeping so it's too soon for PT.  Hope that helps.

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited December 2010

    Dear HairSprayMom and others

    How long did it take you deconstruction surgery and recovery.  I have had two expander's on my right side removed and the last was taken out due to incision not healing and a whole in the skin that exposed the expander.  I did have a bilateral mastectomy and the left side has had no problems but still has the expander in.  I am not considering anymore reconstruction on the right side and want the expander out now on my left to be fully flat.  When they took out the last expander it was an outpatient surgery and recovery was a few days until I felt up to going to work.  So basically it was from Tuesday (surgery day) to Monday (return to work).  I did see the PS on the Monday I returned to work and he took out the two drains I had in.  I see him on the 19th to tell him about my decision but was getting an idea of what your deconstruction time/recovery took?  I am anticipating my time off work.  I still have radiation on my right side to start so I am thinking I will not be ready until mid May.  Do they tighten the skin or keep it a little loose?  Poking for information.  I have just made this decision after lengthy conversation with PH.  He has been so great, he just wants me healthy and happy, love him to bits.

    My deconstruction may fall around the 1st anniversary of my mastectomy on May 11th.

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited December 2010

    I had my implant out on a Monday and was back at work on Wednesday of the same week. I did have someone drive me to and from for the 1st week. I had to keep my drain for 2 weeks and just got it out yesterday...Wheew. My PS removed all of the stretched skin and made me a nice smooth chest. I had the exact same healing problems, incision either opening up or just never healing and expander and then implant showing through. I had the bad side removed and then gave myself 6 months to heal and then did the other side 2 weeks ago. My DH felt the same way, he just wanted me to feel better and be healthy. Heck I barely had nipples before all of this...LOL I got my 1st look at everything yesterday after my 1st drain free shower, and it doesn't look bad. Like I said before there was NO feeling of loss as there was with my MX, just astounding relief to know I am finally done! Since 2007 I have been either in active treatment or trying to get reconstructed, 2011 is gonna be a surgery free year dang it! If you have any other questions just let me and the other ladies know, I am sure between us all there is nothing we can't cover! XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    That's interesting about having drains. I didn't have them when the PS did the exchange surgery. I lived with drains after the MX, so I can do it again if necessary.

    Bonnie - I tried to find your pic of CC on the photo forum but could not. Do you have a different username over there? I hope your incision continues to heal and stops seeping. 

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited December 2010

    I have had drains several times during recon and decon...I had 2 with my MX, I had 4 when I had my expanders placed. I had a weired little test tube drain once when he was trying to repair where my incision kept opening up, Then I had a drain when I had each implant removed. I did not get drains when I had my exchange surgery either, which completely surprised me. My PS is the king of drains! LOL Love to you all!!! XOXO

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited December 2010

    Thanks HairSprayMom for your story and encouragement.  Had my 3 month L Dex check up with Nurse Debbie and all good no signs of limphadema appearing.  Explained my situation since last  saw her and she completely understands.  She is a breast cancer survivor (lumpectomy) but has seen it all.  She said just think of your health and quality of life.  Upward and onward no looking back.

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited December 2010

    That is my philosophy! Not looking back, just pushing forward to a better 2011! Happy New Year to all of my BC Sisters! XOXO

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited July 2011

    I am joining the club as well this Thursday and I couldn't be happier about my decision! After 22 months and 4 surgeries....it's time to throw in the towel!! I can't wait to get my life back!

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited July 2011

    Bonnie,

    Can you tell me about the scar tissue you have forming again? I am deconstructing tomorrow and it can't be soon enough. I've had alot of issues with scar tissue and it concerns me that I could feel worse if that is possible?

  • shippy41
    shippy41 Member Posts: 49
    edited July 2011

    hi i am not sure if this will help you but i was deconstructed 5 weeks ago and i feel great. my chest feels light and i am really liking the flat look. it makes me look younger and thinner. I formed a lot of scar tissue with my implants but so far the chest is doing great. i hope you will be as happy with your results as i am. , i bet you will find that your recovery will be so much easier than when the implants were placed. i didnt even have to use any pain meds beyond a couple of tylenols. you are in my prayers.

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited July 2011

    Thanks for your prayers! As the time gets closer, even though most of what I've read on this forum has been positive results, I'm getting nervous! I also formed alot of scar tissue and am feeling afraid that this discomfort could get worse, although I don't know how!!

    Why did you choose to deconstruct?

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited July 2011

    For all you ladies out there, I feel sooo good now. It has been 7 months since my last surgery and I can honestly say I FEEL GOOD for the 1st time in years. I do have a good bit of scar tissue too, which is sometimes uncomfortable, but nothing compared with how I felt all the time before. After surgery this last time I went and got bras and prostetics, but I only wore them one time! I just go flat and I have found busy cloths and a gathered neck line really draw attention away from the fact that I am totally flat. It's just too hot in Alabama for sweaty prostetics. LOL After my surgery I healed up completely for the 1st time in 3 yrs, my chest feels great, I can sleep on my side, I can hold my daughter, life is good! So just know that for me this was the miracle surgery I was looking for...just to be deconstructed and healthy and happy with no open unhealed places on my body! Sending love love love to you all and I sure hope it makes your life better, just as it did mine. XO

  • bevb
    bevb Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2011

    Hi Ladies!

    I am new to the forum but am thinking of deconstructing. I have had chronic pain from the expanders and it has effected my mental health as well.  I go to my PS on August 23 and want the expanders OUT! How much physical therapy did you all have?  Any first time lymphedema from removal of expanders?  Do you prefer the flat look? For those that wear a prosthesis, how long was it before you could wear one without pain?  How long before driving?  Sorry to ask so many questions, but I've been looking for others like me for soooo long!  You all give me so much hope. The hope of a full, normal, happy, pain free life- sweetest hope of all!!!

  • HairSprayMom
    HairSprayMom Member Posts: 251
    edited August 2011

    Hi bevb,

    I had no physical therapy and once the expanders were out the pain relief was IMMEDIATE. I had no problem with Lymphodema after romoveal and I had expanders, about 6 surgeries to save expanders and 2 sets of implants (none of which worked or that my body would not reject). I drove after 1 week...as soon as I was off pain meds. I found the flat look is good for me, I was just really uncomfortable in the bras and prostetics and I had already been uncomfortable enough. I was able to get fitted for and wear my pros and bras after about 2-3 weeks after surgery...or as quickly as you heal. You just ask as many questions as you like too...we are girls so it is all good! LOL Sending Love!!!

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited August 2011

    Hi BevB,

    My tissue expander phase was cut short due to an infection that had developed in my right breast. My PS moved the exchange up in order to salvage the process. I have had 4 surgeries total, two sets of implants and like hairspraymom, my body just wasn't happy!! I gave it 22 months and the "old college try" but just decided comfort was way more important than anything. In addition to 4 surgeries, I had PT at 2 different times and also tried holistic medicine. So far, with the exception of some numbness/pain under my right armpit, deconstruction recovery has been great! Hoping to get the drains out tomorrow. I've not decided yet on the flat look or whether I will do prostetics. Right now, I am enjoying not wearing the "iron bra." I have visited a Iocal prostetic store and they don't fit you until you are totally healed because of swelling, etc that will change. Everybody heals differently but I was told to wait at least 4 weeks. Hope this helps you and continue to ask questions!! The information that I have received from personal experiences on this website has been way more helpful than any of my doctors!

  • bevb
    bevb Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2011

    Thank you mlp and hairspray mom!  After feeling like a failure because I'm having so much trouble, it's wonderful to talk with others that have had probs.. It's so frustrating trying to find others that are experiencing the same things you are. And I agree with mlp, I've gained more from the discussion boards than from my docs!  I've got three more weeks until my appointment. The thought of being free from pain is so wonderful, and I haven't had near the problems that you all have had. Guess it wasn't meant to be for me. Much love to all who have taken time to share their stories- keep 'em coming!

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited August 2011

    Bev - don't feel like a failure!! I know what you are saying because every time I leave my PS's office, I'm in tears thinking I can't deal with pain and none of his other patients complain. I really think there is something wrong with me until I come here to this website! You are NOT alone!

  • bevb
    bevb Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2011

    I will keep you all in my prayers and hope that I have a successful deconstruction, too. I go to the onc today so am nervous as a cat!! But you all know the feeling well.  Also sore from physical therapy to prevent frozen shoulder, another unpleasant side effect of the pain from the tissue expanders.  Hopefully I will come through this with grace and humor as I have seen so many times on this message board.

  • mlp730
    mlp730 Member Posts: 89
    edited August 2011

    Bev - you will do fine I'm sure. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and know that you are not alone in this journey! There is light at the end of the tunnel!

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