The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

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  • LadyinBama
    LadyinBama Member Posts: 1,132
    edited December 2010

    At our church Christmas party Saturday, my pastor said "now that it's over, aren't you glad you've gone through all this?" and I said "no...." and he says "but you know you are strong and you can get through it" and I said "no...."  Geez, I never doubted my strength, or my gratitude, or my appreciation for life or any of the other things that cancer supposedly teaches us. And nothing is "over" except that I had my final chemo last week.

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  • leaf
    leaf Member Posts: 8,188
    edited December 2010

    LadyinBama:  I'm so proud of you that you were totally honest!  Maybe he'll think twice next time....maybe?

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  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited December 2010

    LadyinBama--next time your see your pastor ask him, for me, what was so bad about us BEFORE bc that such a horrible disease and treatment makes us better?  Ye gads, I HATE that line.  Good for you for being honest. 

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    So after finally realizing that my BF was really not a friend at all (MIA during treatment, a multitude of insensitive and uncaring comments and just overall borderline abusive treatment) I tossed her sorry ass under the bus last August.  Today I get an e-mail from her saying that I have been telling all the neighbors (she lives two doors down) that she is the one that stopped talking to me.  (Which I hadn't.)  She asked if I would stop telling lies about her.  WTH?  Some frickin' people just won't stay under the damn bus!

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  • riley702
    riley702 Member Posts: 1,600
    edited December 2010

    Back up and get her again!!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    riley- LOL!  Thanks- I needed that!

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  • o2bhealthy
    o2bhealthy Member Posts: 2,101
    edited December 2010

    {{{{BAMA}}}}  Congrates on finishing chemo and for telling it like it is...

    I really liked who I was before BC and don't see how 'it' made me a better person Undecided

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  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited December 2010

    What is with that parson?  Does he need cancer in order to appreciate life?  Doof.

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  • molly52
    molly52 Member Posts: 389
    edited December 2010

    Kate33 - use your delete button and put her on your spam list.  Anybody who has issues and communicates them through email just isn't worth a reply.

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  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited December 2010

    Lady in Bama you spoke for all of us. I was just coming out of a major 3 year depression whn I was diagnosed. I definitely did not need cancer to improve me in any way.

     Thank You Bama

     Ginger

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited December 2010
    will they ALL fit under this one??   3jays
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  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited December 2010

    If not, then we need to invest in a FLEET of them!!!

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited December 2010
    thats better...love ya all, ladies    3jays
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    When I told my DH about the ex-friend e-mailing him he said, "Didn't you throw her under the bus a long time ago?"  Now I've got him saying it!  LOL!  

    molly- Good idea!!! 

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  • LadyinBama
    LadyinBama Member Posts: 1,132
    edited December 2010

    You are all welcome ladies. I was a 'tell it like it is' person before BC and that certainly hasn't changed!

    The day after the party, a lady from church brought me a pink Tshirt from a BC fundraiser her office had done. I'm going to have to dedicate a room in my house for all the pink stuff people have given me since my diagnosis, and I don't even like pink. Sigh ... I know they mean well, but I feel like I've become their personal trash bins for all the pink BC stuff they accumulated in October.

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  • Shrek4
    Shrek4 Member Posts: 1,822
    edited December 2010

    Ha! you're nice! I refuse any pink gift, no matter who gives it to me, and I am quite nasty about it. My reasoning is - All my friends and acquaintances know I hate pink, and I hate Pinktober. If they give me a pink gift that means that they don't give a rat's turd about how I feel about it, thus they aren't real friends, and they give me the present just to feel good about themselves. So why would I spare their feelings in this respect?

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    It definitely did not make me a better person. It has made me into a monster.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

     Wish we could all get together and have one big flaming pink bonfire!  

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  • CandyB
    CandyB Member Posts: 63
    edited December 2010

    Hadley - I'll drive you for your appt. on Jan. 4th!  Send me a PM with the time of your appointment.  My work schedule is somewhat flexible.  A friend took the whole day off to drive me to my nipple reconstruction surgery.  I want to pass it on.  Forget the family!  Who needs 'em?

    I'm serious.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2010

    When I was diagnosed I told everyone:

    I am NOT a victim

    Do NOT pity me

    I do NOT do pink

    Seems they've listened........

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  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,429
    edited December 2010

    not directly about me, but did everyone hear what the nutjob pastor of Wetboro church said about Elizabeth Edwards' cancer being "God's punishment"? If his God issues such punishment I fear for his soul.

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  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 5,065
    edited December 2010

    What scares me about that preacher--I can't bring myself to call him a pastor--is that he has gathered so many followers and the funds to demonstrate at so many military funerals.

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  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited December 2010

    barbe--I did much the same thing--I loudly and clearly stated "NO PINK ANYTHING--I AM NOT GOING TO BE A BILLBOARD FOR BREAST CANCER"

    I've only gotten one pink item, from a friend at church who didn't know I had said the above.  It's a pink flower bc ribbon, looks handmade.  It's hanging up on the outside door where I almost never see it.  Some people have worn pink duirng an event in my honor, which was ok.  

    I also do not go to any of the cancer "celebration" activities that go on during the year.  I am NOT a diagnosis, and I refuse to let this diagnosis rule my life!  

    OK, sorry for the rant.  I've been on edge all day for some reason, and this just set me off.  

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  • LadyinBama
    LadyinBama Member Posts: 1,132
    edited December 2010

    AStorm: Yes, I read it. Did you see the flier they printed when they were saying they were going to protest at her funeral? I'm glad they didn't go through with it, or if they did, it was such a small contingent that it didn't draw any attention because I haven't heard anymore about it. That man is pure evil and crazy to boot.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    I read they were trying to organize a human circle around the church where the funeral was to keep out the protestors.  Not sure if it happened or not but I would have liked to seen that!

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  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,429
    edited December 2010

    he'd better not show himself at a bc event, that's all I can say...

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  • LtotheK
    LtotheK Member Posts: 2,095
    edited December 2010

    There is one cool thing about a life-threatening illness:  it does give you perspective on which of your friends are chumps.  In my world, I had two.  They are going on the C list.  If I need something from them, great, otherwise, I just spared myself hours of boring conversations about grandkids!

    Get that bus, 3jaysmom!!

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2010

    I was surprised that people came to me and expected me to be going to the run with a cure races and all sorts of benefits. Why would I? I already won the prize!

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  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,971
    edited December 2010

    Oh Kate, that is just one of those adding insults to injury. I'm so sorry! But I'm even sorrier she lives so close!!!

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  • webu
    webu Member Posts: 87
    edited December 2010

    I love reading these posts!  My father has worn hairpieces forever ( he looks silly, but he doesn't know it) Less than a week after my diagnosis, he called me and told me he had talked to "his wig lady" about me and that she would take care of me and make me a beautiful wig. I know he meant well, but this was waaaay too soon! He called me again last week and asked why I hadn't called her yet. I finally had to tell him to back off. He doesn't know that behind his back the rest of the family refers to his toupee as "the pelt".

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