Calling all ladies in their 20's

LibraryJenn-

Good luck with the potty training! My son is now 3 (halloween birhtday) he's been potty trained fully for about 3 months now- feel free to ask any questions also have a 5 yr old daughter but she was SO MUCH EASIER to potty train! Boys can be stubborn!

I'M DONE WITH CHEMO!  happy hanukah!

i would be happy but just heard that my friend killed himself this morning.  its so hard to deal with this when i am fighting for my life and he chose to take his...

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shiramg - really sorry to hear about your friend...its difficult to understand peoples inner turmoil, I guess you never know whats going on in peoples' heads...

Katiaw - I had TC x 4 last year, its not the worst, hope you get through it ok!

did anyone lose their eyebrows AFTER chemo?  my hair started growing back and i was so excited but now its seems my brows are disappearing.

Shiramg - Yes, my eyebrows thinned ++ AFTER chemo.  I didnt completely lose them, but almost a year later, they are still REALLY thin.  I have to use an eyebrow pencil every day to give them some definition and colour.  If I dont, it looks like I dont have any!!  Luckily, I kept my eyelashes...!

Skkydiamond, I know there is a 'Ladies in their 30's' thread that seems quite active also

girls,

i feel extremely out of sorts.  i'm done with chemo and i don't start hormonal treatments until jan.  i thought that i would be so happy after chemo, like ready to get back to the real world, but instead i find myself crazy hormonal/emotional.  i'm getting so upset and frustrated and pissed off and its freaking me out. 

is this normal?

i'm not happy the way i thought i'd be.

mel, i feel like i'm about to end my year and a half relationship due to my mood swings.  i have been wanting more time alone and its really sad bc we were suppossed to move in together in march.  i secretly called my broker and just extended my lease...i feel like  monster.

have you started tamoxfien yet?  i'm so nervous about how i'll feel on both tamoxifen AND zoladex.  

i'm very nervous about losing my sex drive.  so far i have it in full (even during chemo).  is it the tamoxifen that makes you lose it or the zoladex or what?

congrats on period.  i got mine during my last chemo which was crazy.

i don't know what makes you lose it...i was totally fine during chemo. but now i just don't even really care that much...it sucks. but i'm an emotional wreck these days, so it might not really be the tamoxifen. i'm going to talk with a counselor who specializes in it next week...

NannyBaby- i'm not sure what the proceedure would be for removing the new lump, but i'm assuming that they should be able to do something with it while you are in surgery - that would make the most sense!

keep the good spirits up nannababy... us ladies need to stick together!! are you getting reconstruction done?

It's not bad when they change the bandages. It feels more weird just because you don't have much sensation left, so you just feel this weird pressure. The drains were the worst part for me, but I had 4. If I moved the wrong way, those are the things that stung me.

texasrose, isn't it odd hearing things that people say now? at my job when i told them i would be taking LOA while on chemo, one of the associate coordinators (scheduler and sort of hr, without the degree), says to me, "you don't need to take 26 weeks off, you are stronger than you give yourself credit for, all you need to do is go down to part time" i looked at her and said "have you ever had cancer?" she says "well,, no but your young, and strong, you can handle it" i said "shut the hell up!" went to my store manager and complained like the dickens. apparentlt she got into trouble for even muttering that out of her mouth.

if it were a desk job, maybe i could work 4 days out of the cycle  (DD AC and 12 weeks of T) but i work retail, in a home depot, walking, lifting, pushing, pulling, PEOPLE, KIDS, TOUCHING EVERYTHING!

i swear that comment has been burned in my mind. especially i just had my second treatment yesterday and feel like utter crap today!

Hi ladies. I'm new to the site and am kinda jumping in the middle of this thread..hope ya don't mind.

 Long story still kinda long: I'm 24, (turning 25 on 1/6), single, no children and am officially boobless. Before my diagnosis I was living in another city, found a job I loved after graduating college and stayed there for about a year. After a few run ins with a less than appreciative boss, I broke my lease/quit my job, and moved back home. Luckily, with the new health care policies, my mother was able to put me on her insurance immediately since I'm under 26. (Amen!) I noticed a small lump in my right breast and thought it fate that I had my yearly scheduled already within the next few weeks. Conclusion: Mammogram---> Ultrasound---> Needle Biopsy = Cancer.

 So, here we are, two unsuccessful lumpectomies later and I am now recovering from a bilateral mastectomy w/ TE (12/7). Oh yeah, plus the Port which was THE MOST painful recovery ever. I went back to the surgeon and all but begged them to take it back out. (moment of weakness) But overall, me and my tiny rib cage are hanging in there with the expansion process, I'm only two fills in but the expander is only 250 cc b/c the PS said my rib cage was surprisingly small so he had to go w/ a smaller TE than planned.

 I'm starting chemo on the 10th so although I will be celebrating the big 25 slightly smaller, ok I'm lying...very much smaller than before, my silver lining is that at least I will still have my hair. I would be lying if I said I wasn't nervous about the chemo. I am not the type to sit home and I still have a pretty full social calendar   I've read a few posters mention that you kinda get into a routine a few days in after your chemo rounds and can somewhat predict what days will be worse than others. Hopefully this is true b/c so far I have been able to take it all in stride and not let this rule my life. All I can recall as far as my chemo regimen (it's all a blur now) is that one combo will be once a week every other week for four rounds, and the next combo is once weekly for 12 wks. No radiation and then implant surgery after chemo.

 Any words of advice is much appreciated. I know there are boards specifically for chemo and TE and all the other parts to this thing,  but I'm hoping to find my own little place with my younger sisters in this.

hdangelbaby, I had a similar experience at my job. My co workers generally have been more than supportive and generous through this process but I almost lost it a few weeks ago. Once I came back from leave after my mastectomy, I was speaking with a prospect when he mentioned, "So, what kind of surgery did you have?" As you can imagine, my jaw dropped. This stranger, who had just walked into the office 10 minutes ago is asking about my medical history. Apparently, while I had stepped away, my boss was making small talk with him and I guess she mentioned that it was my first day back in the office and yadda yadda yadda...inappropriate! I matter of factly told him that was none of his business and tried to hold my composure the rest of the day. I guess this is just a test of my patience...