The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

Most days I wake up and don't even want to get on the bus, let alone have to decide who will come with me. 

I'm still driving but I keep hitting pot holes! Maybe I need bigger tires.

CandyB I am sooooo sorry.  I think I would have been hard pressed not to push her face in the guacamole.

My original (and quickly fired) BS is the one that told me that many of her patients have told her that BC made them a better person by showing them how strong they can be.  I looked at her like she was insane and told her, "Through multiple life experiences that I didn't ask for I already know how strong I am.  I don't need my breasts cut off to prove it."  That was the last time I saw her- she went under the train with the rest of them.

CandyB- Pretty much sums up- with friends like that you don't need enemies!  I'm assuming this wretched soul doesn't have children of her own? 

The worst thing for me is not what people is saying to me, but how they avoided me.

When the rumor at my work started to go around about that I had cancer, people started to act really weird against me.

People who normally would smile and say "Hi" and guys that used to flirt with me or make a funny comment starting to look the other way around as soon as we met in the kitchen or in the hallway.

I told our HR person about this and I think she might have said something because now I'm getting the smiles and "Hello's: again.

Now more flirting though 

InTwoPlaces- I agree with you.  It was the people that avoided me that hurt worse than the ones that were just innocently clueless.  At least those people bothered to show up.  For the past year I felt like I was in a prisoner of war camp and was only just released.

Finally had my first Gyn appt since my diagnosis and mastectomy.  And, considering I am thinkking they want to do a breast exam and I haven't even told them yet of my mast.....I am more than a little nervous.  Sure, everyone and their brother has seen my breasts during and post surgery...but they were all affilitated with my BS and PS.  So, it is going pretty well and the doc says he is sorry and all of that....says no need to do breast exam as normally BC patients are so closely followed by their BS.  But, then he has the add somewhere in the conversation that DCIS is really a pre-cancer.  That sure made me feel better about having my right boob lopped off! 

I wish doctors would stop saying that..........arrrrgggghhhhh

i went for my yearly gyno check dr went to do breast exam and say:: oh notheing there < i shoulda ask if that means i get charged half price,

Yesterday I was talking with the office manager at the school where I teach nursing.  She told me that one of my clinical students called her last summer to complain that I wasn't doing a good enough job.  One of the examples the student gave was that I "made up" the bc diagosis and the things I was going through last semester (I was setting up for reconstruction done in June).  She thinks I made all this up?  The student was upset that I didn't take her problems seriously--her mother became ill and died and I gave her time off without having her make it up, her father broke his hip, moved from Fla to Maine so she could take care of him then moved back to Fla where the rest of the family accused her of kidnapping him, during which I gave her several assignment extensions and let her use resources normally not allowed.  But I "made up" having had bc and planning a reconstruction.  I am so furious.  I wasn't hiding the diagnosis or the process I was going through, but I kept it as peripheral as possible.  I did have to reschedule a couple of things due to medical appointments.  Did she really think I was making multiple trips to Boston for the fun of it?  OK, so going to Boston for the day for shopping, a ball game, a show or something is a common activity around here, but I came back with bruises from needle sticks, reports of appointments and genetic testing counseling and things like that.  I didn't exactly come back with new clothes or a Red Sox pennant.  This from a woman with adult children, elderly parents, and only one semester from graduating as a nurse.  Right now I am hoping she fails this semester's class, big time.  Or that she doesn't pass next semester.  Or that she doesn't ever pass the state boards and get licensed.  Or that she can find a nursing job that doesn't require interacting with human people.  Arrgghh. Not a very Chirstian attitude, I realize, but I'm working on that.  

I posted this to PUBlX  contact site the text is self explanatory. Too many company's are doing this. Next year they will get the surprize I stated .-----to Publix ---I may have already sent this, but here it is for a first or second time. When paying my bill I was asked to contribute to X ---could have been for breast cancer --whatever. It was with earshot of everyone around me. If i said no I'm "selfish". Well I had breast cancer last year and my husband had lymphoma and he has died in August. I was pissed. I went to the manager and said well instead of collecting money at the register, how about you paying my bills for cancer. he was an idiot. "don't you see we want to help everyone". Paraphrase only. When you ask for a donation at the counter you have NO NO NO NO idea what that individual is going through. You have just jumped on some national bandwagon. Sounds good sitting around a corporate table. I can't remember if I new my husband was dying or I had just lost him. I should have just flashed my fake boobs and said ----no I have already given, and my husband is dying. As corporate your convinced ---awhhh good public relations. To the cancer patient going through it, that has lost their savings, perhaps livelihood, and may be terminal what you have caused is pain beyond belief. I cried all the way home. Please , do not ask at check out. for a donation. I have made a decision if it happens next October I will flash my fake boobs with all the scars. Hopefully then I would be arrested. AND we can debate your insensitivity and my flashing of what is not real, but created instead of real. Too many of PINK supporters have not actually experienced breast cancer. I am active on a national organization site. The site may support PINK. Far and away the discussion board members hate it because it only reminds them of what they have been through. Let each of us do our own thing. Don't ask me for a donation at the register. Our dollars are stretched far enough. End of email

Bollocks them. Great english term. Here a different word would be censored. 

So far I've heard the comments about getting a great pair of boobs out of the process. One person at my office told me he was thinking about my boobs last night which I guess was his way of saying he was thinking about me.  Right before my biopsy I was told a story about a woman younger than me who died of b/c and left behind 3 young children ( I have a 5 year old).  The person told me that the poor woman's youngest child doesn't even remember her mommy anymore!  YIKES!  That was exactly what I wanted to hear!

But now I keep hearing people commenting on my weight.  I'm a small person to begin with and stress really knocks out my appetite.  People seems to feel free to tell me they have heard I've lost weight. One person even grabbed my face and said something about how drawn my face looks!  And this was on a day when I was feeling pretty good and had made an effort to dress up, do my make-up and hair, etc.  I told her I was trying to go for the emaciated model look!  I don't know yet if I'll be doing chemo but I can't wait to hear the comments if I do!

Well Ladies Glad to see I'm not the only one with insensitive friends...my friend who is a personal chef has been asking me to come over so she can cook me some soups and foods for chemo week, well as it turned out I was not feeling well and canceled on her days before, the last time she responded that I sounded fine on my message... so she said she would go ahead and cook for me and bring it over, I could not talk her out of it... she shows up with too much food and then gives me a bill for the groceries...I had no cash so she follows me around as I look for my checkbook, I WAS LIVID, the bill was 20.00  and told me when the food runs out she will make me more,NO WAY ,I think she is forcing me to be her client not something I would do to her if she had CANCER ARGGG!!!!!!Cat

Chabba,BRILLIANT!!! I Love it...You tottaly got it! I may even do just that to teach her a lesson...Got a good laugh out of your answer, BLESS YOU,Cat

I thought this was pretty good

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2010/12/hitchens-201012