The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

Barbe-I agree, she is pathological. After being totally appalled and angry for a while I actually find it sort of funny, in a pathetic way. I'm also transferring her to another instructor next semester. She'll be mad since she'll have to drive further, but she wants a more competent instructor, so she's getting one, so there!

Sas-great response! I have been soo tempted to flash my scared, reconstructed chest when asked to donate "to the cure." I've donated enough, and none of that money was available to help me when I was wiped out by treatment costs. One day I'll get pushed just a little bit too far, and then someone is in for a show! The student called the admin assistant, who gave her quite and earful right back! Nothing in my file. Student comments don't go into the file unless the student signs the evaluation form, and this gal doesn't do that. The instructor I'm transferring her to doesn't put up with any nonsense, rarely gives extensions and then only for the most extreme situations and only for a few days, and answers almost every "I need to be treated differently" complaint with "and what are you going to do when you are licensed? Grow up and act like a professional." Wish I could see the look on her face the first time she doesn't get out something!

Boatergrl-why do people feel it's ok to comment on someone's weight, heavy or light? It's really none of their business! I don't get many comments like that anymore. I respond to such comments with "Why do you suppose a compassionate person would say something like that? Oh, I'm probably asking the wrong person that question." Some get it right away, some not until later.

Cat-holy cow, what nerve! Next time your chef friend calls, tell her that you'd be glad for the food since the chemo bills have left you with no grocery money, and how kind of her to help you out with a food donation. I'm betting she never shows up!

ok, so we go to a social thing almost weekly, and ive ended up with a group of younger girls i mentor, for lack of a better word.. one of them is dressing inappropriately, and has low cut sirts, bras' showing thru, etc. 

   so, pulling her aside, i tell her if she wants o attract the Right kind of man, she needs to cover up a little, and let him guess some.. so, as we're walking back, she tells me "just because you had yOUR tits cut off doesn't mean i have to hide mine..for all 20 of us to hear!!

   im not a cryer, but i busted into tears, and everyone was aghast..it was real quiet for awhike, and we left shortly after that..needless to say, i won't be working with HER anymore!!      3jays

how insensitive of the "B"

Well now, if she wants to attract the right man, she will have to keep her mouth closed also.

3jays - hahahahahaha that bus picture hahahahahah 

3jays-you got it right-if it has cancer in the name it is CANCER. It's not pre-anything, except maybe metastatic cancer. And good for you for not letting people babble out the stories that will be hurtful to your or you teens. As far as the girl's comments about getting "YOUR tits cut off" as hard as that situation had to be for you, I'm glad you didn't hide your feelings. If she's a teen it's time she learned that there are consequences to her actions and not all consequences are going to be about bolstering HER self esteem. I just hope she realizes why you won't be working with her anymore. And the graphic is GREAT!!!! Where did you find it????

Granny-I have often said, hear and to my friends, that I resent the idea that having bc changed me, especially for the better. It implies I was not a decent person before diagnosis. But your post has shown me that I have changed, and for the better-by being LESS TOLERANT OF STUPIDITY AND INSENSITIVITY! Thanks for pointing that out!

Love it!

Love the bus, and thank goodness, it doesn't have a pink ribbon on it!

So here's a bit of a story - today I had my eyes tested and was looking for a pair of frames.  I was getting a bit grouchy as cancer is so darn expensive, even though I live in Canada I have the constant 6 hour round trips to Onc. etc. and to lymphedema clinic.  Anyway, the lady there offers to help and I thought, 'Oh good'.  She then procedes to ask what was wrong with my arm (when she saw my sleeve and glove).  Now, I get this question all the time and am getting tired of it.  I gave her the usual response and said it was a complication of surgery (Thanks to someone posting that on breastcancer.org!), but she wouldn't leave it alone.  She asked if I had carpel tunnel syndrome, and I said, 'No.  It's a complication of surgery'.  She gave me a funny look, and started to ask again. Now, remember I was grouchy enough as it was because my glasses always cost a min. of $750., I looked her in the eye and said...'Breast Cancer.  It's a complication of Breast Cancer.'  She said, 'Oh' and walked away, so I proceeded to walk out of the store and took me and my Dh's business elsewhere.  Ughh.  Tomorrow will be a better day.

 THANKS Nativemainer and Chabba...She is about to be thrown under the BUS!!!! TOO!!! Cat

I was 48 after my mastectomy, and discussed with my GP some fears and concerns that I had about resuming sex with my husband after surgery; my doctor (who is ordinarily an extremely sensitive guy) asked with raised eyebrows "Well...did you have a very vigorous sex life BEFORE your surgery?"

I love the "I already gave til it hurt" line...I will be using that for sure.

Kind of inappropriate for someone who works in an imaging department that looks for breast cancer!